I was a baby bride and I regret marrying so young. The first several years of my marriage were extraordinarily difficult and I can't decide if it's a miracle that my husband and I are still married or if it's a result of sheer stupidity, lol! Maybe it's a bit of both. I was too young to know I deserved better, but my husband and I have grown up a lot during our marriage and things improved as we both matured.
I hope the best for your significant other's son and his soon-to-be bride. But I hope my daughters, who are being raised more like your children, Beastie, will hold off on marriage for as long as they can!
KA
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Marriage, children, school, profession, disaster.
Another quote from a Kimball:
And here is the lost memo:
My wife and I were engaged within 2 months of dating, we had known each other a total of 6 months previous. I think it has troubled her a little that, inpite of my fidelity, there were 3 girls I dated over a period of 5 years previous to us, that I knew better than my wife when we got married. After 8 years I still felt the same. Part of the reason was that we had so little quality time to spend together.
My 2 jobs, college full and part time, babies, church callings, tithing, no vacations, basically coming from broken homes, total stress. I hardly saw my kids and wife and was too concerned about making ends meet and the future to concentrate on being a good father/husband. My kids missed so much of me and that bonding that is so critical because of this. It sucked. We were strapped for the first 14 years. I've tried to make it up the last few years but some of it is too little too late.
I've concluded that some can do such things succesfully, but although I desired to be obedient to the prophet's commands, I did not have the physiological capacity to fit their paradigm. One size does not fit all. As I look back, I can see where a little less prayer/obedience and a lot more common sense would have given our family a much more fulfilling and memorable life together.
We had our first, 9 months and 2 days after marrying. Don't do that - ever.
rant off.
1) Light dating
2) Mission
3) Serious dating
4) Marriage
5) Children
6) School
7) Profession
Spencer W. Kimball
"let the children come naturally"
ET (phone home) Benson
And here is the lost memo:
27 And see that all these things are done in wisdom and order; for it is not requisite that a man should run faster than he has strength. And again, it is expedient that he should be diligent, that thereby he might win the prize; therefore, all things must be done in order.
King Benjamin(Book of Mormon | Mosiah 4:27)
My wife and I were engaged within 2 months of dating, we had known each other a total of 6 months previous. I think it has troubled her a little that, inpite of my fidelity, there were 3 girls I dated over a period of 5 years previous to us, that I knew better than my wife when we got married. After 8 years I still felt the same. Part of the reason was that we had so little quality time to spend together.
My 2 jobs, college full and part time, babies, church callings, tithing, no vacations, basically coming from broken homes, total stress. I hardly saw my kids and wife and was too concerned about making ends meet and the future to concentrate on being a good father/husband. My kids missed so much of me and that bonding that is so critical because of this. It sucked. We were strapped for the first 14 years. I've tried to make it up the last few years but some of it is too little too late.
I've concluded that some can do such things succesfully, but although I desired to be obedient to the prophet's commands, I did not have the physiological capacity to fit their paradigm. One size does not fit all. As I look back, I can see where a little less prayer/obedience and a lot more common sense would have given our family a much more fulfilling and memorable life together.
We had our first, 9 months and 2 days after marrying. Don't do that - ever.
rant off.
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Re: Marriage, children, school, profession, disaster.
Inconceivable wrote:
rant off.
It's nice to see a rant! Don't stop now. ;P
Beastie, no advice. Just sorry they're rushing into it. I'm still trying to grow up in my early 30's and it's a shame when kids are involved.
I'm desperately hoping that my children hold off for as long as possible (and I'd be fine if they never married) before they make the leap.
Hope it works out for the best.