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Wish I lurked for a while before returning.
Posted: Fri May 31, 2024 2:02 am
by IWMP
It's 3am. I've been reading in here for hours upon advice of others. Not found what I'm looking for. Going to sleep now. Wide awake though. But if I don't sleep I'll be feeling awful tomorrow.
Post moved to appropriate forum- Xen
Re: Wish I lurked for a while before returning.
Posted: Fri May 31, 2024 2:20 am
by High Spy
What are you looking for?
Re: Wish I lurked for a while before returning.
Posted: Fri May 31, 2024 4:30 am
by malkie
Is there something specific that we can do to help, pirate?
If participating is not fulfilling your needs, you can always go back to lurking, and return when you feel more like it.
Re: Wish I lurked for a while before returning.
Posted: Fri May 31, 2024 7:06 am
by Moksha
It is always good to look for a rebirth of wonder.
Re: Wish I lurked for a while before returning.
Posted: Fri May 31, 2024 8:24 am
by IWMP
High Spy wrote: ↑Fri May 31, 2024 2:20 am
What are you looking for?
Trying to understand why people interact with others the way they do.
Re: Wish I lurked for a while before returning.
Posted: Fri May 31, 2024 8:28 am
by IWMP
malkie wrote: ↑Fri May 31, 2024 4:30 am
Is there something specific that we can do to help, pirate?
If participating is not fulfilling your needs, you can always go back to lurking, and return when you feel more like it.
No.. thanks.
I don't think I mentioned anything about needs needing fulfilling. I felt at 3am that if I had lurked I could develop an understanding of the dynamic of how everyone reacts to each other.
Re: Wish I lurked for a while before returning.
Posted: Fri May 31, 2024 12:45 pm
by Kishkumen
Interesting exercise. I am curious to know what you learned.
Re: Wish I lurked for a while before returning.
Posted: Fri May 31, 2024 1:10 pm
by Some Schmo
Imwashingmypirate wrote: ↑Fri May 31, 2024 8:28 am
I felt at 3am that if I had lurked I could develop an understanding of the dynamic of how everyone reacts to each other.
You can do that while participating too.
I don't think there's anything special about the way this community interacts. Different personalities in any group will have their own unique dynamics with each other.
Is there a specific question you're looking to answer?
Re: Wish I lurked for a while before returning.
Posted: Fri May 31, 2024 1:14 pm
by Xenophon
Imwashingmypirate wrote: ↑Fri May 31, 2024 8:28 am
No.. thanks.
I don't think I mentioned anything about needs needing fulfilling. I felt at 3am that if I had lurked I could develop an understanding of the dynamic of how everyone reacts to each other.
Bolding mine. I think malkie was probably referencing this:
I'd be curious to know what you would hope to gain with that extra knowledge from lurking. Personally I was a LONG time lurker, I read here for years before posting. Looking back, I would have told younger Xen to jump in much sooner.
Not sure if it is at all applicable for you but for me, one of the lessons I learned very early on was to stop feeling responsible for how other posters behaved here. The only person I have any agency over is myself, so I work to keep my posts respectful, engaging, and on-topic (not saying I'm actually any good at it, but that is the goal). That mindset change was a big shift in my enjoyment of participation on the board.
Re: Wish I lurked for a while before returning.
Posted: Fri May 31, 2024 1:24 pm
by High Spy
Imwashingmypirate wrote: ↑Fri May 31, 2024 8:24 am
High Spy wrote: ↑Fri May 31, 2024 2:20 am
What are you looking for?
Trying to understand why people interact with others the way they do.
Please forgive
them.