Professor warns of a ‘mating’ crisis. Was there was mating crisis 40 years ago?

[doubtingthomas]

We all live and learn, bud.

Would you rather that they never lower their standards?

Wait a minute! Do you realize what you just said?

You are basically saying that having high standards is a mistake.

Change your hand position on the keyboard. The way it is now, you only seem to be able to play one note.

What do you think the of words of Dr. Shades, "We all live and learn"?

[Morley]

What do you think the of words of Dr. Shades, "We all live and learn"?

Thanks for including me, Thomas, but I'm going to step aside this time. The OP isn't a topic I'm interested in engaging.

[Dr. Shades]

That's the same thing that many Christian and Mormon converts say. They live a wild life when they are young, but turn to the Lord when they get older. How convenient is it to learn when you are less attractive?

I don't think I understand your question.

We all learn, but older men are pickier than older women.

You already told us that. Several times. Why repeat it?

On average, men over 40 are pickier than women over 40. For example, men over 40 tend to look for a younger partner than their ex.

There are evolutionary imperatives for both standards. Biologically, women are compelled to invest much, much more time and resources into child-rearing than men are. Therefore, they must ensure that the sperm they harvest have the greatest likelihood of resulting in offspring that survive. That means "pickiness" because she must hedge her bets by mating with the champion. That's why 20% of men have 80% of the sex. Women over 40 can afford to be much less picky than younger women because their childbearing years are behind them and therefore don't need to be so selective about whose sperm they intake.

Men, on the other hand, have a much greater likelihood of dying young. For most of our history this was because men hunted large prey up close and personal, whereas nowadays they get interested in wars and fast cars. Therefore, they can't afford to be so picky because they have to spread their sperm as far and wide as possible to ensure that their genes have a chance to pass on to the next generation. Only once they've proven they can survive do they have the luxury of trying to impregnate only the females who have the most desirable genetic profiles.

So, it's useless for you to argue against or get upset about mating strategies that evolved over hundreds of thousands, if not millions of years.

You are basically saying that having high standards is a mistake.

If one is looking for true, heartfelt love--a luxury that humans have only been able to enjoy since the agricultural revolution, if not even later--then yes, having high standards based on physicality alone is a mistake. If one is obeying one's evolutionarily-implanted biological imperatives, then it isn't, since there are perfectly logical historical reasons for them.

[Gadianton]

1. Schools should teach students not to have unrealistic expectations.
2. Society shouldn't make fun of single men, like Marcus is doing.

You want these to be laws?

In my hypothetical dictatorship, I'd go to the source of the problem. Kids will no longer have Internet, cell phones, or video games. That should fix it.

[honorentheos]

In my hypothetical dictatorship it will be decided by large games of Red Rover. Like a potential partner? Run at them and break their hold. If they like you back, they'll make it easy. If not you might fail and then be on their side where you can't keep trying to wear them down. Eventually everyone pairs off, more or less. Then everyone shares juice boxes and plays MASH to find out what kind of place they get and how many kids they have to have. I call my dictatorship Squid Games 2.

[doubtingthomas]

So, it's useless for you to argue against or get upset about mating strategies that evolved over hundreds of thousands, if not millions of years.

Here's what I said, "I'll never date a woman who lowers her standards [after hitting the wall]"

I also said, "Not all women hit the Wall, some women over 30 and 40 are very attractive".

I am not complaining, I am simply sharing my point of view.

[Some Schmo]

Songs in the Key of D.

...minor...

OMG, this made me laugh.