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Ray A wrote:Why bother apologising, Runtu. Look at my bolded portion of your comment.


It took me a minute to realize what you were getting at. I wasn't calling anyone names, Ray. I'm sorry you read it that way.

You see, "friend", you don't realise how cynical and sarcastic you really are, and that's why you got banned from MAD!!


I must not be particularly cynical or sarcastic if I didn't even recognize the bile in my own post. Or I'm the most clueless person alive.

You are a pretend person, you pretend to "like Mormons" (and I don't ratoozle that you're married to one), but everything you write and think oozes your deep-seated dislike of Mormonism. If you really had some decency, you wouldn't join in this hate-fest. The MAD mods sized you up to a tee, and you deserved to be banned. The mods no doubt have the spirit of discernment - it's clear that you don't, and you can't see your own bile!


Of course I dislike Mormonism. I've never pretended otherwise. I do like Mormons, including the one I'm married to.

Honestly, Ray, I worry about someone who sees cynicism and hatred where there isn't any.
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A couple of Ray’s comments:

What's the difference between you and VR? Vegas speaks what bitter apostates like you think. That much I will give him. Don't try to increase your credibility by distancing Vegas. He's one of you, and you've said nothing about him before this. So don't turn on him to make you more credible in my eyes, you two-timing A-hole.


Really? In some ways I respect Benson more. At least he has an open hatred. It is not disguised with contradictory, flowery language. Scratch praises DCP with one stroke, then in the next one he stabs him in the back. You are a nice fellow, DCP, but you are also a sinner being exposed, who has no personal or professional ethics. Praise him with one hand, slap him with the other.


My observations:

TBMs often fuss that exmormons won’t let them speak for themselves. But this is not the first time a True Believer has resorted to mind-reading tactics. Exmormons are tarred with one brush because, even if they behave more circumspectly than others, they’re still “thinking” the same thing. We’re supposed to police our own, and force them to behave somehow. Even though I’m not the one who thinks RFM is a vile cesspool of Lutherites breeding hate speech to inspire future Nazis, Ray seems to think it is my job to police them.

This is yet one more tired double standard, as TBMs don’t do a very good policing each other, either. If I go by Ray’s logic, every TBM who hasn’t policed the likes of Pahoran, or, on the old ARM board, “Red” – the TBM who broke ground with me and showed me the ugly side of Mormon/exmormon interactions by calling me “mentally ill” because I stated that I had read, and believed that HF had sex with Mary as a Mormon – then all these other believers are silent because they agree. The Pahoran and Reds are simply saying what the others think.

Of course you, Ray, prefer Benson to Scratch, because Benson plays the part you want us all to play.

Look in particular at this sentence:

You are a nice fellow, DCP, but you are also a sinner being exposed, who has no personal or professional ethics. Praise him with one hand, slap him with the other


It is very difficult for me to understand how you can type these words and not see your rank hypocrisy. This is exactly what apologists do – well, some of them. There are quite a few Bensons in their ranks, too.

The point that you seem incapable of truly registering to the point where it affects your thinking on this matter is that both sides believe the other to be horribly mistaken, and some of the mistakes seem so glaring it is inevitable that incompetence or degree of willing deception – for a cause – is involved.

The entire pointof MAD is to expose the sinner, and his lack of ethics.

Once more I quote Pratt:

" this book must be either true or false, if false it is one of the most cunning wicked bold deep-laid impositions ever pawned upon the world. Calculated to deceive and ruin millions who will really receive it as the word of God and suppose themselves securely built upon the rock of truth, until they are plunged with their families into hopeless despair. The nature of the message in the Book of Mormon is such if true no one can possibly be saved and rejected. If false no one can possibly be saved and receive it. If after a rigid examination it be found an imposition it should be extensively published to the world as such the evidences and arguments upon which the imposter was detected should be clearly and logically stated. So that those who have been sincerely yet unfortunately deceived may perceive the nature of the deception and be reclaimed. And that those who continue to publish the delusion may be exposed and silenced by evidences adduced from scripture and reason."


Pratt realized that the claims of Mormonism were so extreme that, if it were a fraud, then people would have a moral responsibility to expose it.

Today’s apologists whine mainly about why people who are completely convinced Mormonism is a fraud won’t just shut up and go away.

You know why I believe such a stark difference exists?

