Rosebud wrote:Shouldn't my own perception that I am being calm, steady and am demonstrating restraint in my decisions at least affect your perceptions of my incentives and determinations to do what I hope is best even if you disagree with my decisions?
Do you, as members of the public, need my evidence or has mormonstories already provided enough of his own through his many exclusions of me and his public treatment of me in this thread and in other public and private forums? I am sure the answer will be different for each of you, but I do think this is a question that it might be worth asking yourselves if you find yourselves believing his attempts to discredit me. What do you think it is like to be in the position I am in? What would you do with all of these double binds that I am sure you are starting to see if you are paying attention and are attempting to put yourselves in my shoes?
ya know. i am going to be brutally honest here, rosebud. i know we do not know each other except by name and interactions that came up from this thread. (thank you very much mormonstories).
i have to tell you that when you asked the first question i quoted, i don't think my reaction was too favorable of you. i understand what you are saying, and asking. but i would not call your posts here, at nom, and especially the comments directed at mormonstories, by using the word "restraint." and if i, someone who is sympathetic to what you are saying, wondered if that was a lack of restraint or a premature disclosure, i can only imagine that someone else may have thought that too.
now the other part of your question. i really do not consider your perceptions when i am trying to measure the restraint. it felt like you were saying you had information and you would use it later. as if there was some shock coming later. i no longer have that impression. it feels more like two people know exactly what the other knows, and one is behaving in a way to intimidate the other to withhold information, and one is asking the other to change something. really, it all seems like a symbolic public negotiation at best, where both of you are really preparing for this to come to a head in some other way.
this is going to rely on your evidence regarding mormonstories IF you really want the public to know. when mormonstories and you had a split and you were no longer on the open stories foundation financial records or seen in public together, i think you were erased from the organization, except for the effort to erase you more. frankly, i do not think many really know anything about any of it, except that you were no longer around.
most people will never understand your position, because few have had to stand up to someone that was a confidant and a partner and a public figure - and then returned to face the person again. in this specific case, most people just go away. they erase their profiles where he may appear. they let him erase them from groups. they pretend the personal phone calls and private questions never happened, or that disclosing anything personal and private to mormonstories was just a mistake in an hour of desperation. they choose to leave. you did not. that said, even mormonstories treatment of you in this thread does not, and will not, paint a picture that aligns with your perceptions. the only thing any of us can really conclude from this conversation, regarding you, is that he acted completely douchey on this board and probably does it regularly.
