Calling on LDS to repent of bigotry

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Ray A wrote:I like Mormons, I really do. I think they are GOOD people, despite the "bigotry". Bigotry exists among ALL people. They only need to look inward to see it. The bottom line, for me, is that I would trust a Mormon before most others. Spew, spit, and froth from the mouth in anger if you will, but I'm calling it as I see it. If I had to choose between bigots like Scratch, and Dan Peterson, guess what my choice would be.

Good night one and all. I will sleep in peace, having had my say.


I like Mormons, too, especially the one who sleeps next to me at night. :-) I don't know that I'd trust a Mormon before most others, but then that's just me.

Maybe I am weird, but I like both Scratch and Dr. Peterson. I would wager that if the three of us sat down to dinner, we'd have a great time.
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Mormons and exmormons are very much alike. The same culture created us both. I think both are likeable in the real world. Not so much on the internet, arguing about religion.

I'm not sure I would totally trust a Mormon outside my family and friends IF they knew I was an apostate. And I'm not sure that LDS deserve to be trusted more in business dealings than nonLDS or exLDS. Some LDS, particularly in Utah, seemed quite willing to behave under a different set of morals when it came to money-making than they would otherwise (not an uncommon malady in the world in general, of course)

Ray, you put bigotry in quotation marks. Does that mean that you don't view the institutionalized attitude towards apostates as bigotry?

(by the way, I put "apostates" and "attack" in quotation marks in some posts because they are so variably defined)
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A number of people posed questions to me concerning Gods view of Apostates.

The purpose of this life is to learn by force of will to overcome evil temptations that stand against a person gaining eternal Life, or in other words adapting to the culture of heaven by means of obtaining the Holy Ghost and following his promptings.

Apostates who willfully break away from the Church of Christ and then stand against and preach against its teachings stand in opposition to the Plan of Salvation. They do this above and beyond what an Athiest or a member of a false church would do in that they fight against truths they already know.

Cain knew correct teachings and then stood against them, teaching his family and friends to do the same. This led to the state and condition found in the days of Noah, in which the Lord was forced to wipe from the face of the earth the wicked so that a more fertile ground could be established for the gospel to grow in. This only occured after missionary work was tried and then failed save for those in the City of Enoch and aboard the Ark.

Alma the youngers story from Mosiah 27 is an unusual example of how an apostate was dealt with. The story of Pauls conversion is another. In both cases these events were brought on by a great deal of prayer and fasting from those who were faithful.

In any case, to oppose the church is to oppose the purpose of life and to stand against the taking on of the name of Christ and emulating him. This is to be fought against.

Gaz
We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light. - Plato
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Gazelam wrote:Alma the youngers story from Mosiah 27 is an unusual example of how an apostate was dealt with. The story of Pauls conversion is another. In both cases these events were brought on by a great deal of prayer and fasting from those who were faithful.

In any case, to oppose the church is to oppose the purpose of life and to stand against the taking on of the name of Christ and emulating him. This is to be fought against.

Gaz


Finally, an example of charity towards the apostate. But which is it? Are we to be prayed for or fought against?
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Prayer first

Fasting second

Prayer at the Temple alter third

Long suffering fourth

Repeated testimony and teaching fifth

Fighting as a last resort.
We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light. - Plato
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Gazelam wrote:Prayer first

Fasting second

Prayer at the Temple alter third

Long suffering fourth

Repeated testimony and teaching fifth

Fighting as a last resort.


I guess I wonder why it is you believe we have such base motives.
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In the kindest and least offensive way possible I would say you have deluded yourselves. In most cases I would say this was not done intentionally, but because you took a wrong stand on an issue that you had not studied well enough, or approached from the wrong perspective. In religious matters perspective is everything.

You simply need to take about twelve steps back and view the same issue from an eternal perspective.
We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light. - Plato
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beastie wrote:Ray, you put bigotry in quotation marks. Does that mean that you don't view the institutionalized attitude towards apostates as bigotry?

(by the way, I put "apostates" and "attack" in quotation marks in some posts because they are so variably defined)


Beastie, I do think there is bigotry in many of the institutional statements, but I'm hesitant to say this in an environment like this. You'll notice I hardly ever start a thread here (even when I have time), and my commentary is limited. (Ditto for MAD, though I'd rather start a thread there than here.) Sometimes I think the commentary here is as bad a RFM - too negative, too cynical and sarcastic, and always denigrating Mormonism. Take a cheap shot anytime you can, seems to be the go. I don't mind threads like your analysis of Book of Mormon archaeology and associated problems, and I like discussing the challenges facing Mormonism. I'm afraid to say that all the negativity and constant denigrating of Mormons and Mormonism is just not my "cup of tea", and my empathy for exmos is slowly being reduced to zero. Ironically, the more negativity there is, the less I listen, and the less empathy I feel. If people can't make points without cheap shots, or having this stomach churning need to call Mormonism a fraud, and "old Joe" a charlatan, I would rather not comment. That may be their honest opinion, but it is not mine, and to me it's pointless trying to counter such sentiments.

So much of what is brought up is resurrected from the past. And I don't disagree that sometimes it is relative to modern attitudes, but for the most part it's in the past. Like President Hinckley said, "it's behind us". Does anyone believe him? Polygamy is behind them (in reality that is); the black ban is behind them, and what Mark Petersen said in the 1950s is also behind them. Why does the past continually have to be dredged up?

