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Lem wrote:
Wed May 12, 2021 7:09 pm
consiglieri wrote:
Wed May 12, 2021 5:18 pm
My goal in this podcast was to not insinuate my opinions into the presentation.

In other words, the evidence I presented is the evidence, regardless of what my opinion is of the evidence.

All in all, I think I did a pretty good job.

I don’t think my having an (undisclosed) opinion about the evidence prohibits me from presenting the evidence.

Nor does my having an opinion about the evidence change the nature of the evidence itself.

You, and others, were able to come to a different opinion based on the same evidence.
No, that last statement, at least for me, isn't true, if you are referring to the evidence you presented. Initially I relied upon the statements from your interviewees. When the point was introduced that some were of the opinion that at least one of those interviewees was giving statements based on faulty memory that should not be considered as fact, I stopped relying on her opinions and went back to just documents and a verified timeline, including some verified documents and parts of documents that the podcast did not include.

As a result, my differing opinions are not based on the same evidence as that presented in the podcast.

And yes, I do think your opinion was expressed in your choice of which evidence and parts of evidence to post. Just one example, you posted texts that you stated were provided by JD. Maybe I missed it but I don't see that you independently verified those texts, other than to ask your interviewee who was there to support JD if she saw the texts, which in no way verifies or even considers if some texts were not shown to her. If I recall correctly, this was the same interviewee that others told me later had a memory that was not totally accurate. I may have missed where you asked the other side for their set of texts that they felt supported their point, and then presented a verified combination of both, I apologize if I did.
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I think we talked about it further back, in that JD definitely coordinated with MS [edit to fix to ML, Thanks Kish] to massage the narrative. I think, but I’m too lazy to look for it, Consig copped to it, which is totally his prerogative. As someone making comments from the peanut gallery, I have no problem with MS being a homer for JD since the other players vying for the post-Mormon market are willing and able to frame their hot takes any way they want.
I don't have a problem with it either, now that I understand the context.

Again, I don't think it is wrong for anyone to have and express an opinion, especially not with the intent to make a case to support JD after Kwaku's podcast. There is nothing wrong with that, but it's certainly not a problem to point out that the choice of documents supported the case presented by the podcast. That's not an unbiased presentation, but again, in my opinion it doesn't need to be, and I for one, find it helpful to understand Consig's position and opinions, in addition to reading the podcast transcript.

(to consig: That's sincere, consig, I hope you can see that-- I am really not a podcast listener, but I really did put serious effort into reading through your transcript. I know it is generated automatically (!some of the language ends up being pretty funny) so I kept the podcast on at double playback speed to make sure I wasn't getting errors. That was torture for me, so please know it's only because I considered your presentation so valuable that I even attempted that. Thank you for your work.)
That is very sweet of you to say so, Lem.

