MTV?????s Engaged and Underage - Temple Wedding

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Analytics wrote:It looks like the point of the show is to make the couple look immature and naïve, and it does a pretty good job of that. As a guideline, I don’t think you’re old enough to get married until you’re old enough to rent a car.


LOL! Good adage!
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I would love to see an update in five years to find out if this couple is still married. Both of them have a lot of growing up to do.
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I am in the process of watching this episode, and it simply makes my blood boil! The "bride" is being a total WITCH! What the hell?! The groom's mother is having legitimate concerns about not being able to attend her son's wedding, and all Ms. Priss has to say is "it's MY wedding, not HERS, and I can do whatever I want!?" WTF!!!!!


Great way to start off a nice relationship with Mom in law.
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Ahhh...

When I grow up, I want to be a mother
and have a family
one little, two little, three little babies of my own

When I grow up, I want to be a mother
and have a family
four little, five little, six little babies of my own.

I remember it well! LOL!

It is not in the official primary songbook but is from a private company that had a bunch of LDS tapes for children.

It was all over the place when I lived in Utah! :-)

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Post by _Pokatator »

What happened to:

Exo 20:12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

Maybe the world will be blessed and their days upon the land will be short enough for them not to reproduce.
_Yoda

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Pokatator wrote:What happened to:

Exo 20:12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

Maybe the world will be blessed and their days upon the land will be short enough for them not to reproduce.


LOL! Gotta love the potato!
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Post by _Mister Scratch »

I watched this show and enjoyed it very much. I thought the producers did a solid job of showing the consequences of mixing a young girl's tendency towards "bridezilla-ism" with the restrictive nature of LDS temple marriages. I also got quite a laugh out of the sequence where the two families meet up for dinner, and the girl discusses the ingredients which have gone into the oxymoronically-named jello salad.
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Post by _moksha »

Here is an in depth look at the issues and possible solutions around the question of involving the entire family in the wedding process:

http://www.kevingraham.org/forum/viewtopic.php?t=230
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It will be interesting to see where this couple is a few years from now. I wonder how "converted" the guy is to Mormonism. She started dating him in high school and was not a member and then he converted over and I am assuming he did this because she has always wanted to get married "in the temple". Growing up you are drilled over and over about getting married in the temple.

I think most people have no idea what the temple ceremony is about of what is going to happen. It is just something you are trained and told that you need to do. It was only a few years ago that my wife told me she was a little freaked out about the whole thing when she went through for the first time.

None of my Grandparents, Uncles, Cousins, etc. where able to attend because they are not LDS (My parents converted right before they were married). I never really thought about their feelings because I knew I was doing what God wanted me to do. Now that I look back on it I realize how much that these major life events can bring family closer together but in Mormonism, if they are not all LDS, it can actually drive them further apart.

This sort of reminds me. My wife told me about her cousin that lives up in Idaho. They are the same age and when they were 16 her cousin had a picture of herself on her nightstand of herself in a wedding dress standing in front of the Idaho Falls temple. My wife was really confused when she saw the picture at first and asked her about it. It so happens that one of the YW activities that the leaders planed was to borrow wedding dresses from friends and family and dress up in them and take pictures of themselves in front of the temple. The leaders then had the pictures developed and framed and gave all the YW the picture of themselves. They were told to display it in their rooms always so they could visualize being married in the temple.

Anybody else think this is kind of strange?
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Post by _harmony »

neworder wrote:It will be interesting to see where this couple is a few years from now. I wonder how "converted" the guy is to Mormonism. She started dating him in high school and was not a member and then he converted over and I am assuming he did this because she has always wanted to get married "in the temple". Growing up you are drilled over and over about getting married in the temple.

I think most people have no idea what the temple ceremony is about of what is going to happen. It is just something you are trained and told that you need to do. It was only a few years ago that my wife told me she was a little freaked out about the whole thing when she went through for the first time.

None of my Grandparents, Uncles, Cousins, etc. where able to attend because they are not LDS (My parents converted right before they were married). I never really thought about their feelings because I knew I was doing what God wanted me to do. Now that I look back on it I realize how much that these major life events can bring family closer together but in Mormonism, if they are not all LDS, it can actually drive them further apart.


That's because if you're a convert, your family is supposed to be less important to you than the church. The whole "leave your parents to cleave to your spouse" thing. Of course, the reverse is abhorrent and not to be imagined.

This sort of reminds me. My wife told me about her cousin that lives up in Idaho. They are the same age and when they were 16 her cousin had a picture of herself on her nightstand of herself in a wedding dress standing in front of the Idaho Falls temple. My wife was really confused when she saw the picture at first and asked her about it. It so happens that one of the YW activities that the leaders planed was to borrow wedding dresses from friends and family and dress up in them and take pictures of themselves in front of the temple. The leaders then had the pictures developed and framed and gave all the YW the picture of themselves. They were told to display it in their rooms always so they could visualize being married in the temple.

Anybody else think this is kind of strange?


Sounds like something a local leader thought up. Not strange, knowing the lengths Idaho saints will go to to make sure their lil darlings stay in the church (I was going to say "grounded in the gospel", but then it occurred to me that LDS parents as a general rule don't care if their children are grounded in the gospel or not, as long as they're staying in the church. *sigh*)
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