For women who have set their gaze upon a married man

[Marcus]

You had the energy to pick out and post a whole series of comments from a conversation-- but only from the woman, but you are now too tired to post the whole series of comments from the man that were either before or after the woman's posts.

Your intent was clearly to embarrass the woman, and your unwillingness to complete the story just shows your sexist stance in its full ugliness.

If you can find John Dehlin denying he had an affair I will be happy to pull quotes from him saying otherwise.

QED.

[Kishkumen]

My thoughts on his are that we ought not encourage Rosebud in any way. She wants to use this board in a desperate attempt to get JD's attention? It's her right. Free speech board.

But do we want to egg her on or engage with her on this?

I want Rosebud to heal and move on. Maybe the best thing to help her with that is not to engage with her on this stuff. Don't shame her for Pete's sake! The whole thing is so sad. I feel badly for Rosebud, and I don't think we are helping her.

Let's give Rosebud as much dignity as we can. Let's not rehash the awful past, even if she wants to do so. If I am around an alcoholic, do I offer them a drink? I am not calling Rosebud an alcoholic, but she is a hurting person who is tempting us to enable her in wallowing in the hurt. If she really just wants Dehlin to see this stuff, then just let her posts go unanswered. She did it, and we don't have to push the matter further.

[Dwight]

I agree, I let myself get involved again with the latest. Then while thinking on it during a long walk with my puppy I kind of came to the same realization that any attention is not helping. That I would do my best to refrain. So hopefully this will be my last post around this.

[Dwight]

An addendum, sorry, but if Rosebud is an alcoholic, then to me JP is a functional alcoholic. I am going to do my best to not engage with either and let them move on and heal from the pain JD has caused them.

[IWMP]

My thoughts would be, "she can have him" good luck. I often have thoughts about this topic when I listen to Dolly Parton's "Jolene". My son loves this song but I always think, if your man is talking about another woman in his sleep then he doesn't value you. She is begging Jolene not to take her man, but he's already gone. How low is her self esteem that she thinks there's no one else. So sad.

I’d rather be alone than trying to hold onto a man who is looking else where or finding himself flattered by the attention of another.