I sincerely appreciate it.
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Kishkumen wrote:
Wed May 12, 2021 7:27 pm
My understanding is that the documents had originally been supplied as accurate under penalty of perjury in the investigation which was started by the New Hampshire Human Rights organization. In other words, these were the documents that were accessible and vouched for in some way. Not so, by the way, are Rosebud’s documents, as far as I know. It is *not* the case that consiglieri deliberately scrimped on evidence in order to advocate for JD. ML could not help that, up to the time when their show pushed Rosebud to release documents, there were no other documents that had been submitted in an official investigation that were available. I don’t know whether Rosebud’s documents have ever been submitted to an official investigation or under penalty of perjury, or with any kind of verification outside of the vouching of Rosebud’s own agents.
Well the premise of her mormonrosebud.com site clearly spells out that she swears under penalty of perjury, I repeat, on her website that her testimony is complete and accurate… I don’t think she knows what that means. She also said it is common for the initial filings to not contain the complaint, you can always file your real complaint later, and she never made it that far
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master_dc wrote:
Wed May 12, 2021 9:23 pm
Well the premise of her mormonrosebud.com site clearly spells out that she swears under penalty of perjury, I repeat, on her website that her testimony is complete and accurate… I don’t think she knows what that means. She also said it is common for the initial filings to not contain the complaint, you can always file your real complaint later, and she never made it that far
I am sure that counts, if she says she swears, on her website. Unfortunately, the website dropped after the ML show, so, in any case, ML could not use her secret stash of documents that she had not yet sworn on the Holy Bible for.
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master_dc wrote:
Wed May 12, 2021 9:23 pm
Kishkumen wrote:
Wed May 12, 2021 7:27 pm
My understanding is that the documents had originally been supplied as accurate under penalty of perjury in the investigation which was started by the New Hampshire Human Rights organization. In other words, these were the documents that were accessible and vouched for in some way. Not so, by the way, are Rosebud’s documents, as far as I know. It is *not* the case that consiglieri deliberately scrimped on evidence in order to advocate for JD. ML could not help that, up to the time when their show pushed Rosebud to release documents, there were no other documents that had been submitted in an official investigation that were available. I don’t know whether Rosebud’s documents have ever been submitted to an official investigation or under penalty of perjury, or with any kind of verification outside of the vouching of Rosebud’s own agents.
Well the premise of her mormonrosebud.com site clearly spells out that she swears under penalty of perjury, I repeat, on her website that her testimony is complete and accurate… I don’t think she knows what that means. She also said it is common for the initial filings to not contain the complaint, you can always file your real complaint later, and she never made it that far
To be completely accurate, Rosebud did sign her NH complaint under penalty of perjury as required by law.

Paragraph 8 of her sworn complaint is where she averred that on August 9, 2012, she was resisting JD’s attempts to make their relationship sexual which she resisted.

Unfortunately the text messages from that same date filed in response show the exact opposite was happening.

Rosebud was trying to make their relationship sexual and JD was resisting.

So I agree with you.

I don’t think she really knows what that means.
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So, Rosebud tells JD to go back to his wife. He replies that this only wants to make him pursue her more and he keeps pursuing the relationship.

Later, JD tells her its over and Rosebud keeps trying to pursue it by continually texting and asking for sex.
consiglieri wrote:
Tue May 11, 2021 4:08 pm
I think the record shows Rosebud got fired because she continued to ask for a sexual and romantic relationship after JD refused.

If Rosebud had ceased and desisted as JD asked, there is no reason to suspect the board would ever have gotten involved.

Rosebud could still have been working for Open Stories Foundation doing the thing she loved if she had just backed down when asked and cooled her jets.
How about Rosebud could still have been working of Open Stories Foundation doing the thing she loved if JOHN had just backed down when asked and cooled his jets?

Why is Rosebud being blamed for the loss of her own job, when John was just as bad, and in fact did it first?

He could have "backed down when asked and cooled his jets" way earlier in the time line, yet she's the one who's being criticized for not remaining cool, calm and collected.
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I don’t think anyone denies that John did foolish things. But if you want to know what the proximate causes of the situation coming to a head are, you need to look at what was happening at the time, not what John said long before that. Are both people at fault? No doubt. Probably equally so in their respective ways, but then Rosebud turns all of that into her victimization by John in October of 2012, when she threatens in October to accuse him of sexual harassment—something she asserted in August he had not done. So what are we supposed to believe?

Believe what you like. I believe this was an immoral and unwise romantic relationship that ended poorly. Today it would be called sexual harassment according to Open Stories Foundation policy. But one can’t go back in time to apply today’s policy to 2011-12’s events. Open Stories Foundation did conduct an investigation at Rosebud’s request. She didn’t cooperate with the investigation she requested. What is she hoping to achieve now? If harming Dehlin’s reputation is her goal, she may actually achieve something of it.
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I agree there's nothing to be done about it now. I just don't think it's fair that the focus seems to be on how Rosebud didn't backdown and stop when John should have done the same.

