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Re: Two paths
Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2022 10:37 pm
by doubtingthomas
Doctor Steuss wrote: ↑Tue Dec 06, 2022 5:12 pm
One of my friends is solidly in that latter category. He’s pretty much a mess. He’s always in debt, borrowing money. He’s constantly sleeping on whoever’s couch will allow it. This isn’t from a lack of income -- his fellow bandmates have beautiful homes, money to throw at passion projects, etc. (each of them makes a solid 6-figure income, and from their beginnings 20 years ago, they have always done exceptionally well). He’s also not conventionally attractive, is overweight, and is extremely eccentric.
Is he very charismatic and funny? What part of the country is he from?
Doctor Steuss wrote: ↑Tue Dec 06, 2022 5:12 pm
Being stereotyped into a monolithic group of “x want y,” and “b need c” usually sucks.
It sucks, but I am not making stuff up.
A lot of women of a higher status ghosted me on dating apps. I am attractive enough for them to swipe right on me, but it is probably not a coincidence that I get ghosted after they learn I am not at their level. They make me feel like a second class citizen.
"Tinder Experiment Proves How Brutal it is For Average Guys"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=35fiNZTVVtU
"Tinder Experiment: 18 year Old Woman Tries Being A Man!!!"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DZTIbHIsIYw
Marcus wrote: ↑Tue Dec 06, 2022 6:13 pm
Thank you for your post.
This.
"Tinder Experiment Proves How Brutal it is For Average Guys"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=35fiNZTVVtU
Res Ipsa wrote: ↑Tue Dec 06, 2022 5:33 pm
Wise words, Steuss. DT, read the post 1x per day until you understand it — not intellectually, but deep in your gut.
I am trying, but at the same time no one understands my point of view.
Re: Two paths
Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2022 10:47 pm
by doubtingthomas
Vēritās wrote: ↑Tue Dec 06, 2022 7:17 pm
White, single, well overweight mothers who are dealing with kids their fathers abandoned, finding it economically easier for them to just marry a Mexican guy who is going to work every week and support the family. That happens a hell of a lot more than some latina hottie hooking up with much older rich white guy.
Mexicans are very diverse, are you talking about Hispanics (US citizens) or Mexicans born and raised in Mexico?
Most Mexican single moms probably think that marrying a rich white guy is a too good to be true fantasy, and I don't most rich white guys want to marry single moms.
Hispanic women are far more likely than white women to be in an interracial marriage.
https://www.pewresearch.org/social-tren ... age-01-09/
Re: Two paths
Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2022 11:12 pm
by doubtingthomas
Doctor Steuss wrote: ↑Tue Dec 06, 2022 5:12 pm
As Gad illustrated with his friend, there’s ultimately someone for everyone.
It's not mathematically possible, unless men ages 18-33 date women over 40.
https://datepsychology.com/how-have-rel ... ten-years/
And a lot of men will never be in a relationship with a woman under 40, especially men who have an intellectual disability, or are Asian, or are too short and obese.
Re: Two paths
Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2022 11:20 pm
by doubtingthomas
Doctor Steuss wrote: ↑Tue Dec 06, 2022 5:12 pm
So, to an extent, it’s a numbers game of him
It makes sense.
Re: Two paths
Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2022 11:30 pm
by doubtingthomas
Dr. Shades wrote: ↑Wed Dec 07, 2022 10:53 am
So, please tell us:
Are there, or are there not, generalized categories of women to whom you are flat-out NOT attracted, just the same way educated career women statistically won't be attracted to you? If so, how is that any more or less fair than what you've been complaining about here? And do the women in your deal-breaker category have just as much of a right to be resentful as you? If so, is that rational or irrational?
1. If a very unattractive woman really wanted to go on a date with me, I wouldn't say no.
2. I don't ghost women after swiping right on them.
3. I don't have impossible standards and I don't plan to lower my standards when I get older.
4. Don't women complain a lot about the men who want younger super models?
5. I am not complaining, I am just explaining how things are.
Re: Two paths
Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2022 11:35 pm
by Marcus
Res Ipsa wrote: ↑Tue Dec 06, 2022 5:33 pm
Wise words, Steuss. DT, read the post 1x per day until you understand it — not intellectually, but deep in your gut.
Re: Two paths
Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2022 2:05 am
by Hawkeye
5. I am not complaining, I am just explaining how things are.
Good luck with that. Women don't like you pointing out their own hypocrisies. And it does not good to prove they have double standards. You might as well be talking to a brick wall.
Doubting Thomas have you learned to speak spanish yet? It looks to me like it's all there waiting for you south of the border or even in the barrio right here in the US. And you're a liberal as well, which most mejicanas like. What's holding you back?
Re: Two paths
Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2022 9:21 am
by Dr. Shades
doubtingthomas wrote: ↑Wed Dec 07, 2022 10:37 pm
It sucks, but I am not making stuff up.
A lot of women of a higher status ghosted me on dating apps. I am attractive enough for them to swipe right on me, but it is probably not a coincidence that I get ghosted after they learn I am not at their level. They make me feel like a second class citizen.
Stop looking at it that way. By ghosting you, they just saved you a lot of time and money. Be thankful to them for weeding themselves out, thereby getting you that much closer to meeting Ms. Right.
Re: Two paths
Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2022 9:44 am
by Chap
Hawkeye wrote: ↑Thu Dec 08, 2022 2:05 am
Women don't like you pointing out their own hypocrisies. And it does not good to prove they have double standards. You might as well be talking to a brick wall.
Men, of course, react quite differently to being told that they are hypocrites with double standards. I mean, it's like "Thanks Buddy! I needed to hear that!".
Re: Two paths
Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2022 12:17 pm
by ajax18
Dr. Shades wrote: ↑Thu Dec 08, 2022 9:21 am
doubtingthomas wrote: ↑Wed Dec 07, 2022 10:37 pm
It sucks, but I am not making stuff up.
A lot of women of a higher status ghosted me on dating apps. I am attractive enough for them to swipe right on me, but it is probably not a coincidence that I get ghosted after they learn I am not at their level. They make me feel like a second class citizen.
Stop looking at it that way. By ghosting you, they just saved you a lot of time and money. Be thankful to them for weeding themselves out, thereby getting you that much closer to meeting Ms. Right.
So good to have cell phones and texts nowadays. When I was dating you were never sure if she was purposely not responding or she didn't get the message.
But yeah the ones who were honest enough to clearly state they weren't interested I really appreciated. It saved me a lot of time and money.