Droopy wrote:Ahh, so are you and semi-logo in cahoots on this? I reported him to the mods at the MADboard when he came forward with this same accusation (a classic of the homosexual lobby and intelligentsia when cornered by their own inability to actually rationally defend their position on this issue) and he was given a few days off. I'd do there now here, as well, were this place to have similar standards.
My feeling that you are probably a closeted gay man,
Droop, has a long history predating
Semlogo’s recent implication of that idea over on MAD. I would have a hard time believing that it comes as any surprise to you, given the fact that you and I have discussed the issue before. My belief that you may be gay has little to do with any notion that my ideas refuting your beliefs about gay marriage are indefensible, though it appears you are attempting to frame the discussion as if that is the only remaining leg that my views have to stand on.
In fact, quite the opposite is true—as
Darth J and others have pointed out, I don’t believe your assertions of victory are illustrative of the flaws in your arguments. One should not mistake my belief in your same-sex attraction as an inability on my part to refute them.
Rather, in the context of previous discussions on the matter, I have asked you, point blank, if you have or have ever “struggled with same-sex attraction,” and you have continued to ignore and deflect the question in literally
every instance that specific query is posed to you. As I said, previously—I give you a lot of credit for having a sense of integrity enough to at least have avoided denying what appears to me to be the case.
(Incidentally, I would presume that any reply you may offer to this post will likely continue to avoid directly answering the issue of the question).
I do not press the issue over at MAD because it’s clear that moderators over view the insinuation that any poster could be gay as a personal attack of some kind—a reality which is supported by their censure of
Semlogo after his candid answer to your question. Ironically, you seem to be aware of the protected status of such interchanges over there, and apparently (in your post, to me, here), lament what you to be a gross violation of decorum in being called out on the possibility of being a closeted gay man. And yet it was you who‘s questions knowingly goaded
Semlogo into bluntly stating what was clearly his opinion about your sexuality—and your responses in that same thread continued to attempt to lure me into stating the same—
despite the blatant fact that the Mods had already clearly threatened me with banishment if I continued to pursue that tangential thread (and which ultimately led to your own banishment in that same thread over on MAD).
Yet here, you bemoan the fact that you cannot appeal to moderators to take similar action against someone who has the apparent audacity to give voice to what already appears to be the case to more than one of us. I commend the moderators of
Mormon Discussions—a place that attempts to avoid obvious censures of non-inflammatory opinion.
See,
Droop… I don’t see
anything “libelous” or “cowardly” about calling truth as one sees it--even when supposing that someone else may be a gay man. I don't view being gay as anything perjorative or bad. And when a gay man is self-loathing, I see a great need to be sympathetic, even if resolute in my views.
Identifying a sense of self-loathing in you, however, does help explain your vehement need to cling to the likes of NARTH’s snake-oil quack-science when it comes to attempting to explain homosexuality in a matter that conforms with the religious views of it’s promoters.
No… despite what you may perceive to be ill will from me, to be recognized as a self-loathing gay man is not a call to hate or antagonize. Rather, it is, in my view, a reason for understanding and a greater call for compassion. Further, it helps illuminate why you are so vociferous in your need to deny that which is so clear to those of us who have no need to deny the science of the biology of sexual orientation (either because we are straight, or because we’ve come to terms with the fact that we are, in fact, simply gay).
It’s absurd to me that I am going to the length of writing a response that is this ridiculously long to try to give context to my previous post—and I have doubts it will do much good in how you perceive my intent—but I figured it is worth saying, whether or not it falls on deaf ears.
As it does not, I'll just say that I consider this a near libelous assertion as well as the mark of the grossest form of intellectual cowardice to use it in lieu of serious argument. You should be ashamed of yourself at this point Darin, because you've retreated to the last refuge of a pro-homosexual scoundrel.
I can understand how someone who has an intense fear of being publically identified as gay would try to project and re-instill a great sense of shame and fear into someone who no longer feels such. Unfortunately for you, I do not feel those feelings with regards to in recognizing and naming sexual orientation in either myself, or others.
As I said, previously, please don’t mistake my belief in your homosexuality as some sort of evidence that the arguments I make as an admission of defeat, on my part, or that the views I and other pro-gay-marriage equality advocates have no validity in the face of your denial of their substantive reality. Rather, given your world-view, I simply recognize your apparent “SSA,” coupled with your religious beliefs on the matter, as two combustibly-motivating reasons that prevent you from accepting the science of sexual orientation.
