The advice so far has been to avoid discussing religion with her from now on, and I think that's the only option I have with most TBM family. I do however feel that I must address some of the hurtful things she twisted and tried to use against me. I can't see myself having a relationship with her ever again if I don't. It may be a waste of energy and time, but do you think she should know how hurtful it was to judge my life in this way?
Yes, absolutely, if you do not feel capable of having a relationship with her unless you share how hurtful this was to you, by all means, share it with her.
I don't mean to sound cynical, but be aware that she will most likely just engage in a repeat of the same type of exchange in response. There are a couple of reasons I say that - one is that the True Believer is not capable of admitting her belief system may be flawed, and two is that Mormons are so hyper about being "good enough" for God that they tend to have difficulties admitting their own sins and character flaws. It's going to be nigh onto impossible for her to "hear" you in the way you want to be heard.
But, if the relationship is over without some sort of resolution, you have nothing to lose.
I stopped trying to get resolutions of this sort with my family members when the last one (many years ago now) ended with me fleeing in tears. It just wasn't worth continued emotional angst, and I finally accepted a different type of relationship was not just inevitable, but already reality. If True Believers feel like they're being asked to choose between YOU and GOD, they'll choose God, hands-down. And admitting that their belief system might not be as "true" as they currently believe feels like betraying God.