Because time has not been kind to LDS claims. The Book of Abraham papyri revealed what Joseph Smith “translation” talents really were. The growing information about ancient American reveals how little the Book of Mormon resembles any actual past culture. Historical research reveals problematic past prophetic teachings and actions.

Pratt lived during the brief honeymoon period of Mormonism. Most of his culture actually believed the same ideas about ancient America as repeated in the Book of Mormon. That’s a little clue where the inspiration came from. The Rosetta Stone was yet to be fully revealed to the world. Prophets had yet to completely bungle, time after time, significant moral issues as well as theological ones. Mormonism was brand new, the main arguments against it were disputes over Biblical interpretation. Ah, the good old days.

Today apologists know that critics actually have quite a bit of solid information backing up their case, and they must fall back on their testimonies to get them through the night. No one would believe except for that. So they want critics to SHUT UP, and go to all sorts of extents to insist that NOT SHUTTING UP equates an abdication of morality and decency.

Ray has kindly provided an extreme example of just that.

And finally, this:

beastie wrote:
But when exmormons do it... well, we're bitter, prejudiced, bigots who are psychologically disturbed.

Bada Bing!


I couldn't have said it better myself. I always thought you very articulate, beastie. (The "goddess" obsessed with proving Mormons wrong.)


The double standard you have demonstrated here is so remarkable that this thread ought to be archived on RFM.

It’s fine and dandy for you to make such comments… because, well, you’re right. The church is true. So we’re the bad guys. It’s ok for you, and church leaders, to call us names – sometimes in the name of Jesus Christ – but when exmormons do so – well, we’re Lutherites, providing hate speech for future Nazis, who will one day have blood on our hands.

The hubris is astounding. Breathtaking.

And in your mind, totally justified.
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beastie wrote:This is yet one more tired double standard, as TBMs don’t do a very good policing each other, either. If I go by Ray’s logic, every TBM who hasn’t policed the likes of Pahoran, or, on the old ARM board, “Red” – the TBM who broke ground with me and showed me the ugly side of Mormon/exmormon interactions by calling me “mentally ill” because I stated that I had read, and believed that HF had sex with Mary as a Mormon – then all these other believers are silent because they agree. The Pahoran and Reds are simply saying what the others think.


Are you talking about Red Davis from a.r.m.? I haven't thought of that name in a very long time.

As for your post, beastie, I think we'd all be better served if we lost the hate. But then I'm a hypocrite, so what do I know?
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Are you talking about Red Davis from a.r.m.? I haven't thought of that name in a very long time.

As for your post, beastie, I think we'd all be better served if we lost the hate. But then I'm a hypocrite, so what do I know?


Yes, Red Davis, I had forgotten his last name. It was a startling experience, and scared me away from interactions with believers for quite a while, until I was lured to ZLMB.

Of course we'd all be better served if we lost the hate. For the record, I don't hate Mormons, although, like you, I dislike much about Mormonism and think it harms some people, while it may help others. Due to the fact that Mormonism, like everything else in life, has potentially complicated impacts on lives, I do not try to deconvert other people. There are some facts I won't budge on, like the fact that the Book of Mormon is incompatible with ancient Mesoamerica, but even when I do that, I've repeatedly offered the "out" of pseudographic text. Some people probably really need Mormonism for their lives to work and make sense. Life can be tough, I don't begrudge people coping mechanisms. I have a few myself. That is why, contrary to Ray's apparent belief, I am not obsessed with proving Mormons wrong, and won't even discuss these issues with any Mormon who doesn't actively seek out such conversations. An example - although my name is supposedly off of church rolls (which I have verified with SLC), in reality, it isn't, because I periodically get phone calls from sisters who are trying to fellowship me back. I politely tell them that I don't want to discuss why I don't believe, because I don't want to hurt them. I discuss none of this with Mormons in real life.

But I remember what it was like to be a confused, wavering Mormon looking for information. I was grateful for people who provided it, including exmormons who wrote books about Mormonism in some facet, even when I may disagree with some points. So I do feel morally obligated to help others, when help was given to me. But only to those who are actively seeking out that information and help.

