The DoubtingThomas dating / relationships MEGATHREAD

[_DoubtingThomas]

During the time you spent posting this afternoon (and I think you're still on the board as I write this) you could have had a session of professional therapy.

Yea. I may soon sleep with a 46 year old woman.

[_Jersey Girl]

During the time you spent posting this afternoon (and I think you're still on the board as I write this) you could have had a session of professional therapy.

Yea. I may soon sleep with a 46 year old woman.

How is that a response to the above statement?

[_DoubtingThomas]

How is that a response to the above statement?

I do need some therapy.

[_Lemmie]

During the time you spent posting this afternoon (and I think you're still on the board as I write this) you could have had a session of professional therapy.

Yea. I may soon sleep with a 46 year old woman.

Well that settles it. A creepy fake.

[_Jersey Girl]

How is that a response to the above statement?

I do need some therapy.

How is that a response to my asking you how that is a response to my statement?

I'm not being facetious here. I'm asking you how in the hell you think you are responding to what folks are saying to you.

Because you are not.

[_Jersey Girl]

How is that a response to my asking you how that is a response to my statement?

I'm not being facetious here. I'm asking you how in the hell you think you are responding to what folks are saying to you.

Because you are not.

The ability to engage in brief two-person exchanges is something we document on three and four year old developmental assessments.

You are not showing that you can even do it in writing.

[_Jersey Girl]

How is that a response to my asking you how that is a response to my statement?

I'm not being facetious here. I'm asking you how in the hell you think you are responding to what folks are saying to you.

Because you are not.

The ability to engage in brief two-person exchanges is something we document on three and four year old developmental assessments.

You are not showing that you can even do it in writing.

You are not showing that you can even do it in written communication with other adults where you have time to read, think and respond.

And yet you think you want to enter into a relationship with a woman.

[Guest]

You are not showing that you can even do it in written communication with other adults where you have time to read, think and respond.

And yet you think you want to enter into a relationship with a woman.

You are right. Sorry for the unrelated reply.

I don't think you're emotionally ready for intimacy, frankly.

I am in a lot of trouble according to a study.

"Delaying sexual activity may “create health risks by impeding development of the emotional, cognitive, and interpersonal skills that are crucial to satisfactory sexual functioning and general well-being,” they add.

On average, respondents said they had sex for the first time around the ages of 17 or 18. Those who had their first sexual encounter at average age of 14 were considered “early starters” and those who started at age 22 or older were considered “later starters.”"

https://www.reuters.com/article/us-virg ... 7220071204

[_DoubtingThomas]

Being a helpless, whiny, needy, wimp is incredibly unattractive. If he is miserable in his own skin, why would anybody else want to join him?

I am just tired because loneliness is not a good thing. You do suffer. Women do not know that I am whiny and needy, and can't possibly know that by looking at my profile on dating sites. My problem is that I work more than 40 hours a week and I don't have friends to go out with. I am not enjoying life.

It doesn't really matter whether he fantasies about a young beautiful virgin or an older more interesting individual.

Thank You!

What's the fascination with virgins? What are you, from the 16th century or something? "Virgin" is a another word for young and inexperienced.

You may be right. I will do some research to find out if that really matters at all. In my mind it does matter, but I could be wrong.

is looking for real answers

I do look for real answers and it also helps me to express my frustrations. You need to let it out.

How about just not bothering about him? Noe of this seems to be going anywhere interesting, does it?

Yea nobody cares about me in real life. That is why some become drug addicts or criminals. I really need to try drugs to feel better, but I am not going to do it.

I think this may be the root of your problem: Your goal is to take, not to give. If you want a healthy relationship, it must be the other way around.

For a healthy relationship I think it has to be both ways. You have to give and receive. I won't be looking for a virgin for ever and I am not looking for virgins only.

That's not perverse.

Why is that a bad thing? You probably lost your virginity with another virgin. But as I told Perfume on my Mind I will have to do some research to see it that matters.

[_DoubtingThomas]

Well that settles it. A creepy fake.

I may have no choice at this point. I am in a lot of trouble according to one study.