The DoubtingThomas dating / relationships MEGATHREAD

[_DoubtingThomas]

How have you put it to practical use?

Well, I signed up on more singles websites. I plan to look for some walking club in the summer. As for the therapist I am looking into it, but I want the therapist to be an atheist. I should probably get a healthcare plan first.

But for right now

It helps to talk about your problems. It is like a therapy.

[_Lemmie]

Yes it is, DT! And guess what? When you ask questions like that, the opinion of who you ask matters!

Just looking for help. I wasn't asking for a phone number. I simply wanted a profile on a singles website. I have access to millions of profiles, but most of them are probably fake.

Asking for dating information about a person I know is inappropriate, regardless of the form of information you ask for.

Asked and answered, dozens of times, in multiple threads. Read your history. Or review Jersey Girl's post

I was just playing (obviously) because she told me "go to a bar". I am sorry if I offended her, but she knows I don't drink. Usually when a woman tells to go to a bar it means she wants to go with you.

It's hard to believe you are not deliberately misconstruing what I said. Please note what I was responding to:

But perhaps Doubting Thomas's apparently deliberate creepy posting style.

How do you define creepy? Is it creepy to want a good girl in your life?

Asked and answered, dozens of times, in multiple threads. Read your history....

[_DoubtingThomas]

Asking for dating information about a person I know is inappropriate, regardless of the form of information you ask for.

Okay. I won't do it again.

It's hard to believe you are not deliberately misconstruing what I said. Please note what I was responding to:

I am not trying to. You quoted Jersey Girl to respond to my post. But in the end all I want is a good girl in my life. Life is an blink of an eye and I no longer feel eternal.

[_Res Ipsa]

How have you put it to practical use?

Well, I signed up on more singles websites. I plan to look for some walking club in the summer. As for the therapist I am looking into it, but I want the therapist to be an atheist. I should probably get a healthcare plan first.

But for right now

It helps to talk about your problems. It is like a therapy.

DT, I mentioned my walking club because that's what I do. Most of the folks are my age or older. Young guy like you might be better off looking for a hiking club.

[_honorentheos]

But in the end all I want is a good girl in my life. Life is an blink of an eye and I no longer feel eternal.

I can sympathize with that sentiment. It's one of the more startling changes in worldviews that comes with having the plug pulled on Mormonism.

I guess in my mind part of the tragedy of this is that pursuing a good girl at the expense of living a good life is both cutting into your time to appreciate the miracle of existence, and it also tends to work against the likelihood you will end up in a happy, mutually fulfilling relationship.

Take the realization that life is brief, we get one and only one go at it, and get to living it in a way that fulfills you, DT. It sounds like you have a lot of other things going on that you wish were different. You don't sound like you are feeling fulfilled in your career, or if you are just working a job for a paycheck that is taking more from you than it gives back in return. Maybe that's something that you have the ability to change even if it takes some time. Maybe doing that will open up other horizons for your life and help you expand your social circle.

As another thought, have you considered finding a way to volunteer somewhere? While it sounds like you have limited time that is your own, sometimes getting out of your own worries and concerns is the best way to get both perspective and a few new experiences that can open up your social network as well.

Basically, your point above is important for more reasons than trying to find a mate. Make a life happen, DT.

[_DoubtingThomas]

Acquire, and then have, to share with old creepy guys who may or may not have them.. It does NOT automatically imply older people already have them.

In 2017, there were 1,069,111 reported cases of chlamydial infection among persons aged 15–24 years, representing 62.6% of all reported chlamydia cases....

20–24 Year Old Females — In 2017, women aged 20–24 years had the highest rate of reported chlamydia cases (3,985.8 cases per 100,000 females) compared with any other age group for either sex...

The median age of the first marriage is now 28 years (Pew 2011), so of course older people transmit less STDs because married people usually have one partner. The STD numbers above tell us nothing about older people that are single. And statistically (on average) the older a woman is the more sexual partners she has had in her life. I wouldn't want a woman that has received a lot of d***ks or has 3+ children. That is why I would prefer 18-22.

[_DoubtingThomas]

But in the end all I want is a good girl in my life. Life is an blink of an eye and I no longer feel eternal.

I can sympathize with that sentiment. It's one of the more startling changes in worldviews that comes with having the plug pulled on Mormonism.

I guess in my mind part of the tragedy of this is that pursuing a good girl at the expense of living a good life is both cutting into your time to appreciate the miracle of existence, and it also tends to work against the likelihood you will end up in a happy, mutually fulfilling relationship.

Take the realization that life is brief, we get one and only one go at it, and get to living it in a way that fulfills you, DT. It sounds like you have a lot of other things going on that you wish were different. You don't sound like you are feeling fulfilled in your career, or if you are just working a job for a paycheck that is taking more from you than it gives back in return. Maybe that's something that you have the ability to change even if it takes some time. Maybe doing that will open up other horizons for your life and help you expand your social circle.

As another thought, have you considered finding a way to volunteer somewhere? While it sounds like you have limited time that is your own, sometimes getting out of your own worries and concerns is the best way to get both perspective and a few new experiences that can open up your social network as well.

Basically, your point above is important for more reasons than trying to find a mate. Make a life happen, DT.

Thanks for the advice. Yes I do have a lot of other things that I wish were different, but I am trying to be happy. I do appreciate that you are listening to me. But really what is going to give me a lot of joy is when SETI finds evidence of an advance civilization.

[_Lemmie]

I wouldn't want a woman that has received a lot of d***ks or has 3+ children. That is why I would prefer 18-22.

I'm split 50-50 between thinking you're a creep, or you're a fake.

[Guest]

I wouldn't want a woman that has received a lot of d***ks or has 3+ children. That is why I would prefer 18-22.

I'm split 50-50 between thinking you're a creep, or you're a fake.

Personal attacks I see. I am more interested in the statistics. Do you have any?
I am not a creep to most people, only to radical feminists.

[_DoubtingThomas]

And most women are attracted to men slightly older than them.