A truly classic MA&D thread, with a zinger from cinepro

[Guest]

Women being well covered doesn't stop men from fantasizing about them if they find them attractive, anyway.

I once posted a pic on the RfM photo album which was not scandalous in any way, but one poster there periodically sent me lusty emails which often referenced the pic on the photo album. I ignored those messages, but the fellow saw me at an exmo function, which only worsened things, so I removed the photo from the RfM album. After he noticed the picture was gone, he emailed one last time and said it wouldn't matter if I posted a pic of myself in a burka, he would still daydream about making love to me. It was the last email I got from him because I blocked his address.

At no time was I scantily clad, and even if I were, he shouldn't have pushed the issue. But somehow, probably because of my Mormon upbringing, I felt like it was partially my fault because I posted a picture that showed a little bit of cleavage. I felt somewhat responsible for his misbehavior.

I like to think that I've overcome the teaching that women are responsible for men's reactions to their bodies, but I find myself falling into those old thoughts sometimes.

Also, I think it's natural for men to find women attractive and have no problem with that at all. It's neither the mens' nor the womens' faults. It's just nature. But controlling oneself is a choice.

KA

[_The Nehor]

A woman being well covered doesn't stop men from fantasizing about them if they find them attractive, anyway.

I once posted a pic on the RfM photo album which was not scandalous in any way, but one poster there periodically sent me lusty emails which often referenced the pic on the photo album. I ignored those messages, but the fellow saw me at an exmo function, which only worsened things, so I removed the photo from the RfM album. After he noticed the picture was gone, he emailed one last time and said it wouldn't matter if I posted a pic of myself in a burka, he would still daydream about making love to me. It was the last email I got from him because I blocked his address.

At no time was I scantily clad, and even if I were, he shouldn't have pushed the issue. But somehow, probably because of my Mormon upbringing, I felt like it was partially my fault because I posted a picture that showed a little bit of cleavage. I felt somewhat responsible for his misbehavior.

I like to think that I've overcome the teaching that women are responsible for men's reactions to their bodies, but I find myself falling into those old thoughts sometimes.

Also, I think it's natural for men to find women attractive and have no problem with that at all. It's neither the mens' nor the womens' faults. It's just nature. But controlling oneself is a choice.

KA

And yet somehow creepy guys despite failing again and again are convinced that the, 'I undress you in my mind all the time' approach works.....kinda sad.

[_Scottie]

And yet somehow creepy guys despite failing again and again are convinced that the, 'I undress you in my mind all the time' approach works.....kinda sad.

What are you talking about??? It's going to work one of these times. I swear!!

[_barrelomonkeys]

No, what creepy guys try over and over is the I'm going to shriek and scream at you as I drive by, or you walk by, and hope you'll come over and play with my woody approach.

Not very effective.

[_Some Schmo]

And yet somehow creepy guys despite failing again and again are convinced that the, 'I undress you in my mind all the time' approach works.....kinda sad.

Yeah, here's a clue... while it's ok to undress a woman in your mind (I mean, that's inevitable anyway), it's probably a good idea not to let her know you're doing it.

[_Yoda]

And yet somehow creepy guys despite failing again and again are convinced that the, 'I undress you in my mind all the time' approach works.....kinda sad.

Yeah, here's a clue... while it's ok to undress a woman in your mind (I mean, that's inevitable anyway), it's probably a good idea not to let her know you're doing it.

LOL!

You're a wise man, Schmo.

(Wondering now if I could ever keep a straight face if Schmo and I met in person...I would always wonder if he was "undressing me in his mind"...LOL)

[_KimberlyAnn]

And yet somehow creepy guys despite failing again and again are convinced that the, 'I undress you in my mind all the time' approach works.....kinda sad.

Yeah, here's a clue... while it's ok to undress a woman in your mind (I mean, that's inevitable anyway), it's probably a good idea not to let her know you're doing it.

I suddenly feel exposed!

KA

[_Some Schmo]

LOL! You ladies slay me!

:)

Here's the thing: there's no point worrying about whether men are undressing you with their mind or not. It's been going on probably longer than language itself. Why worry about what's inevitable?

It's kind of like when you first hear about all the germs that are on bathroom doorknobs, you suddenly get all paranoid about touching them, but what's changed? Only your awareness. You've been touching them your whole life and lived, so why worry about it now that you've been made aware of the situation?

Boys will be boys, men will be men, and women will be undressed in men's heads. And the world just keeps on turning.

[_Yoda]

Boys will be boys, men will be men, and women will be undressed in men's heads. And the world just keeps on turning.

OMG!

That's signature worthy!

;)

[_Bond...James Bond]

I don't undress ladies with my eyes....I just naturally see them naked. I have to dress them up just to have a conversation.