Were you a feminist? Are you still? Were you a poseur?

[_barrelomonkeys]

I was definitely a poseur!

I just read this quote:

And the crazy part of it was even if you were clever, even if you spent your adolescence reading John Donne and Shaw, even if you studied history or zoology or physics and hoped to spend your life pursuing some difficult and challenging career, you still had a mind full of all the soupy longings that every high-school girl was awash in... underneath it, all you longed to be was annihilated by love, to be swept off your feet, to be filled up by a giant prick spouting sperm, soapsuds, silk and satins and, of course, money. ~Erica Jong

*WHACK*
I read that, and a few other things today and realized that I have become precisely what I never wanted to be!

I am so pissed off!

Not at some man that did anything to me. Not that I've lost track of everything I wanted to do because of some man. I did it! I did it all! My fault!

I am so sickened at myself and my inability to get over that sense of romanticism that I believed would be fulfilling. It's not! I was such a poseur!

Look at this riot grrrl sitting in this home that her husband paid for on her nice furniture and her crap load of kids not doing ANYTHING she wanted to do with her life. I am such a sell out!


*barf*

[_Jersey Girl]

Sell out to what exactly?

[Guest]

TMI

[_Jersey Girl]

Sell out to what exactly?

Well I made a choice. Do I want to have a fulfilling career, life, what I always dreamed of? Or do I want to play it safe? Do I want a man to take care of me financially forever? I chose to be a trophy wife!


It seemed like a good idea at the time. I've been reading about men that date/marry younger women a lot today too. And unfortunately recognize myself, and my husband, in a lot of the literature!

monkeys,

No offense to you personally, but you're beginning to annoy me. What do you mean that you made a choice between a "fulfilling career" or letting a man "take care of me financially forever".

Forever? You're going to school are you not? Why do you think you're stuck in some position "forever"?

Trophy wife? WTH does that mean? Do you have a cleaning lady come in every week? Do you have a cook and other types of servants?

Reduced to it's simplest form...is it wrong to "let" a man take care of you and your family financially when you take care of them? That is assuming you don't have a staff of servants.

and by the way, Erica Jong is a nitwit.

Isn't there anything about you and your husband that is fortunate?

Pete sakes.

[Guest]

There is no possible way I can annoy you more than I annoy myself!!!!!

*edited to remove TMI*

[Guest]

Deleted per Book of Mormon request

Book of Mormon

Is it too late to do what you want? What would happen if you decided to be an attorney?

I don't know what that feels like to have all the things you do- so part of me can't understand what you are going through. But it makes me feel sad that you aren't the "inquisitive young woman that enjoyed life" anymore. What would you lose in trying to regain that?

[Guest]

He would leave me. It's a deal breaker.

Ignore me. I'm just whining.

[_sailgirl7]

He would leave me. It's a deal breaker.

Ignore me. I'm just whining.

That's sad, really. I can't ignore you though. :-)

[_Blixa]

I know Kathleen Hanna. Naa, naa, neener neener *sticks tongue out*...

Um, just got home from a loooong day in the NYPL archives (readin' bout Mormon castrations among other things).
I'll write more when I get time...

[_Gazelam]

I chose to be a trophy wife!

Hrumph.... and here I thought women liked to be put on a pedastal.