One thing I just noticed in John's email to her. He says
We can't work together and be former lovers.
So I think consig's wrong to suggest she could have kept her job if she had just backed down. John told her he can't work with a former lover, so he wanted her gone no matter how she would have behaved.
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Esme wrote:
Wed May 12, 2021 11:16 pm
I agree there's nothing to be done about it now. I just don't think it's fair that the focus seems to be on how Rosebud didn't backdown and stop when John should have done the same.

One thing I just noticed in John's email to her. He says
We can't work together and be former lovers.
So I think consig's wrong to suggest she could have kept her job if she had just backed down. John told her he can't work with a former lover, so he wanted her gone no matter how she would have behaved.
In consig's podcast Natasha Helfer states the plan was to offer Rosebud to apply to a 1099 position but she wouldn't be able to return to the work she had been doing due to proximity with JD. Most likely would have been given a job doing something unrelated to MS.
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I would love to see any of Rosebud's defenders offer a credible defense for her being firing as a business decision. She claims the firing was retaliation. I'm convinced that is a smoke screen, and that her firing was inevitable based on performance. CTW was doomed to fail. Open Stories Foundation and JD recognized it before Rosebud did. She wouldn't let the affair go, then leveraged the affair to cry "harassment" when the inevitable happened, as inevitable things do.

Rosebud projects an aura of pride in having pioneered a most innovative revenue model for events ($0 admission, or 100% donations-based), but history supports Open Stories Foundation and JD for canning her when they did. She seems to insist that a real business opportunity was stripped form her. But this was just like any failed venture -- someone has to call it a day, even (especially!) if the entrepreneur insists on doubling down. The fact is that a decade later, it's obvious that paid-for events are a losing business proposition in exMo/progMo communities. There's no "there" there, no sustainable model. So for a new venture, Circling the Wagons represented nothing short of a fatal distraction. John and Open Stories Foundation knew it before Rosebud did. The affair muddied things, but the fact is she wasn't able to carry her weight and had no viable plan to carry her weight. It was a startup, so the outcome was inevitable. Affair or no, Rosebud would have been fired.

Supporting proof in context (all underline emphasis mine, italics my comments):
https://mormonismlive.org/wp-content/up ... -Email.pdf

Rosebud wraps Option 1 of her blackmail email with her primary demand: ownership over CTW. She wanted this. It was her baby. She believed that Open Stories Foundation could help her build it, and probably believed that only with Open Stories Foundation could she build it. But by then, John and his board had very clearly recognized that CTW was a loser.

Page 1: "Everyone tells the same story: John and [Rosebud] had a falling out. [Rosebud] decided to work on Circling the Wagons. John wanted to focus more on school. ([Rosebud] withdrew from school.)"

Rosebud wraps Option 2 of her blackmail by showing just how strongly she believed Circling would be a commercial success. It was literally going to get her on Ellen.

Page 2: "[Rosebud] doesn't get excommunicated because she cries in the bishop's office. She puts together a Sunstone presentation about how to get out of getting the axe. It's a sensation and gets her on the Ellen show because of her connection with Circling."

Rosebud wraps the blackmail email with a plea to restore access to Facebook groups, eg to let her continue running CTW on her own agenda, ie continue cultivating her pet project, separate and apart from John's podcast work.

Page 2: "Part of leaving us alone is lifting bans that hurt [Rosebud] and telling us where and we can and can't go and what we can and can't do... online or off. ... Banning [Rosebud] and telling her what to do with her email and Facebook accounts, etc. is butting into her life. Telling [Rosebud] she has to send business mail through somebody else crosses our boundaries because its embarrassing, and, frankly a little over the top."
https://mormonismlive.org/wp-content/up ... drawal.pdf

Rosebud concedes it was a consensual, "mild" affair.

Page 3: "We have both conceded that we had a consensual sexual relationship and that it was mid in nature. That should be enough."

Rosebud thinks very highly of her business successes at Open Stories Foundation, even claiming that much of the success of Open Stories Foundation is due to her community outreach efforts, eg Circling the Wagons, and that this success must be just so obvious that John cannot but feel threatened by it. She is incredibly proud of the impact and opportunity inherent in the Circling venture she created under Open Stories Foundation's banner. She wants, above all other demands, to have Circling the Wagons restored to her, under Open Stories Foundation, because she believes so passionately in it.

