The DoubtingThomas dating / relationships MEGATHREAD

[_DoubtingThomas]

You've been listened to and dealt with for well over a year now.

Not every day Jersey Girl. I did share new things and I simply feel the need to express my feelings. But you don't have to read Jersey Girl. Let me just talk with Xenophon and the others please.

Now my situation may be as bad as a rape victim. I may have long-term psychological damage and I need a lot of time to heal.

https://www.babcp.com/review/RTS-Trauma ... igion.aspx

For me a romantic relationship with a beautiful girl would make me feel much better. I think.

[_Lemmie]

My health is in jeopardy without sex. .

It is true according to some studies.

Not according to the article you mis-quoted. Here's what you said:

...sex is still a human need. It has many health benefits and you can really enjoy it. I need sex because my time is running out. "Delaying sexual activity may “create health risks""

https://www.reuters.com/article/us-virg ... 7220071204

Here's the context of the actual quote:

“Although our findings support an association between early initiation and long-term (STD) risk, they also suggest a more complicated picture of sexual functioning,” Sandfort and his colleagues write.

Delaying sexual activity may “create health risks by impeding development of the emotional, cognitive, and interpersonal skills that are crucial to satisfactory sexual functioning and general well-being,” they add.

Developing your "emotional, cognitive, and interpersonal skills" is the point, not

"My health is in jeopardy without sex...."

Now my situation may be as bad as a rape victim. I may have long-term psychological damage and I need a lot of time to heal.

https://www.babcp.com/review/RTS-Trauma ... igion.aspx

For me a romantic relationship with a beautiful girl would make me feel much better. I think.

Still creepy, still fake.

But I suspect you know that.

[_Some Schmo]

For me a romantic relationship with a beautiful girl would make me feel much better. I think.

Man, this is flat wrong.

You're going into any potential relationship with the idea that she needs to make you feel better. Therefore, you're already screwed. Congrats.

It's like moving to another city to escape your problems. It doesn't work because your problems are part of you, so you bring them with you.

Unless you work on them, your problems are going nowhere, with or without a girlfriend.

I'm pretty sure that's what people have told you over, and over, and over again in this thread. For some reason, it's not registering.

[_Dr Exiled]

You've been listened to and dealt with for well over a year now.

Not every day Jersey Girl. I did share new things and I simply feel the need to express my feelings. But you don't have to read Jersey Girl. Let me just talk with Xenophon and the others please.

Now my situation may be as bad as a rape victim. I may have long-term psychological damage and I need a lot of time to heal. https://www.babcp.com/review/RTS-Trauma ... igion.aspx

For me a romantic relationship with a beautiful girl would make me feel much better. I think.

Come on, bad as a rape victim? Really? Then this obvious statement about wanting a romantic relationship with a beautiful girl ..... I am beginning to think you are having a little fun at everyone's expense.

[Guest]

Come on, bad as a rape victim? Really?

I don't know, but according to Dr Marlene Winell, "Religious Trauma Syndrome (RTS) is a function of both the chronic abuses of harmful religion and the impact of severing one’s connection with one’s faith and faith community. It can be compared to a combination of PTSD and Complex PTSD (C-PTSD). In the last article of this series, I explained some of the toxic aspects of authoritarian religions that cause long-term psychological damage (Bible-based ones in particular). In this writing, I will address the trauma of breaking away from this kind of religion. With PTSD, a traumatic event is one in which a person experiences or witnesses actual or threatened death or serious injury, or a threat to the physical integrity of self or others. Losing one’s faith, or leaving one’s religion, is an analogous event because it essentially means the death of one’s previous life – the end of reality as it was understood. It is a huge shock to the system, and one that needs to be recognized as trauma."

https://www.babcp.com/review/RTS-Trauma ... igion.aspx

So it hurts not to believe in God anymore and it hurts more that you are unable to be happy. I want to be happy, but I simply can't.

[Guest]

For me a romantic relationship with a beautiful girl would make me feel much better. I think.

Come on, bad as a rape victim? Really? Then this obvious statement about wanting a romantic relationship with a beautiful girl ..... I am beginning to think you are having a little fun at everyone's expense.

That's what I think. Having some creepy little fun.

[Guest]

Unless you work on them, your problems are going nowhere, with or without a girlfriend..

What problems? My problem is that I feel lonely and I no longer believe in god. Some people go to religion to feel better, but it won't work for me. I simply want to be happy with a woman, that is all I want.

But if I have problems that I can fix right now please let me know.

[_DoubtingThomas]

That's what I think. Having some creepy little fun.

Well. I gave him a reference. All you give me are insults.

[_Some Schmo]

What problems?

It might be of benefit to you to go back to the beginning of this thread, and try reading it objectively. Pretend it's not you who wrote your posts.

But if I have problems that I can fix right now please let me know.

You already know. Loneliness is only a side-effect. Reread the thread.

[_Lemmie]

That's what I think. Having some creepy little fun.

Well. I gave him a reference. All you give me are insults.

No you didn't.