What do I need to do to stop private interviews?

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What do I need to do to stop private interviews?

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Is there anything I can do to keep men in the church from having private interviews with my children? Is there anything legally I can do if they have them anyway?
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In the UK "grooming" is against the law. Asking minors who are not your children about their sexual behaviour can be considered grooming behaviour and people that do it can be challenged under the law.

If you don't want to put the onus on your child to say no, have a meeting with the Bishop and make the rules and consequences clear face to face.
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just me wrote:Is there anything I can do to keep men in the church from having private interviews with my children? Is there anything legally I can do if they have them anyway?



You are a parent. Assuming your children are under the age of 18. I think a letter to the Bishop and Stake President telling them that you do not authorize them to do such interviews should be enough. Mentioning something about lawyers would probably help too.
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Is there anything I can do to keep men in the church from having private interviews with my children?


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bcspace wrote:sexist


BC lives in an alternate universe where somebody other than men have 1:1 interviews with youth about their personal worthiness.
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Back in the day when I was a member.... :geek:

I told the Bishop that under no circumstance was any church leader allowed to meet with my children without either my husband or I present. PERIOD!

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just me wrote:Is there anything I can do to keep men in the church from having private interviews with my children? Is there anything legally I can do if they have them anyway?

Resign your own membership and the membership of your kids and don't let them set foot inside an LDS meetinghouse. That's the most effective way. If you want to keep going to church, then you will have to be constantly vigilant. I would put the request in writing and kindly but firmly let them know that if they don't honor your request, you will consider legal action. That seems to be the only leverage members have with the leadership. Well, that and the threat of bad publicity.
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truth dancer wrote:Back in the day when I was a member.... :geek:

I told the Bishop that under no circumstance was any church leader allowed to meet with my children without either my husband or I present. PERIOD!

~td~


I think that's the best way to handle it.
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Kids will attend church with their dad half the time. I.can't stop that happening. But maybe I can stop the interviews and baptism of my youngest.
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just me wrote:Kids will attend church with their dad half the time. I.can't stop that happening. But maybe I can stop the interviews and baptism of my youngest.


Is there any way you and your ex could come to some sort of agreement with you regarding interviews? Can you talk with him about it? As something that is in the best interest of your children?
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