I'm Really Lonely

Post by **_barrelomonkeys** » Wed Aug 15, 2007 5:07 pm

Jersey it was perfect! I'm printing it out and leaving it for my husband to read. And I'll be rereading it a few times too. I know it'll be better when I'm back at school. Thanks Jersey Girl! :D

Post by **_Dr. Shades** » Wed Aug 15, 2007 5:18 pm

barrelomonkeys wrote:Jersey it was perfect! I'm printing it out and leaving it for my husband to read.

What would you do if he printed out my last message and left it for you to read? :-)

Post by **_barrelomonkeys** » Wed Aug 15, 2007 5:21 pm

Dr. Shades wrote:
barrelomonkeys wrote:Jersey it was perfect! I'm printing it out and leaving it for my husband to read.

What would you do if he printed out my last message and left it for you to read? :-)

I'd read it, climb into bed and go to sleep.

:D

Post by **_KimberlyAnn** » Wed Aug 15, 2007 5:33 pm

Here's a few suggestions for what they're worth, Monkeys.

You can't change what your husband is doing right now. He needs to come home more often, true, but nagging and being pissed off when he does come home doesn't give him any incentive to come home more often, does it? I'm not suggesting that you're like that all the time, but I've been where you are now and I must admit to sometimes nagging more than I probably should have. It never did any good.

The best thing you can do is let him know how you feel, which you already have, and make his coming home worthwhile. If he's so loved and adored when he comes home that it just knocks his socks off, (business socks, lol) he won't be able to resist coming home more often and spending time with you. Don't get me wrong, you DO have a right to be upset. But he is doing what he thinks is necessary and best for the family right now, so don't hold it against him too much. Just try to be so darn irresistible that he can't say away a minute longer from home than he has to! It might not work, but it's worth a try. :)

Thinking of you,

KA

Post by **_barrelomonkeys** » Wed Aug 15, 2007 6:01 pm

KimberlyAnn wrote:Here's a few suggestions for what they're worth, Monkeys.

You can't change what your husband is doing right now. He needs to come home more often, true, but nagging and being pissed off when he does come home doesn't give him any incentive to come home more often, does it? I'm not suggesting that you're like that all the time, but I've been where you are now and I must admit to sometimes nagging more than I probably should have. It never did any good.

The best thing you can do is let him know how you feel, which you already have, and make his coming home worthwhile. If he's so loved and adored when he comes home that it just knocks his socks off, (business socks, lol) he won't be able to resist coming home more often and spending time with you. Don't get me wrong, you DO have a right to be upset. But he is doing what he thinks is necessary and best for the family right now, so don't hold it against him too much. Just try to be so darn irresistible that he can't say away a minute longer from home than he has to! It might not work, but it's worth a try. :)

Thinking of you,

KA

I understand what you're saying KA. I don't really ever nag at him. I rarely talk to him.

I actually enjoy getting *special* for him and like to please him and I think that maybe what is throwing him off? I have a hard time telling him no and need to work on it.

Another way I could get his attention is to stop shaving, stop fixing myself up for him, and put on my team building exercise t-shirt. ;P

He'll either stay away completely or realize I don't wanna play!

But I'd rather not play games. I really think when I tell him something in the terms of I need it he should be willing to listen to me. Obviously he's not.

Post by **_KimberlyAnn** » Wed Aug 15, 2007 6:15 pm

barrelomonkeys wrote:
KimberlyAnn wrote:Here's a few suggestions for what they're worth, Monkeys.

You can't change what your husband is doing right now. He needs to come home more often, true, but nagging and being pissed off when he does come home doesn't give him any incentive to come home more often, does it? I'm not suggesting that you're like that all the time, but I've been where you are now and I must admit to sometimes nagging more than I probably should have. It never did any good.

The best thing you can do is let him know how you feel, which you already have, and make his coming home worthwhile. If he's so loved and adored when he comes home that it just knocks his socks off, (business socks, lol) he won't be able to resist coming home more often and spending time with you. Don't get me wrong, you DO have a right to be upset. But he is doing what he thinks is necessary and best for the family right now, so don't hold it against him too much. Just try to be so darn irresistible that he can't say away a minute longer from home than he has to! It might not work, but it's worth a try. :)

Thinking of you,

KA

I understand what you're saying KA. I don't really ever nag at him. I rarely talk to him.

I actually enjoy getting *special* for him and like to please him and I think that maybe what is throwing him off? I have a hard time telling him no and need to work on it.

Another way I could get his attention is to stop shaving, stop fixing myself up for him, and put on my team building exercise t-shirt. ;P

He'll either stay away completely or realize I don't wanna play!

But I'd rather not play games. I really think when I tell him something in the terms of I need it he should be willing to listen to me. Obviously he's not.

Well, then, maybe the only thing left to say to him next time he comes home for a visit is, "Business hours are over....baaay bay." ;P

KA

Post by **_barrelomonkeys** » Wed Aug 15, 2007 6:26 pm

KimberlyAnn wrote:
Well, then, maybe the only thing left to say to him next time he comes home for a visit is, "Business hours are over....baaay bay." ;P

KA

LMFAO! OMG! Yep! :D

Post by **_skippy the dead** » Wed Aug 15, 2007 10:17 pm

barrelomonkeys wrote:Another way I could get his attention is to stop shaving, stop fixing myself up for him, and put on my team building exercise t-shirt. ;P

Hey - was that a sly shout-out to Flight of the Conchords?

Hope you can hang in there monkeys. I know it's rough.

Post by **_Jersey Girl** » Thu Aug 16, 2007 2:39 am

barrelomonkeys wrote:Jersey it was perfect! I'm printing it out and leaving it for my husband to read. And I'll be rereading it a few times too. I know it'll be better when I'm back at school. Thanks Jersey Girl! :D

Oh whew! Well, I thought i got it right but it's good to have confirmation! Let us know if your DH really does read the comments and what he has to say about them!

Just hang on, monkeys, it's gonna be fine. I don't know how long you've been in your current location but in my experience it takes a full year to get connected. It'll be alright!

*pats monkeys' back*

Post by **_barrelomonkeys** » Thu Aug 16, 2007 2:42 am

Jersey Girl wrote:
barrelomonkeys wrote:Jersey it was perfect! I'm printing it out and leaving it for my husband to read. And I'll be rereading it a few times too. I know it'll be better when I'm back at school. Thanks Jersey Girl! :D

Oh whew! Well, I thought I got it right but it's good to have confirmation! Let us know if your DH really does read the comments and what he has to say about them!

Just hang on, monkeys, it's gonna be fine. I don't know how long you've been in your current location but in my experience it takes a full year to get connected. It'll be alright!

*pats monkeys' back*

It's been a bit over 2 years. I hope it will get better.

I emailed him a copy as he's staying at work this evening.