Suggestions Please

[_Gazelam]

A teacher at school said my son daydreams alot and can't focus on his work, so she recommended a doctor. we took him to the doctor who of coarce kneejerked a perscription. My son went from happy and playful to angry and depressed.

I of coarce took him off it and felt validated in my opposition to it in the first place. (See GIMR, I was validated!)

So we replaced hippie schoolteacher thought with parent thought and hes doing just fine. Too bad we had to put our son through that because we respected a teachers advice without thinking for ourselves, live and learn.

[_msnobody]

Wade, have you ever considered that many exLDS have a reason to be po'ed at the LDS church and have a valid reason to feel like the LDS church has spiritually raped and deceived them? Please consider for a moment that anger in some cases is a healthy coping mechanism.

What is it that keeps you driving at this? I don't understand your motivation, nor your reasoning. You blow my mind, dude! Does this feed a persecution complex? Is this what you feed on to bolster your testimony? What is it? I surely don't understand. I'm left almost speechless with most of your posts.

Yes, I have considered those things. My intent, though, is to help people to find healthy and workable ways of doing something about their perceived victimization. What is so confounding about that?
Well, it's sort of like hiring a known convicted embellezer for an accountant.

If you were speaking for yourself above, then may I ask if you are content with remaining an angry victim? Or, would you prefer a better life for yourself, your relations, and those you associate with? I am not speaking of myself.

And, while anger is useful in detecting when things are wrong and amiss, it is not, in and of itself, a coping mechanism (healthy or otherwise). Excuse me, but I would think that anger would have come after having detected things were amiss. I don't know if you realize it, but grief is a part of finding out the LDS church is based in fraud. I don't know if I've ever known anyone who has left the LDS church that hasn't experienced some sort of grieving process. Anger is a stage of that grief. I'm sorry, Wade, but many people don't heal from having lived most of life in a cult by this fluffy thought talk concept of yours. Really, one of the best approaches is to first examine and put in perspective the coercive persuasion, exploitation of one's needs, etc. that has occured.

[_Jersey Girl]

A teacher at school said my son daydreams alot and can't focus on his work, so she recommended a doctor. we took him to the doctor who of coarce kneejerked a perscription. My son went from happy and playful to angry and depressed.

I of coarce took him off it and felt validated in my opposition to it in the first place. (See GIMR, I was validated!)

So we replaced hippie schoolteacher thought with parent thought and hes doing just fine. Too bad we had to put our son through that because we respected a teachers advice without thinking for ourselves, live and learn.

Are you saying that the teacher recommended a doctor by name? Just curious.

Jersey Girl

[_Gazelam]

Had to consult with the wife on this.

The teacher recommended we have him looked at, then we had to find a pediatrition and a therapist that our insurance would cover.

[_Jersey Girl]

Had to consult with the wife on this.

The teacher recommended we have him looked at, then we had to find a pediatrition and a therapist that our insurance would cover.

Oh, okay. It wouldn't have been ethical for her to refer you to a specific doctor. That's why I asked. Now this...


THE WIFE???? Stop that! I hate it when men refer to their wives as THE WIFE. That sounds like "the chair", "the car", "the weedwacker". Men! Sheesh!

Jersey Girl

[_Gazelam]

This Grumpy Old Bear had to visit his Honey.

That better?

[_Jersey Girl]

This Grumpy Old Bear had to visit his Honey.

That better?

Have you ever in your life heard a woman refer to her husband as "the husband"?

Jersey Girl

[_Gazelam]

Mine usually just refers to me as "Ass"

[_Jersey Girl]

Mine usually just refers to me as "Ass"

And when she does so, does she refer to you as "the ass" or "my ass"?

Just curious.

Jersey Girl

[_Jersey Girl]

I would just like to point out to the membership of this board and our lurking neighbors that the preceeding series of exchanges would NEVER show up on the MAD board and they can keep their stuffy smugness and self induced delusions of superiority. This board ROCKS!


Jersey Girl