No, because keeping her information betrays intent. For example:
If you’re invested enough to ‘see what happens’ it means there’s an energy sink going into an unproductive outcome. Your energy is directed toward a fantasy and that’s unhealthy for both parties.doubtingthomas wrote: ↑Tue Dec 27, 2022 10:10 pmI'll stop talking to her to see if anything happens.
Well, it’s getting close to manipulation when you want to see what happens when you influence someone by withholding attention or affection. The girl in question isn’t interested in DT as a potential mate, but it doesn't mean she’s sorted herself out and doesn’t enjoy manipulating others, or enjoys attention, or is simply socially inept. But her deal isn’t DT’s deal. By deleting her deets and moving on, DT is able to focus his energy into productive endeavors that’ll move him toward his goals, whatever they are. In other words, instead of trying to influence her through bad faith actions (or inaction in this case), which is manipulative, he can choose to act in good faith with himself which isn’t manipulative.Why is one manipulative and the other not?
- Doc