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Res Ipsa wrote:Showing once again the need for a therapist/life coach.

Amen. He's either not aware of how his statements cross a line or he is aware that they do and he does it intentionally to provoke interaction/attention. Those are my only two choices here.

I see little to no reason to continue the dialogue. This is at least the second time we've all done this for him. The advice remains the same. It's not reasonable to expect people to invest more time offering support and recommendations.

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Jersey Girl wrote:
Res Ipsa wrote:Showing once again the need for a therapist/life coach.

Amen. He's either not aware of how his statements cross a line or he is aware that they do and he does it intentionally to provoke interaction/attention. Those are my only two choices here.

I see little to no reason to continue the dialogue. This is at least the second time we've all done this for him. The advice remains the same. It's not reasonable to expect people to invest more time offering support and recommendations.

Ball's in his court. He can pursue or not.

Agreed. With me, he's back to "I want a relationship but I don't have time to develop a relationship." If you don't have time to develop a relationship, you don't have time to have one, either.
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Lemmie wrote:You're not asking for 'help'. You're making an inappropriate in real life request, after posting like a creep in thread after thread after thread.

That is your just your opinion. I simply want to be in a happy relationship with a good girl. All I want is to be happy.

Lemmie wrote: There is plenty of appropriate 'help' already offered in this thread. Take it.

I am taking it.
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Chap wrote:But perhaps Doubting Thomas's apparently deliberate creepy posting style.

How do you define creepy? Is it creepy to want a good girl in your life?
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Res Ipsa wrote:Agreed. With me, he's back to "I want a relationship but I don't have time to develop a relationship." If you don't have time to develop a relationship, you don't have time to have one, either.

It helps to talk about your problems. It is like a therapy.
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Jersey Girl wrote:^^^Crossing a boundary.

Yes I know. I said that because you told me "Go to a bar".
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Lemmie wrote:
DoubtingThomas wrote:If you know a girl that likes astrobiology, logic, and technology let me know. Send me her profile so I can chat with her.

No.

DoubtingThomas wrote:I thought you wanted to help me.

Lemmie wrote:You're not asking for 'help'. You're making an inappropriate in real life request, after posting like a creep in thread after thread after thread.

That is your just your opinion.

Yes it is, DT! And guess what? When you ask questions like that, the opinion of who you ask matters!
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Re: Go to a bar? New thread

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DoubtingThomas wrote:
Chap wrote:But perhaps Doubting Thomas's apparently deliberate creepy posting style.

How do you define creepy? Is it creepy to want a good girl in your life?

Asked and answered, dozens of times, in multiple threads. Read your history. Or review Jersey Girl's post:

Jersey Girl wrote:
Res Ipsa wrote:Showing once again the need for a therapist/life coach.

Amen. He's either not aware of how his statements cross a line or he is aware that they do and he does it intentionally to provoke interaction/attention. Those are my only two choices here.

I see little to no reason to continue the dialogue. This is at least the second time we've all done this for him. The advice remains the same. It's not reasonable to expect people to invest more time offering support and recommendations.

Ball's in his court. He can pursue or not.
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Re: Go to a bar? New thread

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DoubtingThomas wrote:
Lemmie wrote: There is plenty of appropriate 'help' already offered in this thread. Take it.

I am taking it.

How have you put it to practical use?
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Re: Go to a bar? New thread

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Lemmie wrote:Yes it is, DT! And guess what? When you ask questions like that, the opinion of who you ask matters!


Just looking for help. I wasn't asking for a phone number. I simply wanted a profile on a singles website. I have access to millions of profiles, but most of them are probably fake.

Lemmie wrote: Asked and answered, dozens of times, in multiple threads. Read your history. Or review Jersey Girl's post


I was just playing (obviously) because she told me "go to a bar". I am sorry if I offended her, but she knows I don't drink. Usually when a woman tells to go to a bar it means she wants to go with you.
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