You have a fundamental misconception about therapy that will interfere with the benefits of therapy. The cause of your obsession with who young women choose to form relationships with is the same thing that is keeping you from being happy. You’ve got a brain that is acting in ways that sabotage your happiness. Saying that you are not the problem misses the point. You have a problem. You’re not happy. How do you fix that problem? You teach your brain to stop sabotaging you so that you can be happy. And a good therapist will help you do that.
I'll to therapy to teach my brain to stop sabotaging me. I will also stop posting about these topics because I am tired of wasting my time. People don't listen. Most people aren't capable of reasoning when they have strong emotions about a topic.
I hope you are kind enough to acknowledge that I have made some valid points, I know that you know. I hope you admit it. You know I am different, I try very hard not to let my feelings dictate my beliefs about the world.
If you’re not happy, you’re not THE problem. But you HAVE a problem.
Some people here think that I am "actually a pretty bad person." Honorentheos thinks I am a threat. Does hono need therapy? Does Marcus need therapy for her obsession that everything is sexist? Marcus shows signs of anxiety, she gets very triggered and sees me as an enemy.
You’ll stop obsessing over this issue because your brain will learn that being turned down by women is not the existential threat it thinks it is today.
It'll be nice to teach my brain that. I would much rather remain single for the rest of my life, especially if I could teach my brain to be happy and single, but that's not what the theory of human evolution predicts. We evolved to have intimate partners, so the lack of an intimate partner can't be a good thing.
The fact that you mentioned getting even with women who turned you down by turning them down at some point is a huge clue that your brain is sabotaging you. Our brains spew out thoughts and emotions constantly - thousands of time every day. We teach our brains which of these thoughts and emotions are important by how we react to them. Clinging to thoughts tells the brain the thought is important. Actively resisting tells the brain the thought is important. This creates the opportunity for self reinforcing feedback loops that can lead to obsession with a thought or emotion.
True, I am a human being. Marcus quoted, "For starters, men must remember women are human beings with their own desires and goals." Why can't men be human beings too? Being too picky is a problem in society, that's the reason why there's a record number of single women in their 30s and 40s, and that's not a good thing according to the theory of human evolution.
So, I might have a problem, but it doesn't mean there aren't any serious problems in society. The fact that Mexicans and Europeans are more approachable is a strong indication that there's a serious problem in the US.
"I have the type of (REAL) job where I can choose how to spend my time," says Marcus.
That wall is real, but not all people hit the wall in their 30s or 40s, some 40-year-old women are still very attractive. Men hit the wall too but usually take a bit longer to hit it according to research studies on attractiveness.
Anyways, when are you going to admit that most women eventually stop caring about looks? That's according to the research.
more from that link:
This is a popular topic among ‘red pill’ communities, MGTOW members, incels, and similar internet hangouts. The umbrella term for groups like this is the ‘manosphere.’
Your misogynistic incel topics are old, old news. but more specifically, what you say about yourself when you recycle these old topics is not good.
Why does this theory persist?
One word: rejection. What we’re dealing with is a bunch of guys with hurt feelings because a woman (or women) dared to turn down their advances. If a guy lacks the maturity to take rejection, the wall becomes a comforting revenge fantasy:
it's too bad you can't learn from this:
The wall fantasy harms men, too. By demonizing women, they’re hindering their ability to handle rejection and therefore grow up. Everyone suffers rejection in life, and coping with maturity is an important part of adult development. When women say they find maturity attractive in a man, they’re talking about his behavior and attitude. They’re not asking for someone’s grandpa to hit on them.
...I hope you are kind enough to acknowledge that I have made some valid points...
people have been kind enough to let you know you are NOT making valid points. Your points are sexist and misogynistic. You stereotype many groups and you are a bigot. It is a kindness to tell you this here in an anonymous forum, and many have done this for you. It is NOT a kindness to humor your bigotry.
You need therapy too. What the hell is the medium? I don't read crappy blogs.
And I don't follow the manosphere, I follow the research
"A great number of studies have shown that features linked to immediate fertility explain a large part of the variance in female attractiveness. This is consistent with an evolutionary perspective, as men are expected to prefer females at the age at which fertility peaks (at least for short-term relationships) in order to increase their reproductive success. " https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jeb.13214
Anyways, as I told Res Ipsa, most people aren't capable of reasoning when they have strong emotions about a topic. You'll simply forget about the research studies I share. I am done with you.
"I have the type of (REAL) job where I can choose how to spend my time," says Marcus.
I live in Germany. People here tend to explain cultural differences between Europe and North America as adaptations to population density. Europe is more crowded, so everyone has to get along.
Europeans might be more consistently polite than Americans, but in my experience Americans are more likely to be friendly. So I don’t think that “nicer” really captures the situation well.
Medium is an American online publishing platform developed by Evan Williams and launched in August 2012. It is owned by A Medium Corporation.[2] The platform is an example of social journalism, having a hybrid collection of amateur and professional people and publications, or exclusive blogs or publishers on Medium,
"I have the type of (REAL) job where I can choose how to spend my time," says Marcus.
You need therapy too. What the hell is the medium? I don't read crappy blogs.
And I don't follow the manosphere, I follow the research
"A great number of studies have shown that features linked to immediate fertility explain a large part of the variance in female attractiveness. This is consistent with an evolutionary perspective, as men are expected to prefer females at the age at which fertility peaks (at least for short-term relationships) in order to increase their reproductive success. " https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jeb.13214
Anyways, as I told Res Ipsa, most people aren't capable of reasoning when they have strong emotions about a topic. You'll simply forget about the research studies I share. I am done with you.
and so... more of your misogynistic incel topics. you don't do research, you copy the bigotry you read.
The folk appropriation and misuse in the manosphere of evolutionary psychology
and economic theories, employed both to explain gender, and especially sexual, relations
among men and women [4–6,11] and to build a “misogynistic... [explanation]...[12,13], has
been widely acknowledged .... https://www.mdpi.com/2411-5118/3/4/43/pdf
You are utterly predictable. Stop talking about women as things.
Europeans might be more consistently polite than Americans, but in my experience Americans are more likely to be friendly. So I don’t think that “nicer” really captures the situation well.
Are young women in the US nicer than young women in Germany? Do young women on the street always wear headphones so people don't talk to them? Is ghosting very common in Germany?
"I have the type of (REAL) job where I can choose how to spend my time," says Marcus.
