Another LDS Culture Question....

[_Yoda]

I belong to a couple of Ward email lists, and I've noticed that many of the sisters in the ward share an email account with their husbands. I find this rather odd, and rather control-freaky, but maybe that's just me.

The only women I know who share email accounts with their husbands are LDS. All of my other female friends have their own email accounts which are separate.

My husband was actually annoyed when I insisted on separate email accounts, but he didn't push the issue.

It's not that I am trying to hide anything from him, but I need my privacy space, and I think that he does, too. I receive emails from my girlfriends which involve personal issues that I know they would not want my husband reading about over my shoulder.

I just find it odd that this seems to be such a prevalent trend. Is it just my particular Ward, or have any of you noticed this?

[_Jersey Girl]

That's interesting, liz. Do the children also share a family account? The people I know who are LDS do not share accounts, children included. It's possible too, that the accounts you see listed in the Ward list are accounts that families have set up for church communication only. The LDS I correspond with who are e-friends also seem to have separate accounts and that goes for non-LDS as well, including myself.

Jersey Girl

[_gramps]

I wonder if it is an age thing?

My parents shared an e-mail address, as well. They did not have private, personal addresses. If I wanted to write to my mom, then I had to write to my dad, too. That seemed strange. In fact, often it seemed as though my father was given the role of spokesperson for the two of them.

My mother passed away years ago, my father re-married in 2006, and he and his new wife also share an account. I guess my Dad didn't want to give away that role.

On the other hand, none of my friends who are Mormon do that, but they are much younger than my parents, obviously. None of my brothers and sisters share their addresses, either.

[_The Nehor]

I don't think this is purely an LDS thing. It's more an age thing. I know a few older non-LDS couples who share an e-mail address.

[_Blixa]

I've never seen this, but then I don't receive email from LDS wards/people who aren't computer savvy.

I wouldn't care if my parents did that as long as they had email. I can't get them to even get a computer and get online. It's insanely frustrating. I hate talking on the phone (especially on days I teach. I'm so sick of the sound of my own voice by the time I get home I just want SILENCE) and they get "sad" when I don't pick up.

[_harmony]

I've never seen this, but then I don't receive email from LDS wards/people who aren't computer savvy.

I wouldn't care if my parents did that as long as they had email. I can't get them to even get a computer and get online. It's insanely frustrating. I hate talking on the phone (especially on days I teach. I'm so sick of the sound of my own voice by the time I get home I just want SILENCE) and they get "sad" when I don't pick up.

I agree it's an age thing. I deal with many older volunteers and several of them, all non-LDS, share email addresses. Some of my ward members share accounts, but I don't know what the percentage of the ward does that.

When I opened my first email account, it never occurred to me to share it with anyone.

[_Blixa]

God knows what it is that's keeping my parents from getting with it. They're not necessarily technophones either. And they can afford it. And they have children who would gladly set it up for them and show them the ropes. And I know they would LOVE it (Dad especially) if they actually saw what the internet makes possible.

I'm very cranky about this, though, for selfish reasons, too. I want to use my parents home as a base for several months of research I need to conduct in Utah and the general West. And now I'm going to have to fork out for a laptop.

[_gramps]

God knows what it is that's keeping my parents from getting with it. They're not necessarily technophones either. And they can afford it. And they have children who would gladly set it up for them and show them the ropes. And I know they would LOVE it (Dad especially) if they actually saw what the internet makes possible.

I'm very cranky about this, though, for selfish reasons, too. I want to use my parents home as a base for several months of research I need to conduct in Utah and the general West. And now I'm going to have to fork out for a laptop.

Pretty funny stuff! My father just recently was called on his 5th mission with his new wife to the London south Mission. He e-mailed me from the states asking if I thought they would have e-mail service where he was going?

You gotta love the old folks. But, then you get guys like grampa75, and it seems he has figured it out (assuming he really is a 75-year old grandpa!)

[_Alter Idem]

The only women I know who share email accounts with their husbands are LDS. All of my other female friends have their own email accounts which are separate.

My husband was actually annoyed when I insisted on separate email accounts, but he didn't push the issue.

I just find it odd that this seems to be such a prevalent trend. Is it just my particular Ward, or have any of you noticed this?

Since your husband seemed to want to share an email account, did you ask him why? Maybe his response would give you insight into why your other friends have shared email accounts.

I agree with the others..I don't think it's an LDS thing. I think older people often share an account. Among my family and aquaintances, most have our own accounts, whether LDS or not--my husband's parents share an account.

[_Gazelam]

My wife has her own e-mail account.

Why? I have no idea. I think its stupid. I have no secrets, and I don't understand this need for something private. Since when does a married couple need privacy from one another?

But I let her do what she wants. Its not a battle worth fighting, so I let her keep it, whatever.