One of the things I've grown to dislike intensely about Mormonism is just what we've seen here - what the "one truism" type of thought does to some people. And it took the internet to really expose me to that seamy side of Mormon belief.Red Davis baptized me by fire, and the noble tradition continues, as Ray has done on this thread as well.
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beastie wrote:Of course we'd all be better served if we lost the hate. For the record, I don't hate Mormons, although, like you, I dislike much about Mormonism and think it harms some people, while it may help others. Due to the fact that Mormonism, like everything else in life, has potentially complicated impacts on lives, I do not try to deconvert other people. There are some facts I won't budge on, like the fact that the Book of Mormon is incompatible with ancient Mesoamerica, but even when I do that, I've repeatedly offered the "out" of pseudographic text. Some people probably really need Mormonism for their lives to work and make sense. Life can be tough, I don't begrudge people coping mechanisms. I have a few myself. That is why, contrary to Ray's apparent belief, I am not obsessed with proving Mormons wrong, and won't even discuss these issues with any Mormon who doesn't actively seek out such conversations. An example - although my name is supposedly off of church rolls (which I have verified with SLC), in reality, it isn't, because I periodically get phone calls from sisters who are trying to fellowship me back. I politely tell them that I don't want to discuss why I don't believe, because I don't want to hurt them. I discuss none of this with Mormons in real life.


I completely understand. In some ways, posting here helps me not talk about it at home, which is not a productive endeavor. I have no interest in deconverting anyone, and I understand just how much my leaving the church has hurt my wife. I know she grieves every day. I was thinking that I had gotten to the point where the hurt was gone and I could talk about the church politely and calmly. Now I'm wondering if I was wrong, as Ray sees some real bitterness in me that I had thought I had lost. Who knows? All I can do is try to do better each day.
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I completely understand. In some ways, posting here helps me not talk about it at home, which is not a productive endeavor. I have no interest in deconverting anyone, and I understand just how much my leaving the church has hurt my wife. I know she grieves every day. I was thinking that I had gotten to the point where the hurt was gone and I could talk about the church politely and calmly. Now I'm wondering if I was wrong, as Ray sees some real bitterness in me that I had thought I had lost. Who knows? All I can do is try to do better each day.


I've pointed this out almost every time RFM comes up - that many exmormons cannot talk about this at all, and even pretend to still believe, due to familial issues - so they vent on RFM. Better there than in their families.

I don't sense bitterness or anger in you, for what it's worth. Ray has made too many absurd statements and generalizations on this thread for me to worry one bit about what he thinks about me, much like I didn't worry about what Red Davis said to me. I just knew he wasn't someone open to communication, and was relieved my "real life" Mormons act nothing like him. I know myself, my motives, my emotions, so when some stranger on the internet makes bizarre accusations that are totally incompatible with my own life, I just figure they're revealing more about their own issues than mine.
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Thanks, beastie. That means a lot to me. It's just ironic that I met Ray when he was a seemingly embittered unbeliever, and I was a believer trying to help. Just last week I told a newcomer to be nice to Ray because he had been through some rough times. I'm just not sure where the personal animus came from. It makes me a little sad.
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beastie wrote:The entire pointof MAD is to expose the sinner, and his lack of ethics.


Yes beastie, and this truly shows how distorted your views are. I wonder if C.K. Salmon agrees with you? And so many others having their deep and dark sins exposed by MADites. No wonder you love RFM, and no wonder I was right it suits you.

beastie wrote:Today’s apologists whine mainly about why people who are completely convinced Mormonism is a fraud won’t just shut up and go away.

You know why I believe such a stark difference exists?

Because time has not been kind to LDS claims. The Book of Abraham papyri revealed what Joseph Smith “translation” talents really were. The growing information about ancient American reveals how little the Book of Mormon resembles any actual past culture. Historical research reveals problematic past prophetic teachings and actions.


No beastie, you know what the real problem is? You don't understand Mormonism. You understand it logically, but you don't understand the spiritual forces that drive it. You are a critic because you are blind, totally blind to this.


beastie wrote:The double standard you have demonstrated here is so remarkable that this thread ought to be archived on RFM.


Which is what I said, RFM is your true home, and that's why when you go on MAD your stomach starts churning.

beastie wrote:The hubris is astounding. Breathtaking.

And in your mind, totally justified.


