A Square Peg in a Round Hole

[_Mercury]

It sounds like you have raised your daughter well.

You are my hero!

Thank you, Mercury! I'm afraid I'm not very heroic, though, and would be a disappointment to anyone who viewed me as a heroine. If you'd like to think of me instead as just a good mother, I'd be extremely flattered.

KA

Good mothers are hero-worthy in my book.

[_Dr. Shades]

We both soon learned we each weren't what the other was expecting, . . .

YOU weren't what he was expecting? For the love of all that is holy, if you weren't good enough, what was he expecting? Miss America and Wonder Woman all rolled into one?

[_KimberlyAnn]

We both soon learned we each weren't what the other was expecting, . . .

YOU weren't what he was expecting? For the love of all that is holy, if you weren't good enough, what was he expecting? Miss America and Wonder Woman all rolled into one?

Dr. Shades, I think I was too much Wonder Woman and not enough Miss America.

I'm reluctant to disparage my husband, but I think he'd agree with me if I characterized him as a man who needs to be a hero. Within a week of marrying me, he learned I was much more capable than he imagined and more stubborn, too. Our first blow out was over a chess game played on my beautiful chess set, for which I begged and pleaded as a child and finally got for my thirteenth birthday. I beat him once and he seemed alright. He wanted a rematch, so we played again. I won a second time and he seemed a bit irritated. When it was apparent during our third game that I was again going to win, he got angry and knocked the chess set off the kitchen counter, breaking several of the pieces. That happened within ten days of our wedding. I learned right away that he really wanted a more timid and fragile woman and that he had a bad temper. But, he found out that I'm stubborn and strong willed. I've never allowed him to win at anything. In fact, he's never beaten me at any board game - ever. Since I know it bothers him, I make a point to beat him at everything, including the go-cart races we went to last week. I beat him every single race. I do it because he hates it so much. See? I can be mean if I want to be, but I swear he's got it coming every time. ;)

Other than beating him at games, I'm quite good to him. I work very hard to be a good wife and mother, and I think, for the most part, Tom appreciates it, though I don't believe I'm his ideal companion and he's probably not mine. But we love one another and are committed to our marriage. I still think he'd like me better if I were a staunch Christian, like him, and weren't so "smart" (as he sometimes derisively calls me) and stubborn. And if I didn't beat him at Risk. And go-cart racing. And chess. And Uno. And Monopoly. And Clue. And Battleship. And......... :P

Competitively and stubbornly,

KA

PS - I just noticed you are quoting me in your signature! I'm so flattered! How pitiful am I that it thrills me so? Thank you!!

[_Bond...James Bond]

Bond, he did in fact leave the house around ten o'clock and go to a late movie. I think those screaming, giggling girls were driving him nuts. What shocked me, however, is that my husband, a SUPER Alpha Male, went to see Hairspray, lol! He came home still laughing about it, so we're all going to see it this afternoon. I can't wait!

KA

Okay.....so the current male/female count at KA's house currently stands at women:6, men:0.

Dr. Shades, I think I was too much Wonder Woman and not enough Miss America.

I'm reluctant to disparage my husband, but I think he'd agree with me if I characterized him as a man who needs to be a hero. Within a week of marrying me, he learned I was much more capable than he imagined and more stubborn, too. Our first blow out was over a chess game played on my beautiful chess set, for which I begged and pleaded as a child and finally got for my thirteenth birthday. I beat him once and he seemed alright. He wanted a rematch, so we played again. I won a second time and he seemed a bit irritated. When it was apparent during our third game that I was again going to win, he got angry and knocked the chess set off the kitchen counter, breaking several of the pieces. That happened within ten days of our wedding. I learned right away that he really wanted a more timid and fragile woman and that he had a bad temper. But, he found out that I'm stubborn and strong willed. I've never allowed him to win at anything. In fact, he's never beaten me at any board game - ever. Since I know it bothers him, I make a point to beat him at everything, including the go-cart races we went to last week. I beat him every single race. I do it because he hates it so much. See? I can be mean if I want to be, but I swear he's got it coming every time. ;)

Other than beating him at games, I'm quite good to him. I work very hard to be a good wife and mother, and I think, for the most part, Tom appreciates it, though I don't believe I'm his ideal companion and he's probably not mine. But we love one another and are committed to our marriage. I still think he'd like me better if I were a staunch Christian, like him, and weren't so "smart" (as he sometimes derisively calls me) and stubborn. And if I didn't beat him at Risk. And go-cart racing. And chess. And Uno. And Monopoly. And Clue. And Battleship. And......... :P

Competitively and stubbornly,

KA

Holy crap....breaking a good chess set should be grounds for divorce.....any lawyer in the world could get you by on temporary insanity. Why have the good set out in the first place???? Everyone knows the only time you get the good set out is when a Grandmaster shows up on your doorstep. Otherwise you defer to the crappy wooden set. Jeez....newbies.

[_Dr. Shades]

Our first blow out was over a chess game played on my beautiful chess set, for which I begged and pleaded as a child and finally got for my thirteenth birthday. I beat him once and he seemed alright. He wanted a rematch, so we played again. I won a second time and he seemed a bit irritated. When it was apparent during our third game that I was again going to win, he got angry and knocked the chess set off the kitchen counter, breaking several of the pieces.

