The DoubtingThomas dating / relationships MEGATHREAD

[_Lemmie]

It would be irresponsible of readers of your posts to encourage you in this borderline illegal and definitely immoral plan.

In my state the age of consent is 16 years, so it is not borderline. I would prefer 18 to 20, but honestly I don't talk to 18 year olds.

Really? Previously:

Your age is just as relevant as the age of those 18 year-old girls you want to date.

Well, that is my preference....

It is the definition of borderline in the state you said you moved to:

What is the Utah Age of Consent?

The Utah Age of Consent is 18 years old. In the United States, the age of consent is the minimum age at which an individual is considered legally old enough to consent to participation in sexual activity. Individuals aged 17 or younger in Utah are not legally able to consent to sexual activity, and such activity may result in prosecution for statutory rape.

Utah statutory rape law is violated when a person has consensual sexual intercourse with an individual under age 18. Close in age exemptions allow teens aged 16 and 17 to consent to partners less than 7 years older, and partners between 7 and 10 years older if they had no reasonable knowledge of the minor's age.

https://www.ageofconsent.net/states/utah

You missed Miss Tish's point entirely. Your stated plan to seek out 18 year old girls who are 15 years younger than you, while misrepresenting yourself as a virgin seeking another virgin, is utterly dishonest and wildly inappropriate.

You can see me on Skype face to face and tell me if I really look 33. Now forget about me for a second, would it be wrong for an 18 year old girl to have a first time moment with a 24 year old virgin? So if an 18 year is old enough to die for the country, wouldn't he/she be old enough to decide who to date?

Now I know you're either a fake or a creep. It has nothing to do with how old you look, and you've shared here that you are not a virgin, nor are you 24. It also has nothing to do with the 18 year old being of age to join the military, so i'll say it again, a man in his mid- 30's preying on 18 year olds and pretending to be a virgin is creepy.

You should just stop posting about this topic.

[_DoubtingThomas]

Yes, you are wrong. You are not talking about age discrimination, you are talking about lying to young, inexperienced girls. It is wrong, as Miss Tish pointed out:

I sadly don't talk to women, let alone 18 year olds. I do not endorse the idea of lying to young or old girls. As for "inexperienced" girls it all depends on the woman. I would say most 18 year old girls have more experience than me.

You have to get experience and learn from your mistakes. You won't get experience by magically getting older, you have to experience relationships , life, and and take risks. That is how the real world works.

Now it is true that some men can be manipulators, but men of all ages can do it. It is wrong to manipulate someone and dating someone your age wouldn't make you less vulnerable.

DT, get help.

Rapists, sexual harassers, and molesters are predators, not me. How can I be a predator for wanting to date 18 to 20 year old adults? Now I want to (I already gave my reasons), but it doesn't mean I am going to do it.

[_Dr. Shades]

DoubtingThomas:

1. How old are you? (Notice I did NOT ask how old you look.)
2. Have you had more, about the same, or fewer sexual partners than you're willing to accept your future significant other to have had?

[_Jersey Girl]

I sadly don't talk to women, let alone 18 year olds.

Now I do feel a little bit better because I am dating a 46 year old woman that I met at the bar, but we both know that our relationship is only temporary. She is old enough to be my mother. My kind of girlfriend took me to see her friend (an energy therapist) and it was a horrible experience.

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[Guest]

The Utah Age of Consent is 18 years old.

I am currently not living in the state of Utah. But even if it is 18 years old it wouldn't matter. As I said I don't talk to 18 year girls. I can't. I am too shy in real life.

It also has nothing to do with the 18 year old being of age to join the military, so i'll say it again, a man in his mid- 30's preying on 18 year olds and pretending to be a virgin is creepy.

Preying means sexual harassment, coercion, or sexual assault. There is nothing wrong with chemistry as we are human beings. Anyways, I am not in my mid-30's thank goodness. Please stop. That is not nice.

And talking to younger women doesn't automatically make you a predator, even if I was really in my mid-30s. But that will someday be the case sadly.

[_Jersey Girl]

Send me the "proof" of my age in a PM, and send it to Jersey Girl please.

Jersey Girl hasn't asked for it.

[_DoubtingThomas]

Send me the "proof" of my age in a PM, and send it to Jersey Girl please.

Jersey Girl hasn't asked for it.

Okay please stop judging me. I have no idea what Lemmie is taking about. I mean it is possible I said some stupid stuff and perhaps I even lied about my age to sound smarter, or to simply mislead the Mormon apologists so they wouldn't figure out my identity. If Lemmie has some proof of my age she should send it to you and me in a private message to protect my identity.

And there is nothing wrong with a man in his 30s to fall in love with an 18 year old adult. I seen it happen.

[_honorentheos]

DT, if you are misrepresenting yourself and have unhealthy attitudes towards younger women among whom you seem to be looking for someone vulnerable to your attempts, as bad as they may be, you are seeking someone to prey on. Get help.

[_DoubtingThomas]

DT, if you are misrepresenting yourself and have unhealthy attitudes towards younger women among whom you seem to be looking for someone vulnerable to your attempts, as bad as they may be, you are seeking someone to prey on. Get help.

Honestly I am not very smart (socially). I have no true friends and I am the one that is vulnerable. I may need help, but it is my understanding that some men are attracted to younger women. It is like a sexual orientation. But no I wouldn't manipulate a woman (of any age) to have sex with me. Now I hope I am not attracted to 18 year old girls when I am in my mid-30s because I wouldn't want some people to call me a predator.

[_Some Schmo]

I may need help, but it is my understanding that some men are attracted to younger women. It is like a sexual orientation.

Dude... I've tried to be sympathetic and take you at face value here, but this is a creepy as “F” thing to say. It verges on "pedophilia is a sexual orientation."

No, it's not. It's a damned disorder. When you seek to take advantage of/manipulate someone in no position to reasonably consent (teenagers), you're a predator.