Same-sex Marriage.

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Re: Same-sex Marriage.

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wenglund wrote:
krose wrote:Could someone please explain how the value of women and mothers is diminished, when many (if not most) of the same-sex couples with children consist of two women? Male-oriented homophobia, apparently.

... for your information, SSM encompasses more than marriage between two women. It also includes marriages between two men.

Well, duh (as my teen used to say). The point was that many are lesbians, which the comment about diminishing a mother's role completely ignored. But moving on...

Either way, how does the status of being married change how much a missing opposite-sex parent allegedly harms a child (keeping in mind that I do not accept for a minute that it actually does)? Married or unmarried, the parents are the exact same people. Yet your entire blog post is dedicated to the alleged harm to children caused by their gay parents being legally married.


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Either way, could you please explain how reasonably recognizing the unique value that both women and men bring to the family somehow amounts to fear of (phobia) of homosexuals?

To understand the suffix in this usage, you must stop thinking of "fear" as the only meaning. An anglophile likes English people. An anglophobe dislikes them (it's not fear here).

Hope that helps.
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Also, what is it, exactly, about having two opposite-sex parents that you think is inherently better for children? Just having both sets of organs in the house? Or is it something to do with filling the traditional, proclamation-approved gender roles of nurturer and provider?

Do you believe children are also harmed by parents who don't conform to traditional roles?

My own children were raised by an at-home father and a mother who worked full time and traveled extensively for work. They were fed, bathed, rocked, changed, taken to ballet class and comforted mainly by their dad (who hates working for a paycheck, but loves nothing more than caring for children). Their mom (a good provider who enjoys a successful and fulfilling career, but would be driven crazy staying home) spent as much time with them as she could, in a more limited role. It worked great for everyone, as evidenced by two loving, well-adjusted adults who could not have turned out to be any better people.

In every successful relationship, each parent should fill the role for which he or she is best suited, emotionally and by skill set. Not every woman is better at nurturing than her husband, and not every man is better suited to be a provider than his wife. Forcing these roles can be trouble.

Each parent, whatever their sex, brings a different skill set to the table in any joint effort of caring for children. It stands to reason that if a dad can successfully fill the old-fashioned, traditional "mom" role in a heterosexual couple, certainly one of two dads can do it. And they do.
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wenglund wrote:
First, I don't so much view myself as opposed to liberalism as I am for conservationism. In other words, I don't define myself by what I am opposed to, but by what I stand for.


It's interesting that you see yourself that way. After all, your primary project of the moment is your blog about "Leftist LUNCs" which is manifestly designed to smear and caricaturize your political opponents--your patronizing compliments of their good intentions notwithstanding.
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wenglund wrote:
palerobber wrote:meanwhile in reality...

Gallup 7/29/2013:
Position on Making Same-Sex Marriages Legal in All 50 States:
Liberals ........... 77% for, 19% against
Conservatives .... 67% against, 30% for

Washington Post/ABC 7/3/2013:
Overall, do you approve or disapprove of the U.S. Supreme Court’'s decision providing legally married same-sex couples with the same federal benefits given to other married couples?
Liberals ........... 79% approve, 20% disapprove
Conservatives .... 61% disapprove, 38% approve


which of these groups would you say is more "divided", Wade?


Good point.

However, the point I was making wasn't so much that there were differing opinions within the same political house (differences are bound to exist on a broad range of issues, particularly the "bigger the tent" of the political party), but rather the degree of animosity and the extent to which those differences may be expressed. Last I checked, Conservatives who disapprove of same-sex marriage don't have plans to boycott, nor have they organized protest marches against, those conservatives that approve. [...]


yeah, you might want to check again.

by the way, it's interesting how whenever a point you've made turns out to be bogus, it turns out that wasn't really your point after all.
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palerobber wrote:within this sandcastle of crap Wade has lovingly crafted, we find this remarkable (unsupported) claim...

In his 'article', Wade Englund wrote wrote:[...] compassion towards homosexuals, particularly with the legalization of same-sex marriage, has resulted in an increase [...] in the rate of homosexual suicides


just out of curiousity (since you don't cite any references), where did you collect this particular turd, Wade?


wenglund wrote:The documentation was provided in the preceding paragraph.

Thanks, -Wade Englund-


i read the preceding paragraph, and no, it wasn't.
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wenglund wrote:
Jaybear wrote:Could you please explain the causal connection between gay marriage and the rate of homosexual suicide. I just don't see a connection.


I didn't claim that there was necessarily a causal connection specifically with suicide [...]


yes, you did.

you wrote, "compassion towards homosexuals, particularly with the legalization of same-sex marriage, has resulted in an increase [...] in the rate of homosexual suicides."

you're a liar and a bigot and Christ, if he exists, will say he never knew you.
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Wade clearly has several personalities disorders (my guesses are likely borderline personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder). Clearly, he gets a "fix" through generating negative attention. For individuals with such personality disorders, "negative attention" is better than "no attention," at all. Being forever single, when he posts threads and comments such as this one on message boards, he's at least getting some sense of validation. Over the years, both due to my associations with him on message boards and in real life, I ultimately find him a person to be pitied, more than enraging. He rails against intimate relationships that he himself is unlikely to ever have (either with a woman or a man)--a loss as much a product of his mental illnesses as his religious fanaticism--seemingly resentful of those that have found peace and happiness by embracing someone of the same gender. He and individuals who struggle with such disorders are their own worst enemies, and, frankly, have done much to advance the cause of equal civil rights for gays and lesbians.

