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_Lemmie
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Re: DT needs to stop obsessively posting like he is helpless

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DoubtingThomas wrote:
Sun May 03, 2020 12:44 pm
No, just let the thread die. Hopefully I am done now.
DoubtingThomas wrote:
Sun May 03, 2020 12:44 pm
This is the last thing I have to say
DoubtingThomas wrote:
Thu Apr 23, 2020 7:31 pm
Please let the thread die.
DoubtingThomas wrote:
Wed Apr 22, 2020 9:05 pm
let the thread die.
DoubtingThomas wrote:
Mon Apr 20, 2020 10:25 pm
But it doesn't matter because it is my last post on the topic.
DoubtingThomas wrote:
Mon Apr 20, 2020 10:25 pm
I really have to stop it and get over it.
DoubtingThomas wrote:
Sun Apr 19, 2020 11:39 pm
I will stop. Please let the thread die.
DoubtingThomas wrote:
Sun Apr 19, 2020 11:36 pm
No more. I promise.
Doctor CamNC4Me wrote:
Thu Apr 23, 2020 7:33 pm
Didn’t DT say, multiple times, he was going to stop posting on this topic?

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DoubtingThomas wrote:
Wed Apr 22, 2020 9:05 pm
I just quoted another paper.
Lol.
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Re: DT needs to stop obsessively posting like he is helpless

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Lemmie wrote:
Sun May 03, 2020 1:15 pm
Lol.
I honestly tried, but it is hard not to respond to your name calling and straw man.
Lemmie wrote:
Sun May 03, 2020 11:57 am
You went to an article on promiscuity to support your sexist comments. Unbelievable.
To quote it again, ""Long term ... women prefer men who are somewhat older, intelligent, and ambitious". There is evidence for that even if it has nothing to do with evolution.
https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships ... y-gender#2

You think being intelligent and funny is sexist? Is that a femenist theory? Anyway, most women are looking for men that are intelligent and funny, according to a dating coach.

By the way, aren't you going to say something about Joe Biden?
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Re: 45% of women and it is hard not to care

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You're interacting with a Ph.D. level expert in statistics while generalizing the traits of two groups from overlapping distributions for those two groups, DT. Even if you uncritically accept findings regarding mate-preference differences between sexes, it does not reduce down into "men are like this, but women are like this." In addition to being wrong, you're embarrassing yourself. Evo-psych, especially as it relates to mate preferences, is a controversial field as it is, and you can't even keep yourself to a level of caution in conclusions you can find in articles about books about studies citing its most controversial figures.
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Re: 45% of women and it is hard not to care

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I'm sure I'll regret this but I'll post again.
DoubtingThomas wrote:
Sun May 03, 2020 1:57 am
I was just trying make an argument to show that I am not interested in Ephebophilia, like EAllusion suggested. I would never risk going to jail.
This.

A normal person accused of attraction to underaged persons wouldn't need to qualify they wouldn't do something that would result in their going to jail.

Why not? Because there are a lot of steps between going to jail and being accused that don't happen for a normal person. Like, they aren't actually attracted to underaged persons for starters. You think thoughts that give rise to comments that show the underlying unhealthy thinking. Otherwise, jail wouldn't have come up as the motivating constraint here.

Also, get the “F” out of the scripts.
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Re: 45% of women and it is hard not to care

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EAllusion wrote:
Sun May 03, 2020 2:57 pm
You're interacting with a Ph.D. level expert in statistics while generalizing the traits of two groups from overlapping distributions from those two groups, DT.
Yeah, but she's a woman so what does she know other than she makes more than her male peers who are being held down by women crowding them out in the mathmatic and statistical fields donchaknow?

(Please don't hurt me, Lemmie!)
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Re: 45% of women and it is hard not to care

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honorentheos wrote:
Sun May 03, 2020 10:27 pm
A normal person
I disagree, the legal age of consent is 16 or 17 in many US states. Many men in their early 20s do date 16-17 year olds, it is more common than you think, especially with minorities and Mexicans. I understand I am no longer in my early 20s, I do look younger, But I stated many times I WOULD never date someone under the age of 18, even if the legal age is 16 or 17. No one would judge me if I date a 17 year old college girl, especially with parental consent, but I am not going to do it. It is not very uncommon and a consensual relationship with a 17 is not child abuse.

