Ben, since you brought up polygamy, I would like to ask a few questions.
What do you feel the situation with Fanny was? It is very confusing because Joseph had not received the sealing power, and yet, he and Fanny were supposedly "plural husband and wife".
Thoughts?
My thoughts? I try not to (only partly kidding). I really don't know what I think of the whole polygamy thing. I feel somewhat confident that polygamy was also seen as something that had to be restored (as part of a restoration of all things). I think that we have too many polarizing points of view that make it hard to take a middle ground, and that the truth is probably somewhere in that middle ground. For instance, Joseph, I am reasonably convinced, had intimate relations with some but certainly not all of the women sealed to him.
So what do I think the situation with Fanny was? I am inclined to believe that everyone involved saw it as a real marriage.
When we start talking about sealing power, and sealings, and all of that other stuff, I would add that the historical record doesn't give us something that is orderly or all at once. I think we had some experimental (for lack of a better word) things going on there, some of which worked well and some of which didn't - and over that initial period of time the practice changed a great deal evolving into the practice that later became more main stream for the LDS church until it was halted.
In more general terms, I don't view polygamy as an essentially bad institution, but, like many others, I recognize that it has built in limitations that really prevent it from becoming a normative or sustainable model of human relationships. Further, from my personal perspective, I am not sure I am too keen on giving up the monogamous notion of personal intimacy in marriage with no secrets and so on. Clearly polygamy goes hand in hand with a much more tolerant view of divorce - and requires (if it is to work well) a concerted effort to empower women (education, etc.) If I were to look at the scriptural institution, it was generally mandated in exceptional situations, and from a theological standpoint, I think we ought to see it as an exception and not the rule.
Ben M.