Ditto for you. You see, the real hypocrisy is that you and others expect Mormons to abide by a higher standard of ethics than yourselves. This is what's really astounding!! You expect to attack them, and attack them, and make them a laughing stock, and if they respond in kind, they are "un-Christlike". This is just breath-taking hypocrisy! People like Dan Peterson only have to say ONE word you consider wrong, and like pit bulls attack. Juliann is still being psycho-analysed, and IF she reponds on MAD you turn on her even more! Do you people have ANY decency? Do you see why I call you the mob? Verbally you are mobbers, and merciless and have no conscience. I told you before, if you give this mobbing a rest, these personal attacks, then they will not attack you. If you take GA statements personally and feel offended by them, then you have a problem. Indeed. Those statements could apply to anyone, including me, but I don't take it personally. Just think about what this site is now - a place dedicated to attacking Mormonism - 24/7.

You remind me of the girl I saw being attacked a few weeks ago in the streets. I saw two thugs kick into this girl mercilessly
while she was on the ground screaming. What she said I have no idea, but no human being deserves that! Undoubtedly she only said offending words to the parties, and that is what I heard after. Fortunately two police officers saved her life. But my stomach churned with disgust and absolute shock. This is the sort of verbal mugging I see going on here.

Have your attacks. Keep going. One day you're going to understand why I responded like this. You are verbal savages! I feel about some of you exactly how I felt about those two thugs that night. And yes, MAD does need "policing" to keep out the thugs. You backstab, and seriously expect the object of that backstabbing to come here for more lynching.
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Runtu wrote:Thanks, beastie. That means a lot to me. It's just ironic that I met Ray when he was a seemingly embittered unbeliever, and I was a believer trying to help. Just last week I told a newcomer to be nice to Ray because he had been through some rough times. I'm just not sure where the personal animus came from. It makes me a little sad.


You're not sure where the personal animus comes from Runtu? Just look at the attacks on everyone being launched from here. Surely you're not that blind!

I was not an "embittered unbeliever", and have never changed my belief in the Book of Mormon in 33 years! I learned something most of you haven't. And that is that if you treat Mormons (on the net) with respect and courtesy, and don't insult them, and don't mock their religion, in any way, then relations will improve. But as long as you feel this "need" to be smart and even offhandedly insulting, you will never see the reasons for this discord. If you always insist on blaming the other person or party, there's no chance of reconciliation. Again, it's like a divorce. Right or wrong, give your "ex-spouse" some leeway, some slack. But what do the mob here so? Attack, attack, attack - it's ALL "their" fault. They must apologise, you are the sole victim, they are always in the wrong. Any human being with a smidgen of fairness can see how unbalanced this approach is.
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Ray,

Now you're just making up stuff whole-cloth.

I never said I expect Mormons to behave better than we do. You are the one who expects exmormons to behave better than Mormons. Mormons call us names? "Wear it." We call Mormons names? We're vile Lutherites inspiring future Nazis.

I have repeatedly pointed to the bad behavior of Mormons to demonstrate your hypocrisy in acting as if exmormons are horrible human beings in some way, while Mormons are noble defenders of the faith. You can only adhere to that distorted view if you first insist that "the church really is true" and exmormons are fighting God's one true church and are inspired by Satan. If you don't first accept that premise, you can't arrive at the conclusion you have arrived at based on evidence of behavior alone.

My stomach doesn't "churn" when I go on MAD. I don't participate there because of the very thing that you have demonstrated and Phunk discussed in the OP.

Think of a real-life scenario.

Some Mormons rent a hall to discuss issues pertinent to Mormonism, and invite exmormons and nonbelievers to attend and discuss these issues with them. So some exmormons and nonbelievers come to discuss these issues. Yet when the discussions start, it becomes clear that the Mormons hold the fact that the exmormons and nonbelievers came to discuss these issues against them and attack them for it. In fact, quite a few of the discussions have to do with what is wrong with the exmormons that they would accept such an invitation!!

Once it becomes clear that is part of the "game", then the exmormons have to decide whether it's a game they want to play. Personally, I don't.

You think I have distorted the purpose of MAD by stating its purpose is to expose the flaws of the exmormon argument and expose their "sins". I once stated on MAD, when addressing this issue, that it seemed to me that the purpose of MAD was to allow for discussion and debate between these two groups. I was vigorously corrected by Juliann. That's not the purpose of MAD at all.

So what do YOU believe the purpose of MAD is, Ray?
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