Believing members: If it weren't true, would u want to know?

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ajax18 wrote:
harmony wrote:
ajax18 wrote:That's your opinion. I can see how it could work out for everyones best interest. If that is seeing that women deserve less than men in your eyes, than so be it, but in my opinion it doesn't have to be so.


How is being treated like chattel for eternity in women's best interest?


I don't really see it as being treated like chattel for eternity.


Of course you don't. You aren't on the receiving end.
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9. I still see plural marriage as potentially the most happy state a man can achieve in eternity.


Why?

So you can have sex with as many women as you wish and each women is allowed only YOU?

I'm trying to be polite (smile) I'm just curious if you have ever really thought about what this means about a guy?

It pretty much reduces a man to well, a king with a harem... a ton of power while women are subservient, with pretty much nothing in terms of a relationship with a man.

It reflects the idea that a man wants no connection, emotional attacment, intimacy, care, love, compassion, unity with a woman... just a guy having sex with whomever he wishes while the women get,... NOTHING!

Why is this even remotely a decent idea?

I could understand if the idea was that both men and women could have sex and intimacy/interaction with whomever... but a guy thinking that it is heaven for him alone to have multiple women while a woman has only him REALLY speaks to something very, disgusting to be honest.

So, enlighten me here... why do you think it is great for women to have only one man while a man can have a harem for eternity?

I seriously do not get this.

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So, enlighten me here... why do you think it is great for women to have only one man while a man can have a harem for eternity?


I already posted in another thread that I didn't have a problem with polyandry either. I'm just saying we may see things differently in the next life. We'll know different things and take different facts into consideration in our judgments. I already said this. No I don't have the specific answers as to why but I believe its possible.

I know plural marriage is disgusting to you. Maybe we should just agree to disagree on that point. Even cutting out the idea of plural marriage, my idea of the perfect male/female relationship is probably not even close to what your ideal would be. We're different people, with different needs and different desires, and probably even a different assessment of what is fair in male/female relationships.

So to get back to the original post before I inadvertently derailed it. No I don't want to know that the Church isn't true until we can come up with something better to replace it. Between a bad church with problems, and nothing, I'd have to stick with the Church with problems, at least to a certain extent. While I've even considered abandoning organized religion, I still carry with me a lot of the Church's ideas, most of which I consider to be very good things.
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Hi Ajax...

I know plural marriage is disgusting to you. Maybe we should just agree to disagree on that point. Even cutting out the idea of plural marriage, my idea of the perfect male/female relationship is probably not even close to what your ideal would be. We're different people, with different needs and different desires, and probably even a different assessment of what is fair in male/female relationships.


Yes, the harem lifestyle is disgusting to me.

But... I'm really curious why you think this lifestyle is the ideal for men.

Polyamory is completely different. This is certainly a completely different situation that has nothing to do with a man wanting multiple women for himself.

I'm talking about a man with multiple women who have to share one man.

I would very much appreciate any insight because it really speaks of something so horrible to me. I'm open to learning here.

The idea of the ideal heaven for a man being, a man having multiple women available to him while she is restricted to just him, speaks of something so cruel and ego building I just can't see how it could be anything holy or good or even remotely decent

It is like a guy wants to have all the women for him alone... he enjoys her suffering so long as he can have his pleasure. So long as his needs are attended to by his harem, he doesn't care at all for the women.

Why do you see the harem lifestyle as idea for men, if not for the obvious reasons.

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Re: Believing members: If it weren't true, would u want to k

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Jason brings up an interesting point.

The belief in general christianity is based on events that supposedly occurred around 2,000 years ago. Given that amount of time and lack of definitive records and compelling evidences, it is in my opinion easier to understand someone having faith in the whole Christ story.



This is the advantage Christianity has. It is an OLD religion. Same with Judaism. The ability to test the claims that are made in the Bible are much more difficult then it is for the supernatural claims surrounding Mormonism. Even so, Christianity has it challenges. But I often wonder if we had the plethora of writings and historical records for Jesus that we do for Joseph Smith how well Jesus would really fair.

With Mormonism, it not only occurred less than 200 years ago, but we have records, witnesses, and evidence. We are told by the leaders that their religion is factually based on these events, that they either ACTUALLY happened or they did not.




This is certainly and oft repeated statement be LDS leaders. I wonder if the realize the imprudence of making such claims.

What we argue about on boards like this is typically NOT concerning the Christ story, it is about whether these events in smith's life actually happened and if they happened in the way we have been taught about them. Much less faith is required or perhaps even allowed in these very recent events.


So does that make Christianity any more true? If you are a Christian would you want to know if Jesus was not what the New Testament clams?

The divinity of the Christ story really has nothing to do with "is the church true". Think about it. Think about all of the other requirements of Mormonism. They are based on what smith and company wrote or said. Christianity is a very small portion of Mormonism.


You were doing well till now. Of course Mormonism rests on Christianity. If the New Testament is a lie then the LDS Church cannot be true at all.
So we could ask the following questions:

1. Would you want to know if smith's first vision actually happened as it has been taught?

2. Would you want to know if smith actually translated ancient records?

3. Would you want to know if god did not ever speak to smith and all that he claimed was from god in the D&C was only from him and his associates?

4. Would you want to know if smith did not but just copied and embellished other works and ideas for his day?

5. Would you want to know if smith lied to the membership about polygamy?

6. Would you want to know if smith translated some papyrus in doctrines that you align yourself with?

7. Would you want to know if Mormonism is nothing more than just another christian based religion?



Yes of course.
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Re: Believing members: If it weren't true, would u want to k

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We know, for example, that there is more to the First Vision than is generally taught, but the extra things hardly seem to negate the experience in my opinion. Rather I think they add more details.



