A very big personal problem. advice please.

_Yoda · Post by **_Yoda** » Thu Jun 19, 2008 3:37 am

Have you decided how you are going to handle the situation, Tyger? Do you still feel that it is necessary to tell your family? And, if so, have you given some thought as to how you will approach it? I liked Moniker's suggestion about possibly speaking with a school counselor first.

Also, does your school have an organization on campus called GSA (Gay-Straight Alliance)? This is a peer group which is ordinarily monitored with a faculty member. They help educate other students about healthy relationships which can exist between gay and straight students, and to not succumb to discrimination. They have activities such as a Day of Silence, etc. You may want to see if there is a chapter in your area, if there isn't one at your specific school.

Post by **_JonasS** » Thu Jun 19, 2008 9:04 am

Wow, Tygerfang.

WOW!

I don't know what to say. Perhaps because I have just got up and am sleep typing.

I think I am more wowed because you are so young and yet you can see if something is not on a moral and logical level. Sounds like you have a straight head on you. I often wish I could see clearly to know for sure that which is right for me. I think you might have just convinced me that you are gay and good for you. I don't see how it is possible I will admit that, but you are so sure and it is your life. Good luck. I am assuming you plan to leave church also, I think you might want to try running through all the scenarios in your head before doing anything, which I am sure you probably have already done, if you go through all the possible things that can happen, you are less likely o get a shock of their reaction. Also you should weigh out what is most important to you. Knowing people will become upset with you or being freer to experience life, which is most important to you? Obviously, the way I have said it doesn't help, but do adjust it to what is really going on. Just think about how you are going forward.

P.s. Who prays to God about relationships? I feel I would be wasting His time.

Good luck.

Post by **_TygerFang** » Fri Jun 20, 2008 12:40 am

liz3564 wrote:Have you decided how you are going to handle the situation, Tyger? Do you still feel that it is necessary to tell your family? And, if so, have you given some thought as to how you will approach it? I liked Moniker's suggestion about possibly speaking with a school counselor first.

Also, does your school have an organization on campus called GSA (Gay-Straight Alliance)? This is a peer group which is ordinarily monitored with a faculty member. They help educate other students about healthy relationships which can exist between gay and straight students, and to not succumb to discrimination. They have activities such as a Day of Silence, etc. You may want to see if there is a chapter in your area, if there isn't one at your specific school.

Now if only there were a counselor who wasn't a TBM and is in their office before classes start and didn't leave before they end :). I once tried to ask my counselor about my schedule and I had to wait an hour, then they told me that he wasn't going to be in anytime soon anyways so try again later. A person really doesn't have places to go if they have a problem or needs help or advice, which is really bad considering the fact that there are hundreds of teenagers that should be able to have some sort of support system.

I also still feel it necessary to tell my family, but I'm thinking that I want to wait until after my sister's surgery. Either that or just tell my parents and have them not tell my sister until after the surgery. I'll probably remind them after I tell them that yes they do love me and if all else fails tell them that I am still a good person no matter how different our beliefs and opinions are. All I can really expect when I tell them is that it's going to be rocky, I'm usually the person that they all go to for advice or just to talk with lol.

Post by **_Jersey Girl** » Fri Jun 20, 2008 5:46 am

Tyger wrote:I also still feel it necessary to tell my family, but I'm thinking that I want to wait until after my sister's surgery.

I honestly hope that's what you decide, Tyger. Not knowing you or your family, of course, but it seems to me that the wisest and least burdensome thing to do would be to wait. Not necessarily less burdensome for you, but for those you love.