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Ok so I just signed up so I can ask this question.

So I was at a pool party yesturday and me and some other friends of mine went into the hot tub. It was me, another guy, and 7 girls. Another guy wanted to come in, so one girl said in order to make room, she would have to sit on someone. So een thought the guy didn't get in, she still got up and sat on my lap. I regretably somewhat enjoyed it and now that I look back, I feel dirty just by having a girl in a bikini sit on my lap.

So I wanna know, have I sinned ? What have I done? What SHOULD I do ? I mean I prayed, but I still feel bad and I can get the image out of my head! Help please !

haha no! You have not sinned. The sin would have been to leave the other guy out of the hot tub and not include him in the group.
The way I would look at it is you were including someone else in a fun hot tub party.

This is what actually bothers me so much is members tend to focus way more on things they shouldn't do than things they should do. I think it is way more important to be a nice kind guy that has charity to his fellow man. Then someone that is a jerk and tells this other guy that there is no room for him in the hot tub.

If I were you I would ask this girl out. It seems like it was a good excuse for her to get close to you. by the way welcome to the board.

I'm with Rambo. If neither you nor she are married, then it's absolutely not a sin.

I mean, think of it: That was simply her way of telling you that she likes you. She chose to continue sitting on your lap even though she didn't have to; that can only mean one thing.

Are you a believing Mormon? If so, then you were SUPPOSED to enjoy it! It's all part of God's plan! He programmed you to enjoy it so that you'd become interested in her, start dating her, then marry her and provide bodies for His spirit children still in Heaven.

GOD WANTED YOU TO ENJOY IT. So there's no sin.

You're good, dude. Ask her out A.S.A.P.

Please tell me that you didn't just sit there worrying and tormenting yourself over it all night. Women are self-conscious too, and your body language from the worrying might have translated to her that you weren't interested. And then it follows that she feels like a big loser for mistakingly making unwelcome advances. Not a good way to start a relationship.

Did you get an erection?

I know for a fact she would have enjoyed sitting on that, provided it was "big enough" for her to feel it.

Polygamy-Porter wrote:Did you get an erection?

I know for a fact she would have enjoyed sitting on that, provided it was "big enough" for her to feel it.

Wouldn't you Polyg? You are only human after all. Apparently the only male in the world immune from getting an erection this way is Kevin Garn. . . just ask BCspace.

Randomaster08 wrote: ... she still got up and sat on my lap. I regretably somewhat enjoyed it and now that I look back, I feel dirty just by having a girl in a bikini sit on my lap.

Seems like you may be a closet heterosexual. No need to be shamed by it, it happens to many men.

moksha wrote:

Randomaster08 wrote: ... she still got up and sat on my lap. I regretably somewhat enjoyed it and now that I look back, I feel dirty just by having a girl in a bikini sit on my lap.

Seems like you may be a closet heterosexual. No need to be shamed by it, it happens to many men.

I also have done a great deal of soul searching. I've sometimes had feelings and attractions that I don't understand, but they're so powerful I feel that I must have been born this way. I can't help it, and I don't want to help it. It's who I am.

And learning to accept myself has brought me a lot of peace and freedom. I am a heterosexual. And there's nothing wrong with that.

Polygamy-Porter wrote:Did you get an erection?

I know for a fact she would have enjoyed sitting on that, provided it was "big enough" for her to feel it.

If I had said that there would be hell to pay. You always get to say whatever you want. I've got duct tape on my mouth.

Paul O

And learning to accept myself has brought me a lot of peace and freedom. I am a heterosexual. And there's nothing wrong with that

Oh my God! A heterosexual on the message board!! What's this world coming to? These sexual desires create babies. You might want to talk to your doctor about it and get help. Being heterosexual is dangerous because it could make a baby and that's expensive.

Paul O