Typical mo'pologetic defense.


Typical rabid exmo critic repsonse.



Add more details? What smith wrote himself in 1832 and what he had his scribe write in 1838 are completely different. Additionally and coincidentally, 1838 was the year when Joe's little cult nearly dissolved. So he "adjusted" things to better align the theology in an attempt to retain members and attract new ones.



The Church nearly dissolved?? Bwaahahaha. Hardly. As for the varients int he FV accounts they are not really that problematic. The 1832 account could be slightly given he states he only saw the Lord. Int he 1835 account he says he saw two personages. Did you forget that one. Are you proposing that the 1838 account was written to hol d the Church together?


Similarly, it is indisputable that Joseph lied about polygamy. However, I don't think this in and of itself is proof that the church is false. Even Abraham lied about Sarah.

And so on and so forth.


Leave the least correct book out of the discussion. Many leaders have said the Book of Mormon and TSCC can stand on its own. So for the love of the twelve, stop trying to prop up LDS Inc with the least correct book, the Bible
.


How dumb are you PP. Where has the LDS Church ever taught the Bible is the least correct book. Straw men, red herrings and poisoning the welll dude!!!
So with that, you are stating that smith was above his own doctrines and laws as well as laws of the land.

Additionally, why would god be afraid of the his kids on earth? Last time they did not do what his supposed prophet said, he put a cap in all their asses. So why would he command smith to lie about polygamy? Roll it out prophet boy and if they don't accept it, I will put a cap in their ass!



While I do not condone the subterfuge around polygamy I understand it and am not simpleton about it like you are.
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No way. Mormonism has a short recent history, a peculiar founder who claimed to speak for god, and numerous factual difficulties that other mainstream religions do not have. Go ahead and compare it to Scientology or the Jehovah's Witnesses, but when you say it has the same problems as Protestantism, Catholicism, Islam, etc. I think you are expressing a wishful desire. Mormonism may well last 500 or 1000 years, but by then it won't look much like it does today.


Dude

how well read are you in some of the difficulties of Christianity. Have you read any Bart Ehrman? Do you realize how many sects there were when it started and that it did not seem that one was really predominent over the other. Why did what became orthodoxy emerge? Did Jesus even really start one Church? It does not seem like he did at all. There are many issues and there would be more if we had a more thorough historical record.
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Why do you see the harem lifestyle as idea for men, if not for the obvious reasons.


Maybe because of my animal ancestry? I'm not sure. Obviously I wouldn't want a harem of disgruntled and jealous women. I believe some women would be happy to share a man, if they like him enough. If you think that's impossible, than I guess we'll have to let it go at that. It seems that it was that way in times past, and I see many women much more willing to be the mistress of a rich man, than the wife of a less prestigious man. I don't really see how this phenomena fits into the idea that humans are solely about pair bonding. In some cases they look much more like monkeys than we care to admit.

Some days I think the happiest state I could achieve would be to have no wife at all. Had I been raised Catholic or another religion that allows a way out of marriage, I probably would have foregone marriage. I still credit Joseph Smith with bringing the doctrine that marriage is actually the greatest good, not celibacy. I know Martin Luther may have pushed this as well, but I think it was a very important reform.
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Hi Ajax...

Thanks for your honesty.

Maybe because of my animal ancestry?


If you think that's impossible, than I guess we'll have to let it go at that.


Nope.. I've been pretty clear that there are women who do not really like sex, men, or intimacy and they are perfect candidates for sharing a man.

It seems that it was that way in times past,


Actually even in the animal kingdom, in the harem lifestyle, the females while attached to a male are not faithful to him. They "sleep around." ;-)

I don't really see how this phenomena fits into the idea that humans are solely about pair bonding.


Research is very conclusive about this... the vast majority of humans pair bond. They just do.

Some days I think the happiest state I could achieve would be to have no wife at all. Had I been raised Catholic or another religion that allows a way out of marriage, I probably would have foregone marriage. I still credit Joseph Smith with bringing the doctrine that marriage is actually the greatest good, not celibacy. I know Martin Luther may have pushed this as well, but I think it was a very important reform.


To be honest, I wonder if you had a really fabulous marriage if you would not be less inclined to having multiple women to adore and cater to you. Just a thought.... ;-)

And maybe, if you were close to a woman you would feel less inclined to engage in a system/lifestyle that was so unequal, degrading, and where the man is the authority/dominant/supreme alpha male, with women available for sex and servitude, rather than a true partnership? I'm guessing if you were, you would want heaven to be a lovely place for a beloved woman and you would care more about her happiness.

Maybe not....?

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Re: Believing members: If it weren't true, would u want to k

Post by _mentalgymnast »

Polygamy Porter wrote:This is for believing current members.

Ray does not count, he obviously does not believe it enough to be a member again.

Regardless of what you believe, know, or how you feel, please answer this question:

If the church was not true, would you want to know?


Yes or no and a brief explanation.



Yes I would. But I don't see any way around not believing that the church is true, unless there is no God. The truth claims of the LDS church are so preposterous and outlandish that I can't fathom a God who would let such a scam continue to give so many a false hope in thinking they have the "one true way" back to his presence.

So, since I choose to believe that there is a God, I default to the church being true.

Regards,
MG
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