“Also far-reaching is the effect of loss of chastity. Once given or taken or stolen it can never be regained. Even in a forced contact such as rape or incest, the injured one is greatly outraged. If she has not cooperated and contributed to the foul deed, she is of course in a more favorable position. There is no condemnation where there is no voluntary participation. It is better to die in defending one's virtue than to live having lost it without a struggle.” [emphasis mine]
Apparently it is I who needs to eat some crow. I was in fact lazy and hadn't read the thread in full, only scanned through it, not seeing the quote.
Well its obvious that the victim of the rape is not losing chastity. But the vistim does lose virtue. The question then is, how so?
This past weekend the question was raised "What would you do if your kid was molested?", my kneejerk reaction was that you kill the offender and burn their house to the ground.
Whose virtue would be lost then?
There is a quote by an unknown author that I think applies:
"Being mistreated is the most important condition of mortality, for eternity itself depends on how we view those that mistreat us."
One of the painful truths is that in order to receive exaltation, children who have been molested all their lives will have to forgive their abusers.
A life filled with hate, regret, anger, futile rage, etc... is a life unable to support the peaceful presence of the Holy Spirit. Without the Holy Ghost, a person cannot be sanctified and prepared for eternity. That would be why it would be better to die, before the anger and hatred sets in to slowly dry up and eat away at the Holy Ghost.
of coarse this is not true in every case, but I cannot imagine being raped and not spending the rest of my life wanting vengeance. What a test that would be, to forgive my abuser.