Would you date a woman who used to think that you had no value?
I wouldn't date one that used to think I personally had no value. Beyond that, it wouldn't stop me because a great many young people have hyper-elevated opinions of themselves and, correspondingly, what they (supposedly) "deserve."
I am not angry at women for being picky. I just don't like the ones who are very picky, but end up lowering their standards later in life. For me, that's just messed up.
The world won’t gift you the things you desire. Changing the world to suit your needs is folly, and that’s why posters here have spent time explaining to you that your journey is an internal process.
The point in telling you this (again) is to urge you to throw yourself into a world that exists, but may not be known to you right now. By putting your energy into building a philosophical (not political!) identity that helps you live in this world in the best way you know how. In other words, take the energy you’re experiencing and direct it into things that’ll grow your mind, spirit, and body in a comprehensive and healthy manner. That’s all any of us can do. And while you’re engaged in personal growth all the other stuff will work itself out, because you’ll be ‘spiritually’ equipped to handle it, however it ends up being.
The world won’t gift you the things you desire. Changing the world to suit your needs is folly, and that’s why posters here have spent time explaining to you that your journey is an internal process.
The point in telling you this (again) is to urge you to throw yourself into a world that exists, but may not be known to you right now. By putting your energy into building a philosophical (not political!) identity that helps you live in this world in the best way you know how. In other words, take the energy you’re experiencing and direct it into things that’ll grow your mind, spirit, and body in a comprehensive and healthy manner. That’s all any of us can do. And while you’re engaged in personal growth all the other stuff will work itself out, because you’ll be ‘spiritually’ equipped to handle it, however it ends up being.
- Doc
Er, yes. All that is very true. I hope that DT will take that advice.
For most people, there is some point sometimes in spending a relatively short time asking "why is the world constituted in a way that I would not have chosen as the kind of reality I would have liked to live in?" But given that this is the only world to which you will ever have access, and that for a relatively brief time, sooner or later most people need to find a way to live in it more or less as it is. Otherwise you risk going to your grave mumbling to yourself something like "well, I didn't have much fun there". But nobody will be listening.
Maksutov:
That's the problem with this supernatural stuff, it doesn't really solve anything. It's a placeholder for ignorance.
Mayan Elephant:
Not only have I denounced the Big Lie, I have denounced the Big lie big lie.
That's the same thing that many Christian and Mormon converts say. They live a wild life when they are young, but turn to the Lord when they get older. How convenient is it to learn when you are less attractive?
We all learn, but older men are pickier than older women.
The world won’t gift you the things you desire. Changing the world to suit your needs is folly, and that’s why posters here have spent time explaining to you that your journey is an internal process.
The point in telling you this (again) is to urge you to throw yourself into a world that exists, but may not be known to you right now. By putting your energy into building a philosophical (not political!) identity that helps you live in this world in the best way you know how. In other words, take the energy you’re experiencing and direct it into things that’ll grow your mind, spirit, and body in a comprehensive and healthy manner. That’s all any of us can do. And while you’re engaged in personal growth all the other stuff will work itself out, because you’ll be ‘spiritually’ equipped to handle it, however it ends up being.
- Doc
Wise advice well stated.
he/him we all just have to live through it,
holding each other’s hands.
The world won’t gift you the things you desire. Changing the world to suit your needs is folly, and that’s why posters here have spent time explaining to you that your journey is an internal process.
The point in telling you this (again) is to urge you to throw yourself into a world that exists, but may not be known to you right now. By putting your energy into building a philosophical (not political!) identity that helps you live in this world in the best way you know how. In other words, take the energy you’re experiencing and direct it into things that’ll grow your mind, spirit, and body in a comprehensive and healthy manner. That’s all any of us can do. And while you’re engaged in personal growth all the other stuff will work itself out, because you’ll be ‘spiritually’ equipped to handle it, however it ends up being.
- Doc
Er, yes. All that is very true. I hope that DT will take that advice.
For most people, there is some point sometimes in spending a relatively short time asking "why is the world constituted in a way that I would not have chosen as the kind of reality I would have liked to live in?" But given that this is the only world to which you will ever have access, and that for a relatively brief time, sooner or later most people need to find a way to live in it more or less as it is. Otherwise you risk going to your grave mumbling to yourself something like "well, I didn't have much fun there". But nobody will be listening.
More wise advice well stated.
he/him we all just have to live through it,
holding each other’s hands.
That’s all any of us can do. And while you’re engaged in personal growth all the other stuff will work itself out, because you’ll be ‘spiritually’ equipped to handle it, however it ends up being.
I am trying to grow and adapt, we don't have to make it about me.
According to the Economist, a lot of men have no friends and are lonelier in the US.
Sharon Alger, in an article for ‘Medium’ wrote:
“…Society teaches women to fear the passage of time. One day, they warn young women, you will grow old. You will age, gain weight, your boobs will drop, and wrinkles will take over your face.…” https://medium.com/sharon-alger/women-s ... 6049491aae
Not all women hit the Wall, some women over 30 and 40 are very attractive. However, "As we age we naturally tend to gain weight, to the tune of 1 to 2 pounds (lb) per year". https://www.everydayhealth.com/weight/w ... aging.aspx
A lot of people are going to be less attractive ten to fifteen years from now.
It's a good thing that men over 40 are pickier on average than women over 40.
DT, please be sure to properly attribute quotes from within the article to the actual author. Thank you! -cp-
"I have the type of (REAL) job where I can choose how to spend my time," says Marcus.