As there is not a shred of scientific evidence anywhere in the brain sciences that homosexuality as a syndrome, is biologically based and fixed by birth, these mythical reams of scientific data have yet to be born, and hopefully, they will not be fixed at birth, but open to serious analysis and honest inquiry.
Denial. It ain’t just a river in Egypt.
With one dismissive wave of your had, you unsuccessfully seek to invalidate the views of every major medical and psychiatric professional organization’s research on the matter, choosing, instead, to heed the staggeringly dwarfed views of NARTH and its miniscule proponents. Which is, of course, your right.
In point of fact, this is a leftover of the sexual revolution ideology of the late sixties/early seventies era, in which anyone who vehemently held to a dissenting worldview regarding human sexuality (chastity, marital fidelity etc.) was accused of being a sexually repressed neurotic in denial regarding his own wish to be rampantly promiscuous and secretly wishing to join the revels of the sexually liberated.
Its a facile game of amateur Freudian psychoanalysis used to mask the intellectual vacuity of a position bereft of rational or moral justification on its own.
It’s ironic that you ascribe to me any attempt to proscribe pro-Freudian psycho-sexual theories, given that, in reality, I abandoned support of them once I began to accept what modern science has said about the scientific data demonstrating the physiological roots of sexual orientation.
No… self-loathing is not limited to the realm of pro-Freudian psycho-sexual theories (which have long since been disproved).
How honorable and kind of you.
I appreciate the recognition of my intentions.
There is no equal protection under the law for homosexual marriage, since there is no way to fuse the concept of homosexuality and marriage so as to achieve an intellectually coherent phenomena to be protected. Marriage is the basis of civilized society. Homosexuality is sexual coupling and emotional attachment - and nothing more.
Further, as pointed out ad infinitum, marriage itself is not a protected right under the federal constitution, but a core feature of civilized society that the constitution protects only in the sense that it really has nothing to say about it at all, leaving such fundamental traditions, customs and social bonding/stabilizing mechanisms to the people to carry on in pursuit of ordered liberty.
If a clear majority want to legitimize homosexual marriage, and de-privilege heterosexual marriage and heterosexuality per se, the constitutional structure of our society allows us to do that, but not through the courts. We have accountable legislatures who's fundamental purpose is to make law, and if we wish to go in this direction, collectively speaking, we can. The consequences, however, cannot be legislated, but only experienced.
As with pre-marital sex, adultery, or other forms of sexual perversion, homosexuality, and especially since it discovered the sword of activist politics, is a near feral transgressive rejection of the boundaries of the law of chastity and antithetical to the fundamental requirements of a morally literate society, as well as to the core purpose of gender in both a mortal and eternal sense.
I disagree with you. However, I’ve learned of the futility of arguments that essentially-boil down to:
“Nu-uh!”
“A—huh!”
“Nu-uhh!!”
“A-huh!!”
“Nu-huhhh!!!”
“A-huhhh!!!”
So "history" has a trajectory and teleology, is that correct?
Yes--history certainly has proven to continue to banish dogmatic misunderstandings and unsubstantiated superstition with the ongoing advent of scientific progress.
The wicked will be "burned as stubble", being left neither root nor branch.
Time will tell. ;)
There is no misunderstanding regarding the glorified sexual fetish of homoeroticism that is "same sex attraction".
Given the wide macroscopic divide of belief on the matter (clearly observable, on a microscopic level between you and I), “misunderstanding” exists about ‘same-sex attraction’
somewhere… As I said, I believe the passage of time and the ongoing historical accumulation of scientific knowledge will support my view. You believe time will exonerate your believe that the wicked shall “burn as stubble.” Time will prove one of us right.
In the meantime, thank god for places like Mormon Discussions that allows us to discuss the matter without calling in a mod to censure any who has the audacity to speak their mind about each others’ motivations, regardless of disagreement or offense that is taken (especially when none was implied).
Best,
Darin
"Have compassion for everyone you meet even if they don't want it. What seems conceit, bad manners, or cynicism is always a sign of things no ears have heard, no eyes have seen. You do not know what wars are going on down there where the spirit meets the bone."--Miller Williams