However, to the point about blame, and demonising people, specifically exmos. I think both parties are to blame. But what I think exmos need to understand is that the church isn't going to change its tenets. It is a restorationist movement with numerous scriptures which urge "crying repentance" to the world, it's a black and white view, "you are with us or against us", you are good or evil. Think of Nephi's "two churches", and Lehi's dream of the river of water, and the mockers in the "great and spacious building". The literary imagery is powerful, even though it creates a divide, and it purposely does so. Even if the Book of Mormon is rejected as history, it's spiritual tenets remain, and it does not only create a divide, but it urges compassion. In many places. "This life is the time to prepare to meet God." In my study of NDEs I continually see this, that life is a time to "improve our lot", but I don't believe the Book of Mormon tells us all. We are all either growing more compassionate and gaining worthwhile knowledge in this life, or we are going backwards, or maybe on the fence for many years. So my own belief system says nothing is stagnant, and God also "remembereth the heathen" (like me), and whatever my weaknesses are, I feel admiration for people who can "improve their lot", and I believe these good LDS values are totally in line with what NDErs say, minus bigotry. Bigtory is not helpful, nor is exclusiveness, but I try to look beyond that. I think bigotry is a symptom of spiritual immaturity. Brigham Young may have said some bigoted things, as you noted above, and he said things that were not at all in harmony with what the Book of Mormon teaches. President Kimball was very different, and anyone who has read his biography cannot fail to be moved by his compassion and love for people. So why don't we focus on people like Spencer W. Kimball, who is much closer to our time, instead of dredging up quotes from Brigham Young? Take the best out of Mormonism, because it has a lot to offer. I believe, with all its faults, and yes even bigotry, it is an inspired and revealed religion. As noted by many, some of the harshest recorded words of Jesus were directed to the religious clans and religious hypocrisy and pride. I believe the Book of Mormon has the very same message. And what it says relative to persecution should be noted by Mormons inclined to bigotry:

14 They wear stiff necks and high heads; yea, and because of pride, and wickedness, and abominations, and whoredoms, they have all gone astray save it be a few, who are the humble followers of Christ; nevertheless, they are led, that in many instances they do err because they are taught by the precepts of men. 2 Ne. 28


9 Wherefore, a commandment I give unto you, which is the word of God, that ye revile no more against them because of the darkness of their skins; neither shall ye revile against them because of their filthiness; but ye shall remember your own filthiness, and remember that their filthiness came because of their fathers. Jacob 3


13 Some were lifted up in pride, and others were exceedingly humble; some did return railing for railing, while others would receive railing and persecution and all manner of afflictions, and would not turn and revile again, but were humble and penitent before God.
14 And thus there became a great inequality in all the land, insomuch that the church began to be broken up; yea, insomuch that in the *thirtieth year the church was broken up in all the land save it were among a few of the Lamanites who were converted unto the true faith; and they would not depart from it, for they were firm, and steadfast, and immovable, willing with all diligence to keep the commandments of the Lord. 3 Ne.6


Mormons who fall into the trap of "returning railing for railing" are not in tune with the Book of Mormon. So this may contribute to exmo angst and retribution, and anger. But this is NOT what the Book of Mormon teaches. This is NOT "true Mormonism". If you wish to point out those wrong attitudes, then do so, you may have a point. But we also need to remember that there are exmos on a crusade to destroy Mormonism, and let's not mince words about this - they are! They are NOT always provoked, and pre-emptively attack Mormonism, and portray it with the lowest common denominators. To them I say - let it go. Get over it, and it may take years, but let it go. It's not all that bad. I don't need their "warnings", or them telling me how bad my choice in 1975 was. I don't need to be saved by their heroic campaigns against "mis-information". Thirty-two years after joining the Church I can say, overall, it made me a much better person in many ways. The Book of Mormon says "harden not your heart" against the things of God, and I do believe that Mormonism has much that is of God, and though I fail (at this time) to measure up, this is what makes me think positively about Mormonism, overall. But then, this is my "belief system". And I think I can see the difference between good and evil. Mormonism is not a full stop for me, but a valid spiritual path in the journey of life. I don't see any point in posting long diatribes denouncing Mormonism when most of the fault lies "with men". I think it may be valid to denounce self-righteous attitudes, but I also think a good and thorough reading of the Book of Mormon will help us to have proper perspectives in doing so. The "founding text" of Mormonism is still, in my opinion, an inspired guide to human behaviour. We may not measure up, or very few do, but if we don't believe it, or it causes us to be angry, maybe we need to look inwardly first. It is not a matter of blame, but doing some soul-searching. Trying to find balance in assessment is a worthwhile thing, for both "sides".
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Re: Calling on LDS to repent of bigotry

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maklelan wrote:
beastie wrote:The cycle begins in teachings by church leaders that encourage bigotry against those who have lost their faith in the LDS church. The majority of exmormons have been exposed to many years, often decades, of these teachings - hence, the moment they lose faith, they know what the believers who remain faithful "think" and "say" about them (with some exceptions). After all, we heard it for years.


So how do you propose the situation be remedied, especially considering the fact that the majority of apostates will continue to attack the church irrespective of our stance?


For starters, the Church could apologize for the various and sundry ways in which it has screwed up. A key problem in all of this is the fact that Church has never, ever apologized for anything.
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Mister Scratch wrote:For starters, the Church could apologize for the various and sundry ways in which it has screwed up. A key problem in all of this is the fact that Church has never, ever apologized for anything.


I consider myself an apostate, and I would gladly just walk away from it all and never think about it again. But it's precisely the attitude that has been described that makes that impossible. Friends and family are not content to let me make my own decisions; nope, they have to attach all these reasons for how I became, in Gaz's words, "deluded." And the reasons are always the ones outlined by grampa75 earlier.

I don't spend much time attacking the church (at least I don't think so). I don't expect the church to apologize for its multitudinous screwups, but a simple call for members to treat us evil apostates with something approaching compassion would help.
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