Mormon "doctrine" regarding widows

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Mormon "doctrine" regarding widows

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I put "doctrine" in quotes because I realize that much of the speculation regarding exaltation and the afterlife is pseudo-doctrine and logical conclusions based on real doctrine.

Anyway, regarding eternal marriage, it all makes sense if a man is married to a woman in the temple and they live out their lives faithfully to old age, then die. They go to the CK, gain exaltation, and live as man and wife forever. Great!

However, there are exceptions in life. What if one of them dies and the other remarries. D&C 132 allows for polygamy, but only in the case of men having multiple wives. Women are forbidden from having multiple husbands. I've heard that men can remarry if their wife dies, and if all were worthy during this life, the man will be sealed to both for time and all eternity, in other words, he will be a polygamist in heaven. Great!

But what about women? If a woman is sealed to a man in the temple, and he dies while in good standing, is the woman allowed to remarry in the temple and gain two husbands for time and all eternity? Or is she not allowed to remarry in the temple once she's married one time?
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Re: Mormon "doctrine" regarding widows

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SatanWasSetUp wrote:But what about women? If a woman is sealed to a man in the temple, and he dies while in good standing, is the woman allowed to remarry in the temple and gain two husbands for time and all eternity? Or is she not allowed to remarry in the temple once she's married one time?

The general policy is that a living woman cannot be sealed to more than one husband (however, if she's a widow or civilly divorced she can remarry a second husband "for time"); in contrast, a living man (such as a widower or one who is civilly divorced from a first wife to whom he was sealed) can be sealed for time and eternity to a second wife. The legacy of polygamy that continues to this day in the LDS Church.
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Re: Mormon "doctrine" regarding widows

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SatanWasSetUp wrote:I put "doctrine" in quotes because I realize that much of the speculation regarding exaltation and the afterlife is pseudo-doctrine and logical conclusions based on real doctrine.

Anyway, regarding eternal marriage, it all makes sense if a man is married to a woman in the temple and they live out their lives faithfully to old age, then die. They go to the CK, gain exaltation, and live as man and wife forever. Great!

However, there are exceptions in life. What if one of them dies and the other remarries. D&C 132 allows for polygamy, but only in the case of men having multiple wives. Women are forbidden from having multiple husbands. I've heard that men can remarry if their wife dies, and if all were worthy during this life, the man will be sealed to both for time and all eternity, in other words, he will be a polygamist in heaven. Great!

But what about women? If a woman is sealed to a man in the temple, and he dies while in good standing, is the woman allowed to remarry in the temple and gain two husbands for time and all eternity? Or is she not allowed to remarry in the temple once she's married one time?


For women it's "one and out." Only one temple sealing per woman. I understand that for proxy work, if a woman had married more than once in her lifetime, she may have the sealing ceremony performed on her behalf with each husband, with the idea that it will be "worked out" in the hereafter (presumably she only picks one).
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the church changed this police 6 or 8 years ago. Now, if a woman is sealed to a man that dies, she may become sealed to another man.

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John Larsen wrote:the church changed this police 6 or 8 years ago. Now, if a woman is sealed to a man that dies, she may become sealed to another man.

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the church changed this police 6 or 8 years ago. Now, if a woman is sealed to a man that dies, she may become sealed to another man.


I have never heard of this with the exception of one woman claiming the first presidency can allow this under special circumstances with the understanding that the woman would be allowed one husband in heaven.

My understanding is....

If a woman is sealed in the temple and her husband dies, and she remarries she may not be sealed to her second husband.

After she is dead, others may proxy seal her to both spouses so she can pick in the next life.

I believe it is clear that the church teachings/doctrine/beliefs are that men may have many wives but a woman will only be allowed one husband in the CKHL!

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John Larsen wrote:the church changed this police 6 or 8 years ago. Now, if a woman is sealed to a man that dies, she may become sealed to another man.

You're incorrect. The current policy remains that a living woman may be sealed to only one husband.
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John Larsen wrote:the church changed this police 6 or 8 years ago. Now, if a woman is sealed to a man that dies, she may become sealed to another man.

John


Not so. A living women can be sealed to only one man, if he is dead she cannot be sealed to another man. This is in the 2006 GHBI.
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Post by _Polygamy Porter »

Jason Bourne wrote:
John Larsen wrote:the church changed this police 6 or 8 years ago. Now, if a woman is sealed to a man that dies, she may become sealed to another man.

John


Not so. A living women can be sealed to only one man, if he is dead she cannot be sealed to another man. This is in the 2006 GHBI.
Dude, you are violating your temple recommend interview interrogation by sharing such information with vile ANTI Mormons.
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Polygamy Porter wrote:Dude, you are violating your temple recommend interview interrogation by sharing such information with vile ANTI Mormons.


Why? There is nothing that says I cannot discuss what is in the GHBI. I certainly do not sympathize nor agree with you.
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