Now that's just wrong on so many levels. Well-adjusted, marriage-material adults simply don't act like that. You should've immediately went out and had the marriage annuled. I'm not kidding.

I still think he'd like me better if I were a staunch Christian, like him, and weren't so "smart" (as he sometimes derisively calls me) and stubborn.

WTF?? Okay, now I'm pissed off. Any man who calls a woman "smart" and means it as an insult is NOT marriage material. Am I right about that, harmony?

PS - I just noticed you are quoting me in your signature! I'm so flattered! How pitiful am I that it thrills me so? Thank you!!

You're welcome. You made a great point!

[_KimberlyAnn]

Bond, he did in fact leave the house around ten o'clock and go to a late movie. I think those screaming, giggling girls were driving him nuts. What shocked me, however, is that my husband, a SUPER Alpha Male, went to see Hairspray, lol! He came home still laughing about it, so we're all going to see it this afternoon. I can't wait!

KA

Okay.....so the current male/female count at KA's house currently stands at women:6, men:0.

HA! As it turns out, Hairspray was the only movie playing in the right time frame, so he decided to go ahead and see it because it starred John Travolta and watching Hairspray was better than being at home smelling it. Our whole family watched it last night and it was really good. I couldn't stop laughing!

Also, I should have known Tom was a macho man who had a hero complex. When I met him, he wasn't actually a Mormon. He was taking the discussions at the home of a friend. I joined the discussions and we had an instant attraction. He joined the church, partially because of me, and then left for the Marine Corps, which he had joined after his senior year in high school. He was a Marine, for goodness sake, I know what they're like, but I was so googly-eyed, I couldn't see straight.

I didn't see him again for almost six months, and when we did reunite, he was quite the patriarchal Priesthood holder, which is what I thought I was looking for. That was a big turn-on for a girl who had decided to be a stellar Mormon, so marrying him seemed like a no-brainer. I didn't realize the patriarchal nature of the church was probably a draw for him and his personality type. Being a Mormon also met Tom's strong need to be a part of a team, like the Marine Corps did. All in all, he was just what I thought I needed to be the perfect Mormon girl, but I didn't know what I was getting into, either by marrying Tom or by becoming the perfect Molly. Thank goodness I genuinely loved him and figured out the church was a fraud. I was uncomfortable as a square peg in a round hole!

KA

[_KimberlyAnn]

Our first blow out was over a chess game played on my beautiful chess set, for which I begged and pleaded as a child and finally got for my thirteenth birthday. I beat him once and he seemed alright. He wanted a rematch, so we played again. I won a second time and he seemed a bit irritated. When it was apparent during our third game that I was again going to win, he got angry and knocked the chess set off the kitchen counter, breaking several of the pieces.

Now that's just wrong on so many levels. Well-adjusted, marriage-material adults simply don't act like that. You should've immediately went out and had the marriage annuled. I'm not kidding.

He wasn't well adjusted. I didn't know that before I married him, though. But I loved him and wanted to help him become well adjusted. He's a lot better now.

I still think he'd like me better if I were a staunch Christian, like him, and weren't so "smart" (as he sometimes derisively calls me) and stubborn.

WTF?? Okay, now I'm pissed off. Any man who calls a woman "smart" and means it as an insult is NOT marriage material. Am I right about that, harmony?

Mostly Tom thinks I'm dumb about religious things. He just can't understand why I don't agree with his religious views. I let him have his. I wish he'd let me have mine. He's improving and keeping his religion-based criticism to himself for the most part, due to my refusal to interact with him when he starts his preaching. I've simply stopped listening and it seems to be working.

KA

[_Ray A]

WTF?? Okay, now I'm pissed off. Any man who calls a woman "smart" and means it as an insult is NOT marriage material.

If that was the case, Shades, there would be very few marriages left. Don't think it's all one way. I've come across some foul-mouthed, abusive women, firmly wearing the pants. I don't know how much you interact at any level with young teenage women today, but if this is your standard, then none, male or female, qualify for marriage.

[_Some Schmo]

Damn I love your story posts, Kim! Seriously. You have a way about you...

But I have to say that, although you'd likely beat me at chess, I'd kick your ass at Risk.

:)

[_Dr. Shades]

WTF?? Okay, now I'm pissed off. Any man who calls a woman "smart" and means it as an insult is NOT marriage material.

If that was the case, Shades, there would be very few marriages left. Don't think it's all one way. I've come across some foul-mouthed, abusive women, firmly wearing the pants.

Who "wears the pants" is a completely separate issue. Anyone who calls his/her significant other "smart" and means it as an insult is NOT marriage material. That has little to do with which partner is dominant.

I don't know how much you interact at any level with young teenage women today, but if this is your standard, then none, male or female, qualify for marriage.

Are you implying that there are none who do NOT call people "smart" and mean it as an insult?

But I have to say that, although you'd likely beat me at chess, I'd kick your ass at Risk.

Ever played Axis & Allies?