The DoubtingThomas dating / relationships MEGATHREAD

[_DoubtingThomas]

You want a woman to satisfy you, but what do you bring to the table? If all you bring to a relationship is the desire to be completed by a woman, what does she get in return?

Everything.

I find passivity of voice in many of your comments. Get out there, make mistakes, learn from them. It's like you are being the dilettante of your own experience of life, dabbling at the edges without jumping into the pool. The only way for someone to know who you are is to put your cards on the table. Are you ready to do that? Who are you? Are you comfortable with yourself? And are you willing let someone else see who you really are?

I hope. I have to.

[_Lemmie]

What about the part where it's like a continuous loop effect. Like compulsive and solution avoidant at the same time. It just keeps going on and on.

Like this?

Please give me the references....

<SNIPPED LOOP>

Would you agree?

Now do you have any references that show 18-22 year old girls can't have in a healthy relationship with a guy in his 20s?

DT, come on. You've posted many times here that you are not in your 20s.

[Guest]

DT, come on. You've posted many times here that you are not in your 20s.

I am, but it doesn't really matter. I could be 50 years old and it still wouldn't matter. Get help.

[_Lemmie]

DT, come on. You've posted many times here that you are not in your 20s.

Get help.

Everyone needs help, granted, but this thread is about you.

[Guest]

Everyone needs help, granted, but this thread is about you.

What do you want? Do you want me to post a picture of my ID? Please stop.

DT, come on. You've posted many times here that you are not in your 20s.

I am, but it doesn't really matter. I could be 50 years old and it still wouldn't matter.

[_DoubtingThomas]

All your stupid citations to psych literature to justify hooking up with an 18-year-old are so dumb, that at this point I'm not going to respond to them anymore.

It doesn't have to be a woman 18 to 22, but I do prefer a woman 18 to 22 to lower my chances of getting an STD.

You're attracted to hot young women, big deal? Go to a strip club or something.

I have. I spent more than 1,000 dollars in Little Darlings in Las Vegas. It was an experience I will never forget.

problem #3: Your job. You work a lot of hours, don't seem to get much out of it, and you don't even have medical insurance? You're clearly a smart guy, and so get a better job that has insurance. There are lots of female recruiters so it's even an excuse just to have a conversation, get out of your comfort zone a little, and break out of the dead end you're currently in to some extent at least.

That is just brilliant. Thank You!

Problem #1: you're over-thinking this whole thing and may need a clinical diagnosis to tell you why. You have higher expectations (in one dimension) than Brad Pitt and Tom Cruise combined with no realistic means to achieve what you want. Most people, when they get desperate, lower their expectations. Your expectations seems to rise, like the guy I told you about, in proportion to your desperation and your inability to achieve the object of your desire.

Yes. It seems I will have to. I will wait a little bit more with my "high expectations", but I do find most girls attractive. But for some reason I don't find the girls my age very attractive. I am not joking.

So either look for more direct ways to get sex or seriously up your game so that you have a realistic chance. Otherwise, enjoy complaining and what looks like trolling, even if it isn't.

I guess. Tinder and Match are just a waste of time.

[_Jersey Girl]

What about the part where it's like a continuous loop effect. Like compulsive and solution avoidant at the same time. It just keeps going on and on.

Like this?

Please give me the references....

<SNIPPED LOOP>

Would you agree?

Now do you have any references that show 18-22 year old girls can't have in a healthy relationship with a guy in his 20s?

DT, come on. You've posted many times here that you are not in your 20s.

Yes. There's essentially 24 pages here of him repeating himself. And the rest of us repeating ourselves in response. He seems to be the only one that doesn't have a problem with it.

[_I have a question]

Is it just me or does DT sound quite the catch....

[_Chap]

24 pages here of him repeating himself. And the rest of us repeating ourselves in response.

If only there was a way to make it stop.

Hmm. Anybody got any ideas? I'm stumped ...

[_EAllusion]

DT has repeatedly implied he is in his 20’s. Others have speculated he is older and tried to read clues in his posts as “proof” of this, but I have never seen him imply he was older.