lemuel wrote:And don't forget, good girls won't want to marry you if you don't serve a mission.
I have a question wrote: I attended a prospective missionary night at which a Missionary President stated that if those young men didn’t serve missions their wives and children wouldn’t be as good as they could have been. Following his presentation I approached him in the foyer area and, in front of his collection of groupies, asked him to justify his comment that my wife and children weren’t as good as they could have been, on the basis I didn’t serve a mission. His face blushed, he looked embarrassed, laughed awkwardly. I stated, deadpan, that I didn’t find it funny and wanted him to explain his comments to me. There was an awkward silence amongst the group, he then mumbled something about that’s not what he meant and he was shuffled away.
What a jumped up self-important thoughtless prick. I’m glad I had the skin thick enough to call him out in public. But he’s the norm, not an outlier. He was, as Oaks is.
Hey IHAQ,
You are not the only one who has heard that kind of sentiment from (so called) Church leaders. This kind of rhetoric has been used often I would imagine. I have certainly heard similar statements.
In my family, the brother who went on a mission ended up divorced and in a dead end job working for the LDS Church, with kids who are struggling.
The two brothers who did not go on missions ended up in stable marriages with successful business of their own, and well adjusted kids in loving, close-knit families and extended families.
Having heard these kinds of claims from arrogant Church leaders, my main regret is that I didn't respond exactly as you did.
Well done.