Page 6: "I doubt he conceived in Times Square that I would succeed in forwarding the movement and the organization to such an extent that he would find himself in the position of my presence both benefitting and threatening him."

Page 6: "It is also accurate to state that if I had done a better job of protecting myself and had left the Open Stories Foundation in August of 2011, the progressive Mormon movement would not be nearly as powerful as it is today. My work has positively impacted the lives of thousands and has catapulted the movement forward, changing it and progressive Mormonism forever. I feel proud of my accomplishments despite my poor judgment."

Page 7: "I invite the Open Stories Foundation to end its bannings and its board members, aside from Mr. Dehlin whom I would only like to interact with professionally in public spaces, to begin speaking to me. I have social justice work to do."
https://mormonismlive.org/wp-content/up ... sponse.pdf

After the sex pleas stop, Rosebud just wants her community work back. She makes a desperate plea to go behind Joanna's back, restore her to lead the CTW communities into a transition of some kind, while hoping Joanna will simply resign. The transition must mean Rosebud taking influential control over the CTW groups again, and if not all then most. The only thing she wants is to own CTW again, under Open Stories Foundation's tent. CTW, in her mind, belongs to her. If John gives CTW back to Rosebud, the whole thing goes away.

Page 5: "If you can, please at least make me an author on Mormon Stories so I can help NYC so that the drama doesn't make it directly to Ruchard Bushman. ... Joanna doesn't seem to understand smooth transition in this circumstance, I will transition than resign. ... I will startup business again and then taper off. ... So please give me MS access to allow me to help NYC and other committees that have expectations. ... Please add me back and make me an admin in the main group. No need to make me an admin in all the regions. Doesn't matter. Would draw attention. ... I will remove my own admin after transition."

Page 6: "Nor have I participated in anything that may have hurt you beyond what I did to protect myself at home with an [redacted] husband and to protect the people who count on CTW."

Page 7: "John, please send me my files. I need them right away. ... Please have enough respect for me to send me my files and unban me from my community. ... I just want my files and my community."

Page 8: "First I said: 'Make things right' then "Never speak to me again' ... You still haven't made things right. You're still holding things over my head. ... I think that you'll grow antlers if you answer me. Or if you give me my files."

Page 9: "Just give me the damn files and unban me so that I can quit texting you."

Page 9: "You pretend you want a clean break while you simultaneously hold things over my head ... while in reality you know I'd be more than happy to achieve a clean break. A break that isn't offensive and doesn't cross my boundaries. ... Well...... I need my files and my community."

Page 10: "I want my stuff. It's time for me to stand up for myself."

To which JD observed, accurately, in this statement on page 10

Page 10 (John Dehlin writing): "...I believe the above text messages clearly reveal ... that Ms. [rosebud] is only concerned with regaining access to Facebook groups, which groups I own and control -- not the Foundation."

So John owns the groups, but Rosebud believes she owns CTW, which is based on the groups, and she feels that by not giving her the groups, John is taking away her business project and her social work. She isn't asking for a settlement at this point, she just wants to run her CTW business by herself, leveraging John's name and reputation in the community. He doesn't want to lend his name or business to CTW anymore, but she can't let go of it and she doesn't believe she can achieve her designs without John giving her control over the communities that he, personally started and owns. THAT is what this is all about, not sexual harassment.
https://mormonismlive.org/wp-content/up ... nse1.2.pdf

Open Stories Foundation does not own the Facebook groups, John does. Therefore, Rosebud has no standing to demand access or control over them as part of any severance or termination agreement.

