The DoubtingThomas dating / relationships MEGATHREAD

[_Dr. Shades]

I simply want to know what it feels like to take the virginity from someone special.

I think this may be the root of your problem: Your goal is to take, not to give. If you want a healthy relationship, it must be the other way around.

[_Dr Exiled]

As this thread has gone on we've been getting some hints of some serious red-piller/incel

Everyone is judging me. It is not easy for me to have a sexless life. I am too old to be a virgin.

Assuming this is real, I feel for you but you come across as someone who has a complete one sided, selfish view of sex. It kinda sounds a little creepy too.

[_Some Schmo]

I simply want to know what it feels like to take the virginity from someone special.

Eat a bowl of ripe cherries. Leave the virgins alone.

What's the fascination with virgins? What are you, from the 16th century or something? "Virgin" is a another word for young and inexperienced.

I don't think you're emotionally ready for intimacy, frankly. Like Shades intimated, all you seem concerned with is what you'll get out of the relationship with little to no thought about what you bring to the table.

[_Chap]

I do agree with those who have repeatedly expressed disquiet about the disturbing attitudes expressed in the OP and in subsequent posts. And clearly this poster is simply repeating more or less the same stuff over and over again. There is no real dialogue here, nor (it seems) is there even the chance of one developing.

How about just not bothering about him? Noe of this seems to be going anywhere interesting, does it?

[_Some Schmo]

How about just not bothering about him? Noe of this seems to be going anywhere interesting, does it?

I'm very sympathetic to this attitude concerning several posters here, but I don't think DT is even in the top 10. Perhaps I am hampered by a delusion that DT is speaking more or less honestly and is looking for real answers (which would be a massive improvement over other posters who just spout bad faith nonsense on a regular basis and have no interest at all in honest conversation).

I'm not saying I don't agree that therapy might be a good idea for DT (there aren't many people in the world who wouldn't benefit from therapy), but that doesn't mean he's not telling us what's actually on his mind. I'll take crazy honesty over sane (or insane) BS any day.

[_Analytics]

How about just not bothering about him? Noe of this seems to be going anywhere interesting, does it?

I'm very sympathetic to this attitude concerning several posters here, but I don't think DT is even in the top 10. Perhaps I am hampered by a delusion that DT is speaking more or less honestly and is looking for real answers (which would be a massive improvement over other posters who just spout bad faith nonsense on a regular basis and have no interest at all in honest conversation).

I'm not saying I don't agree that therapy might be a good idea for DT (there aren't many people in the world who wouldn't benefit from therapy), but that doesn't mean he's not telling us what's actually on his mind. I'll take crazy honesty over sane (or insane) BS any day.

That is how I feel.

That said, this conversation is a broken record. It doesn't really matter whether he fantasies about a young beautiful virgin or an older more interesting individual. Being a helpless, whiny, needy, wimp is incredibly unattractive. If he is miserable in his own skin, why would anybody else want to join him?

[Guest]

Being a helpless, whiny, needy, wimp is incredibly unattractive. If he is miserable in his own skin, why would anybody else want to join him?

I am just tired because loneliness is not a good thing. You do suffer. Women do not know that I am whiny and needy, and can't possibly know that by looking at my profile on dating sites. My problem is that I work more than 40 hours a week and I don't have friends to go out with. I am not enjoying life.

It doesn't really matter whether he fantasies about a young beautiful virgin or an older more interesting individual.

Thank You!

What's the fascination with virgins? What are you, from the 16th century or something? "Virgin" is a another word for young and inexperienced.

You may be right. I will do some research to find out if that really matters at all. In my mind it does matter, but I could be wrong.

is looking for real answers

I do look for real answers and it also helps me to express my frustrations. You need to let it out.

How about just not bothering about him? Noe of this seems to be going anywhere interesting, does it?

Yea nobody cares about me in real life. That is why some become drug addicts or criminals. I really need to try drugs to feel better, but I am not going to do it.

I think this may be the root of your problem: Your goal is to take, not to give. If you want a healthy relationship, it must be the other way around.

For a healthy relationship I think it has to be both ways. You have to give and receive. I won't be looking for a virgin for ever and I am not looking for virgins only.

That's not perverse.

Why is that a bad thing? You probably lost your virginity with another virgin. But as I told Perfume on my Mind I will have to do some research to see it that matters.

[_DoubtingThomas]

Well that just ratchets up the creepiness about a thousand notches.

Asshole.

[_Lemmie]

As Analytics said it doesn't really matter.

NO, HE DID NOT SAY THAT.

What's your point in doing this? Saying creepy stuff, intentionally misinterpreting what people say-- what game are you playing?

[_DoubtingThomas]

intentionally misinterpreting what people say-- what game are you playing?

You misinterpret my words all the time. There I just deleted that. Happy?