There is no evidence of depression, stress, trauma, or something harmful when a 16 year old is in a consensual relationship with someone older, according to some research papers I read. Please study evolution. What bothers me is that people go years to prison for psedoscience because they happen to be in the wrong US state. What is severely punished in some states is not punished in other states. A 20 year old dating a 16 year old is no Larry Nassar. The reason why the age of consent is 16 in most countries (including femenist countries)) is because relationships are not automatically harmful to older teenagers. A relationship is not somehow automatically abusive. If it is automatically abusive, then the age of consent needs to change to 25.
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Re: 45% of women and it is hard not to care

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EAllusion wrote:
Sun May 03, 2020 2:57 pm
You're interacting with a Ph.D. level expert in statistics while generalizing the traits of two groups from overlapping distributions from those two groups, DT. Even if you uncritically accept findings regarding mate-preference differences between sexes, it does not reduce down into "men are like this, but women are like this."
I do question everthing. I could be completly wrong.
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Re: 45% of women and it is hard not to care

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“ This is the last thing I have to say.”

You are such a bundle of sticks.

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Re: 45% of women and it is hard not to care

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Damn it, DoubtingThomas!! Do you ignore everything that everyone says to you?? Have you even TRIED to integrate ANYTHING that anyone here has told you?

Against everyone's better judgment, I'll try again:
I think there is a lot of evidence that "women prefer men who are somewhat older, intelligent, and ambitious. Men prefer women who are intelligent, too, but not as much."" Even if it has nothing to do with evolution.
Listen carefully: STOP LOOKING AT EVIDENCE. The only "evidence" that matters is whether you like someone as more than a friend, and whether she feels the same way about you. NO OTHER "EVIDENCE" MATTERS.
Anyway, most women are looking for men that are intelligent and funny, according to a dating coach.
STOP READING WHAT DATING COACHES HAVE TO SAY. Once more, the only dating that matters is the dating YOU YOURSELF do. What someone merely says about it has no bearing on your, and the woman you date's, experience.
I was quoting David P. Schmitt on long term relationships.
STOP QUOTING DAVID P. SCHMITT. Guess what? DAVID P. SCHMITT DOESN'T MATTER TO EITHER YOU OR YOUR LIFE. Why? Because DAVID P. SCHMITT ISN'T YOU.
It won't be good for my health is I don't find someone.
Do you see the problem here? The problem is that you're thinking about a relationship with a woman in terms of how YOU will personally benefit. YOU'RE ENTIRELY FAILING TO TAKE INTO ACCOUNT THE THOUGHTS, FEELINGS, AND NEEDS OF THE WOMAN. Guess what? Any woman with whom you're in a relationship will count JUST AS MUCH as you. It will be JUST AS MUCH about her as it'll be about you. Your focus shouldn't be about the ways and amounts that you will benefit; YOUR FOCUS MUST BE ON HOW HAPPY YOU CAN MAKE HER, and HOW YOU CAN IMPROVE HER LIFE AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. Anything less than that, and any future relationship is doomed to fail.
There is no evidence of depression, stress, trauma, or somethin[g] harmful when a 16 year old is in a consensual relationship with someone older, according to some research papers I read.
STOP READING RESEARCH PAPERS. QUIT. CEASE. END. NO MORE.
What bothers me is that people go years to prison for psedoscience because they happen to be in the wrong US state. What is severely punished in some states is not punished in other states.
Have YOU, personally, gone to prison for years? If not, then QUIT THINKING ABOUT IT. Whatever your personal version of social justice amounts to, you'll never see it in your lifetime, so stop thinking about it.

Did you read this, DoubtingThomas? If so, did you merely duplicate the sounds of the letters in your head, or did you comprehend that the words I typed actually mean things? If the latter, did you comprehend the meaning? If so, will you integrate them, or better yet, will you alter your methodology to bring your actions more in line with them? If not, why not?
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Re: 45% of women and it is hard not to care

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Dr. Shades wrote:
Mon May 04, 2020 12:31 am
Damn it, DoubtingThomas!! Do you ignore everything that everyone says to you?? Have you even TRIED to integrate ANYTHING that anyone here has told you?
Yes, I told EAllusion "I do question everything. I could be completly wrong".
Dr. Shades wrote:
Mon May 04, 2020 12:31 am
Do you see the problem here? The problem is that you're thinking about a relationship with a woman in terms of how YOU will personally benefit. YOU'RE ENTIRELY FAILING TO TAKE INTO ACCOUNT THE THOUGHTS, FEELINGS, AND NEEDS OF THE WOMAN. Guess what? Any woman with whom you're in a relationship will count JUST AS MUCH as you. It will be JUST AS MUCH about her as it'll be about you. Your focus shouldn't be about the ways and amounts that you will benefit; YOUR FOCUS MUST BE ON HOW HAPPY YOU CAN MAKE HER, and HOW YOU CAN IMPROVE HER LIFE AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. Anything less than that, and any future relationship is doomed to fail.
What you said is very true. In real life I try not to be selfish.
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