Page 3, Allegation 10: "The Foundation admits only that Dehlin (as well as other podcast hosts and Facebook group leaders) own, operate, and control their own Facebook and other online groups. The Foundation does not claim that it owns, controls, or has the right to control any online groups."
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1uhgaMQ ... eU-bn/view

Immediately after John and Rosebud resign, and John reapplies as a 1099 contractor, Open Stories Foundation disbands the Facebook communities altogether, noting how important they are to local groups, but unwieldy as a centrally managed product. In other words, they're no good for business. Open Stories Foundation board members, including Joanna, send an email effectively cancelling the community events business motion under the Mormon Stories banner. The communities will all pass to local owners. Rosebud's vision of "owning" these communities, and of turning them into a sustained profitable commercial CTW enterprise -- the kind that will get her on Ellen, remember -- was misguided and unrealistic.

Page 2: "Over the next several weeks, we will also be transitioning regional Mormon Stories Facebook communities to local leadership and ownership. We know that where these communities are functioning well, they are a lifeline to their members; however, one of the lessons we've learned in the last year is that even with a dedicated staff it is almost impossible to manage the tone and quality of these community interactions in a way that doesn't leave traditional believers feeling alienated, and we feel that this poses a major challenge to the Mormon Stories brand. For this reason, we'd like the communities that persist to do so without using the Mormon Stories name."
https://share.transistor.fm/s/07e76f1b

Give this a good listen. Hear how she is so sure of her ability to turn the CTW conferences into something valuable. She believes that she, and she alone, possessed the ability to make them a commercial success. She's reflecting on those early years when she helped recruit Claudia Bushman and Clayton Christensen to speak at conferences. She doesn't have any awareness, even many years later, that there's no business future in these events, regardless of any early "wins" with speakers and donations. Events is a crappy business. Takes a ton of time. Revenue is patchy at best. Managing communities in a transient population isn't a sustainable enterprise. Exmo Reddit may be the best success, and can anyone tell me someone besides Reddit who makes money from it?

At about the 100:00 mark, she talks about her last and final pitch the board on business as she's being terminated.


100:00 mark: "I managed to convince the board to allow me to keep the Circling the Wagons project. Because John, in wanting to completely silence me, I mean he was telling people like, "the rule is [Rosebud] doesn't ever get to come to a Sunstone conference, like [Rosebud] has to disappear, and so we're going to give, " (and Sunstone was a competing organization), "we're going to gift, I don't want to do Circling the Wagons, because it was never my project, but I don't want [Rosebud] to have Circling the Wagons, because if [Rosebud] takes Circling the Wagons, then she will also have a voice, and I don't want [Rosebud] to have a voice, so he tried to gift Circling the Wagons off to Sunstone to completely silence me and get rid of me."

Wrong. Utter lack of awareness and any business sense. John wanted to give CTW away because it was a loser. And unfortunately, Rosebud and CTW were one the same to Open Stories Foundation. Maybe they'd have found a home for her, doing something else, out of kindness, but she lost that too by pushing John too far in the love department.
If the other messages supplied by Rosebud were still online, I could post more. I think Rosebud's refusal to stop pestering him for sex was a sort of final straw in what had already become an obviously untenable business partnership. John, and the Open Stories Foundation board, already knew there was no sustainable business value in communities or events, such as CTW. While, out of care or humanity, they may have all been delaying the cut off, it was inevitable from a business decision standpoint. Rosebud only hastened that decision by refusing to accept John's withdrawal of consent.
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Esme wrote:
Wed May 12, 2021 11:16 pm
I agree there's nothing to be done about it now. I just don't think it's fair that the focus seems to be on how Rosebud didn't backdown and stop when John should have done the same.

One thing I just noticed in John's email to her. He says
We can't work together and be former lovers.
So I think consig's wrong to suggest she could have kept her job if she had just backed down. John told her he can't work with a former lover, so he wanted her gone no matter how she would have behaved.
Yes, but in light of the fact that the board invited her to reapply as an independent contractor, I am not confident that “work together” means “for the same organization.” It may mean, “at the same events,” vel sim. In any case, she was offered to opportunity of applying as an independent contractor. She was obviously not frozen out because John said that stuff. On the other hand, “have sex with me” is pretty unambiguous.
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