I'm Really Lonely

[_barrelomonkeys]

My husband was given a promotion. We were very, very excited about this. His place of employment changed hands and everyone had to reapply for their job. He reapplied for his and was given the head honcho job. He'd stuck it out at this job for years and I was really proud of him for his sacrifice for our family and was pleased he was finally in a position where he felt valued. He really loves this new position as he's the one that makes the creative decisions and is able to bring his plans to fruition. He loves the position and he hired all the great guys that worked for the old company and loves his team.

So... I sit here, it's a few minutes until 8 pm and he's still not home. He probably won't be home until 9. He works these hours 7 days a week. I feel so tired, and lonely. I don't want to rain on his parade, but I need him here. We have 4 children, and I'm really overwhelmed by him being gone.

Anyway. No need to answer. Just wanted to share. :(

[_Gazelam]

He can't take sundays off?

I had the oportunity to take over my Dads company, but decided not to for just that reason. Sure the money woudl be better, but I don't want to work 14 hour days 6 days a week, nor do I want to be responsible for a dozen people receiving their paycheck every week. So I joined the union instead.

Anyway. Glad to hear that your hisbands so good at what he does, but as Joseph Smith said, a bow can't stay strung all the time, or it will lose its spring. He needs to take sundays off.

[_Jersey Girl]

My husband was given a promotion. We were very, very excited about this. His place of employment changed hands and everyone had to reapply for their job. He reapplied for his and was given the head honcho job. He'd stuck it out at this job for years and I was really proud of him for his sacrifice for our family and was pleased he was finally in a position where he felt valued. He really loves this new position as he's the one that makes the creative decisions and is able to bring his plans to fruition. He loves the position and he hired all the great guys that worked for the old company and loves his team.

So... I sit here, it's a few minutes until 8 pm and he's still not home. He probably won't be home until 9. He works these hours 7 days a week. I feel so tired, and lonely. I don't want to rain on his parade, but I need him here. We have 4 children, and I'm really overwhelmed by him being gone.

Anyway. No need to answer. Just wanted to share. :(

monkeys, what time do you put the kids to bed? (Yes, I know I ask weird questions but I almost always do it for a reason.)

[_skippy the dead]

monkeys, what time do you put the kids to bed? (Yes, I know I ask weird questions but I almost always do it for a reason.)

And hopefully you'll let us know what that reason is here. You've piqued my interest.

[_Dr. Shades]

What ages are your kids?

[_KimberlyAnn]

I can sympathize, Monkeys. I have four kids and a husband who owns his own business with not only our family counting on him, but also the families of his employees. It can be a strain.

I'm so sorry you're feeling lonely and overwhelmed. I wish we lived near each other. I bet we'd have fun while our husbands were at work!

KA

[_sailgirl7]

My husband was given a promotion. We were very, very excited about this. His place of employment changed hands and everyone had to reapply for their job. He reapplied for his and was given the head honcho job. He'd stuck it out at this job for years and I was really proud of him for his sacrifice for our family and was pleased he was finally in a position where he felt valued. He really loves this new position as he's the one that makes the creative decisions and is able to bring his plans to fruition. He loves the position and he hired all the great guys that worked for the old company and loves his team.

So... I sit here, it's a few minutes until 8 pm and he's still not home. He probably won't be home until 9. He works these hours 7 days a week. I feel so tired, and lonely. I don't want to rain on his parade, but I need him here. We have 4 children, and I'm really overwhelmed by him being gone.

Anyway. No need to answer. Just wanted to share. :(

I hear ya sister! My husband works two jobs and is never home. He left at 7:00 am yesturday and got home after 1:00 am.! And that's pretty typical- and when he is not working- he goes and does church stuff.

So I understand the loneliness and how hard it is to take care of the kids all by yourself. Hang in there- and know you are not alone.

[_barrelomonkeys]

Gaz, right now he can't take Sunday's off. I know in a few months he'll be home more. I just felt sad last night.

Jersey, during the Summer my little guy is put to bed about 8:30, my 6 year old about 9, and the girls have their lights out at 9:30. That shifts to an hour earlier for everyone when school starts.

Dr. Shades, 2 boys: almost 3 and almost 7, 2 girls: 12 and 11

KA, Thanks. :) I'm glad I'm not alone. I think it doesn't help that it's the Summer and I'm pretty disappointed that he's missed it all. We didn't get to go on vacation or do anything. I probably just need to buck up.

Sailgirl, Thanks! I felt terrible because I was so snappy with the kids yesterday. It rained and we were all stuck inside. I get so frustrated and angry that I'm here all day with them and don't get any help. And I just miss adult company.

Anyway... right after I posted this my 11 year old daughter asked me when Daddy was coming home. She called him and he told her that he was going to take her to lunch today at a new Mexican restaurant that opened. When he got home last night he told me he's going to make a point of coming home everyday to eat with us.

Thanks for all the replies. I'm better this morning. I'm just very unaccustomed to being alone (even with 4 other people in the house) and doing all of this without my husband. I'm glad I'm not alone and there are others that are trucking on. :)

[_Blixa]

Man, I wish mine would stay away more!

He works in a University library so has shorter hours in the summer which means his home sooner kicking me off the computer when I have Important Things To Do On It!

I've got to get a laptop, soon. Not just for my research travel this summer, but so we'll each have internet access at the same time.

[_Sam Harris]

I can't sympathize with your particular situation as I've never been married, but I know what it feels like to be really lonely. I'm sorry you're going through what you're going through, and I hope you and your spouse can find a meeting place somewhere in "middle ground" in the future. With that said, you're a sweet really level person, and it sure is nice having you around here...