The DoubtingThomas dating / relationships MEGATHREAD

[_MissTish]

I don't see many marriages lasting without faith in Christ and the attonement.

Well, that explains the near 100% divorce rate for Jews, Buddhists, Muslims, Shintoists...

You’re thick as two short planks.

[_ajax18]

I cannot find data that sides with your personal view (I'm not saying such data doesn't exist, I simply can't find it). But I did find this:

So the data says that atheists have found the best motivational reasons to commit, persevere, and stick it out long term in a marriage. What exactly are those reasons that's creating so much motivation and success for them?

One thing my atheist friends would agree with is that love never was nor is it ever 50/50. Whoever said male/female relationships were 50/50 either didn't know how to count or had never been in a relationship.

[Guest]

It’s a ridiculous way to assess people, and the fact that you comment, over and over like that, is offensive and sexist. It is difficult to imagine an adult person

Okay, let's talk like adults. Health.gov recommends, "There are other things you may want to talk to your partner about, such as: Sexual history – the number of partners you’ve had and what kind of protection you used (for example, condoms or dental dams) Risk factors – like whether you’ve had sex without a condom or used drugs with needles".

Webmd recommends, "3. Ask your partner about his or her sexual history."
https://www.webmd.com/genital-herpes/reduce-risk#1

The good thing is that women with lot of experience don't want guys with little or no experience. But I do need to find someone soon because I am running out of time.

which of course means you can continue to introduce sexism and hatred into every statement you make in response. Stop it. Your offensive sexism has no place here.

I swear I am not a sexist. I do respect women, I don't sexually harass women, I don't play games with women, and I will not care about sexual history in the far future (I want to become a father first). There is nothing wrong with a woman having a lot of sexual partners, just like there is nothing wrong for a guy to be poor.

You created a DoubtingThomas straw man and you name call like a child. You ignored Fisher and Heiman. I think you are the real troll. You hate men.

What?!! This is why I think there is a very strong probability you are simply trolling. In no way is your response an answer to Dr shades’ question.

I am answering the question in my head, it is something I need to reflect about. Please do not ignore Fisher and Heiman.

"in Model 3 (Table 4), individuals who reported more lifetime sexual partners were significantly less likely to report being sexually satisfied" .
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25370356

"Models predicting sexual satisfaction included significant physical intimacy and sexual functioning for both genders and, for men, more frequent recent sexual activity and fewer lifetime partners". Heiman suggested, "More sexual partners predicted less sexual satisfaction. Searching for a better partner or sexual experience may emerge from or be connected to a lack of sexual satisfaction rather than just a desire for sexual recreation and variety. Alternatively, more partners might indicate different standards based on greater experience."
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21267644

[_subgenius]

DT, you know what the best indicator for sexual satisfaction is? without doubt and without argument it is actually having sex...
...perhaps you should start there first, and then start to be picky...there is a saying that a hungry dog will eat anything, and I am not saying you should sniffing around roadkill, and its not a point of lowering expectations or diminishing standards - but rather it is about having the courage to find your way and take risks. don't let these haters ridicule you as being one dimensional etc, because life proves that there is woman out there that loves one dimensional dudes...point being, keep on keeping on.

[_Lemmie]

It’s a ridiculous way to assess people, and the fact that you comment, over and over like that, is offensive and sexist. It is difficult to imagine an adult person

Okay, let's talk like adults. Health.gov recommends...

You are not talking as an adult. Right there, you truncated my post, then made a response Irrelevant to my point, which was and still is:

It is difficult to imagine an adult person legitimately being as tone-deaf as you seem to be to the impact of your language, especially given how many people have commented on it, which renews my concerns that you are simply a troll, intent upon introducing sexism and misogyny into the conversation.

You continue

The good thing is that most women...

Again discussing women as commodities.

which of course means you can continue to introduce sexism and hatred into every statement you make in response. Stop it. Your offensive sexism has no place here.

I swear I am not a sexist. I do respect women, I don't sexually harass women, I don't play games with women, and I will not care about sexual history in the far future (I want to become a father first).

Your first three propositions are irrelevant to my reasons you are sexist, and your last is simply a restatement of your previous sexism.

You created a DoubtingThomas straw man and you name call like a child. You ignored Fisher and Heiman. I think you are the real troll. You hate men.

You misunderstand the data you are using to attempt to cloak your sexism, and when called on it, you lash out.

I am answering the question in my head, it is something I need to reflect about. Please do not ignore Fisher and Heiman....

<more irrelevant data SNIPPED. >

This is why I still think there is a very strong probability you are simply trolling. You are taking snippets out of context to support your sexist position.

[Guest]

things which you sort into groups of “attractiveness”

Women do it too! Women making a lot more than me will never think I am attractive. Jesus Christ how many times do I have to repeat myself? On Tinder a lot of girls say of their profiles not to talk to them if you are a short guy, but thank goodness I am tall. Did you know that a white woman is less likely to have an interracial marriage? You have to understand what a human being is. We are just apes.

You misunderstand the data you are using to attempt to cloak your sexism, and when called on it, you lash out.

What? You are trolling. Shades asked me a question for self-reflection, that has nothing to do with Fisher's and Heiman's data. Please tell me how I am misunderstanding the data.

Please do not ignore

"There are other things you may want to talk to your partner about, such as: Sexual history – the number of partners you’ve had and what kind of protection you used (for example, condoms or dental dams) Risk factors – like whether you’ve had sex without a condom or used drugs with needles".
https://health.gov/myhealthfinder/topic ... n-starters

Webmd recommends, "3. Ask your partner about his or her sexual history."
https://www.webmd.com/genital-herpes/reduce-risk#1

"in Model 3 (Table 4), individuals who reported more lifetime sexual partners were significantly less likely to report being sexually satisfied" .
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25370356

"Models predicting sexual satisfaction included significant physical intimacy and sexual functioning for both genders and, for men, more frequent recent sexual activity and fewer lifetime partners". Heiman suggested, "More sexual partners predicted less sexual satisfaction. Searching for a better partner or sexual experience may emerge from or be connected to a lack of sexual satisfaction rather than just a desire for sexual recreation and variety. Alternatively, more partners might indicate different standards based on greater experience."
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21267644
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[_Lemmie]

On Tinder

:rolleyes:

Please do not ignore

I will ignore. You cherry pick data and you fail to understand the main concepts in articles.

[_DoubtingThomas]

I will ignore. You cherry pick data and you fail to understand the main concepts in articles.

I am not cherry picking and I do understand the articles. You do not understand that women do it too. "thing"s which you sort into groups of “attractiveness” women do it all the time, both men and women.

Please let the thread die.

[_Doctor CamNC4Me]

Didn’t DT say, multiple times, he was going to stop posting on this topic?

- Doc

[Guest]

Yes, please help me end it. I do want it to end.

You have to understand human psychology, like asking a smoker about wanting to quit.