Who Knows wrote:wenglund wrote:No. I wouldn't think that was a cognitive distortion. It would only be a cognitive distortion were she to believe he was lying and deceiving her about loving her.
Ok, so if he was lying about it, then it wouldn't be cognitive distortion. Right?
That's correct.
But, for him to be lying about it, he could not have been genuine and sincere in the belief that he did love her. Right? In other words, one cannot be lying about something they genuinely and sincerely believe is true. Either he believe he doesn't love her but and is lying by saying he does, or he sincerely and genuinely believes he does love her, and he wouldn't be lying to say that he does.
No and no. No, I would not consider it a cognitive distortion for people to declare their belief in the verity of the gospel of Christ. No, it is not the opposite of what I am suggesting is a cognitive distortion. The opposite would be for someone to declare their personal belief that the Church is false. I would not consider that a congnitive distortion--at least not the one I am conserned about.
What? That doesn't even make sense.
Perhaps not to you. But it makes perfect sense to me. The opposite of claiming something is true, is to claim something is false. I really don't see what doesn't make sense about that. My not thinking it a cognitive distortion either way doesn't seem insensable to me either.
What I am suggesting is a cognitive distortion is your thinking the faithful members and leaders, who genuienly believe the Church is true, are lying and decieving about the what the Church claims. The opposite of this would be for a member of the Church to claim you, in spite of your genuine and sincere belief that the Church is false, are lying and deceiving people because the members think what you believe is false. In either case it is not a matter or lying and deceit, but simply a difference of opinion. It is a cognitive distortion to consider gunuine and sincere beliefs as lying and deceit. Did you get it that time?
So anytime someone thinks someone is lying about what a person professes is a sincere belief, that's cognitive distortion? So if you think OJ really did commit the murder - is that cognitive distortion?
Since you didn't directly answer my question, but turned it back on me. Let me return the favor by turning it back on you. In spite of your genuine and sincere belief that the Church is not true, is it a cognitive distortion for members of the Church to believe you are lying and deceiving about the Church, since they view as false what you believe about the Church?
Anyways, I don't think anyone here has accused the leaders of the church about lying about their beliefs (well, that's not even an issue for me). I could care less if Joseph Smith really was sincere in his belief that he was a prophet. Actions speak louder than words. Some people believe in the flying spaghetti monster. I think they're lying. Do you? Is that cognitive distortion?
Who or what, then, do you or Runtu believe are lying and deceiving about what the Church claims?
And, no, I don't think someone who genuinely and sincerely believes in the flying spaghetti monster is lying. I may think he may be imaginative and perhaps even delusional, but not lying and decieving. However, I do think it would be a cognitive distortion to believe those hypothetical people are lying.
Well, at least when it comes to being WRONG, you are consistent. The fact is, I could believe the Church is entirely false, and still think it a cognitive distortion for you to call genuine and sincere believers as liars and deceivers regarding their genuine and sincere beliefs.
Got it. Anytime someone thinks someone is lying, that's cognitive distortion. Whatever.
Nope, you didn't get it (see what I mean by consistent). You completely ignored the key qualifier--i.e. "genuine and sincere belief". By definition, for someone or something to be guilty of lying and deceit, it must of necessity be deliberate and intentional. In other words, someone or something would have to believe what they are saying is untrue and false, and yet claim it is true. That is just the opposite from people, such as members and leaders of the Church, or faithful adherents to the flying spaghetti monster, who believe that what they are sayng is true, are doing. And, by definition, it is a congnitive distortion to consider the Church as lying and deceitful about what the Church claims to be, when the Church firmly believes the claims to be true.
Did you finally get it that time?
But, don't take my word for it. There are numerous people in the Church who don't believe the Church is lying about what it claims, and there are numerous people who have left the Church who also don't believe the Church is lying and deceiving. There are a relitive few, like you, who do. Why do you suppose that is?
Now you're just talking out of your ass. Please show some references before saying this a third time (while ignoring the call for references).[/quote]
As confirmation for my first claim (about people in the Church), if the convert baptism rate is insufficient, and the activity rate doesn't work for you, please attend as many fast and testimony meetings as you wish, and see if there isn't ample witness to the verity of the Church (which the reasonable minded will correctly interpret as an indication that these numerous people believe the Church is telling the truth). As for confirmation of my second claim (about those who have left the Church), there are no statistics that I can point you to. My perception, like your own, is inductively reasoned based on extensive personal experiences and observations (anecdotal). Relatively few of the former members of the Church that I am personally aware of, view the Church as lying and deceiving. They simply either don't believe any longer, or have found a different belief. Take that or leave it, it doesn't much matter to me. But, please don't mis my point. The vast majority of people associated with the Church do not feel a need to publically vent and grieve because of the Church. Why do you suppose that is?
Thanks, -Wade Englund-