In my experience, however, Wade's approach and views do NOT represent the vast majority of Latter-day Saints, and I believe most would be mortified at his caustic representation of their Faith.

As I've learned with my ex-wife, the best response (in real life) towards such behaviors is to simply ignore them--though, admittedly, his words provide entertaining message board "fodder" (aptly pointed out as perhaps better described as bovine excrement)--and I suppose it's hard to not stare at the train wreck whenever we drive by one.

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wenglund wrote:
Jaybear wrote:Could you please explain the causal connection between gay marriage and the rate of homosexual suicide. I just don't see a connection.


I didn't claim that there was necessarily a causal connection specifically with suicide [...]


palerobber wrote:yes, you did.

you wrote, "compassion towards homosexuals, particularly with the legalization of same-sex marriage, has resulted in an increase [...] in the rate of homosexual suicides."

you're a liar and a bigot and Christ, if he exists, will say he never knew you.

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wenglund wrote:So, if adults are entitled to drive cars, you don't see the negative result of giving toddlers that same benefit?


We're talking about adults having the same rights as other adults. Toddlers, really?

We may not be able to establish all the benefits to an absolute certainty, but as with economic forecasts and environmental impact statements, we can offer useful, educated guesstimates.


In other words, let's restrict human rights because of "guesstimates." I think it was James Madison who said that, right?

As explained previously, in this case the government isn't dispensing freedom, per se. Rather, it is dispensing government sanctions--i.e. the states seal of approval and incentives (benefits).


If the government is going to discriminate based on guesses, maybe it's best not to grant approval or incentives to anyone. Heaven knows the costs of heterosexual marriage are astronomical and these days the benefits are negligible.

And, presumably, the government doesn't dispense its sanctions for no reason. Typically, as with other regulatory and licensing acts (like with doctors and lawyers and businesses and teachers and auto drivers), there is a rational basis (cost-benefit) for the dispensing.


Oddly enough, however, marriage has never been legally defined as between a single man and a single woman until recently, when religious conservatives wanted to make sure gays could not "redefine" marriage.

For example, regarding state sanctions for driving cars, there is good reason that the government sanctions people who have lived beyond a certain age and who have demonstrated adequate driving competency. On balance, the benefits to society exceeds the costs. However, the government doesn't dispense this sanction to toddlers because the financial and health and safety costs would far exceed the benefit to society.


So, gay people can't demonstrate adequate relationship competency such that they would qualify for marriage. Wow, that's just wrong on so many levels.

The same, in principle, holds true for the state sanctioning of marriage. Governments got into the business of sanctioning traditional marriage, in part, because they rationally surmised that the social cost of illicit heterosexual relationships would be higher than the benefits of promoting licit heterosexual relationships, and so it was in the state's interest to incentivize and regulate traditional marriage.


Governments got into the business of sanctioning marriage to protect property rights. Show me a single reference to a government that gave legal status to marriage because they thought it would promote societal stability and good.

Furthermore, because of the sexual component and the serious responsibilities associated with marriage and parenting, societies, through their governments, have considered it more than unwise to permit minors to marry. In their minds, the cost to individuals and society would far exceed any benefit (assuming there is any). So, on that rational basis, not only have they not sanctioned minor marriages, but they have even fashioned laws preventing them.


Most countries allow minors to marry with parental consent. It beggars belief that anyone would think comparing gay people with toddlers and underage drivers strengthens their case.

The point being, governmental licensing and regulations don't occur in a vacuum. Presumably there is a rational basis behind them.


Laws against miscegenation probably had a rational basis behind them, at least according to the people who wrote those laws. This idea that, because something is codified into law, it is rational and morally right is beyond bizarre. Dear God, what a mess our country would be if everyone thought like that.

Furthermore, such licensing and regulations may, over time, become conferred "civil rights" because of the rational basis, and not in spite of the rational basis.


A marriage license and certificate provide legal protections and responsibilities to the parties involved. Denying access to those rights and protections is discriminatory and unconstitutional as long as the reasons for the denial are "guesstimates" or, as is really the case, religious or social disapproval of gay relationships.

As such, I worry about people who may dispense government sanctions without a rational basis (a cost-benefit analysis). In fact, irrational legislation may have caused various Leftist LUNCS--as my blog amply explicates. I explore this point indirectly in relation to SSM in my blog post on, Same-Sex Marriage--Destructive Compassion.

Thanks, -Wade Englund-


Color me unimpressed with your laundry list of maybe-possibly unintended consequences.

Do you apply your cost-benefit analysis to the right to bear arms? The Second Amendment guarantees the right to bear arms, so that is an inviolate constitutional right. Do you favor restricting access to firearms? Handgun violence has enormous social and economic costs (with proven data, not guesstimates), so by your logic, handguns should be banned, period. Allowing people to have handguns is akin to giving a toddler the keys to the Buick.

How about abortion? Children born to unwed teen mothers are far more likely to live in poverty and engage in criminal, antisocial behavior. By your logic, those children should be aborted if we're just going on cost versus benefit.
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Wade, do you believe giving poor people the same rights as rich people is fundamentally wrong because the return on investment from poor people is significantly less than from rich people?

Do you believe children of lower IQ should be given less education, favouring instead the higher IQ students, as the cost-benefit ratio is much better?

Do you believe physically able adults should be given more rights than physically less able adults, because it's cheaper to cater for the able bodied?

Finally, can you see now just how incredibly stupid your viewpoint is?
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