Zoidberg wrote:My statements about Brigham's wives, for instance, are based on his ex-wife's book. Of course, she's just an anti-mormon liar, and charity knows better than her what went on there even though Ann Eliza was there to witness it and charity wasn't. Of course.
Have you ever known anyone who was divorced to demonize the ex-spouse? Why don't you quote any of the wives who stayed with him. Different story, but then it wouldn't support your thesis.What about the testimonies of Joseph Smith's wives who said they've had sex with him?
A man can have sex with his wife. DUH. But, you know, I read Todd Compton's book and didn't see where any sealed wife made any such statement. Other people did. And one person said she was Joseph's actual physical child. But DNA has failed to prove that any of the claimed descendants were actually his. Pretty startling for a man who obviously was fertile. Emma had 10 children.Or the story with Fanny Alger which was referred to as a "dirty, nasty, filthy affair"? Of course, it's easier for you to think I'm projecting.
Oliver was pretty mad at the time, all right. And where does one man's statement add up to anything more than a headline on the National Inquirer? I don't take a stand on Fanny Alger. I don't know the circumstances. You don't either. It doesn't matter. As with all of us, if we sin we can repent. Isn't that a nice thought?And before you make a psychological assessment you should know the psychology you are basing your assessment on. In this case, you don't, so your assessment has no basis in fact.
Oh, don't I? I guess I'm making no sense when I hypothesize that indifference to sex or inability to achieve orgasm don't exactly help in the bonding between spouses department or feeling passionate, romantic love and desire for each other. If no romantic love is involved and the relationship is based more on other factors, such as mutual respect and common goals in bringing forth children, for instance, it would be much easier to accept the idea of your husband being married and eternally having sex with other women. Interestingly, Zina D. Jacobs Smith Young said: "a successful polygamous wife must regard her husband with indifference, and with no other feeling than that of reverence, for love we regard as a false sentiment; a feeling which should have no existence in polygamy."
An argument from presentism. Do you think Zina had the right or the ability to speak for every other plural wife? I hope all married people enjoy their sex lives. And your descriptions of anything Brigham Young tought or did are so far from correct. Harmony is saying on another post, how people on this board don't m ake judgements and assessments about people. You stop doing that about the prophets, and I won't hold your feet to the fire.
How are they far from correct? As I have said, I'm basing my opinions on an account of an eye-witness. And she's not the only one who's ever said that BY had favorite wives he slept with often and wives who fell out of favor after he married someone else.
Yep. The bitter ex-wife. A really reliable source. I don't know what Brigham Young's feelings were his different wives. It might have had a little to do with the wife? Maybe some were not very much fun to be around. I have seen some women in monogamous marriages who drove their husband to staying late at the office and golfing 3 times a week. Maybe these poor guys would have had easier livee if they had a more pleasant wife to spend time with if the other one was unpleasant.
Sorry for the gender confusion. I didn't think a woman would use a disrespectful representation of the female for an avatar.
Talk about inablility to understand symbolism. It's a symbolic representation of the disrespectful treatment that women have received from society throughout history that reduces them to their reproductive systems. The LDS Church is continuing to contribute. And I think it's great art. Even Chaos from MAD liked it despite asking me to remove it. To avoid offending people like you, I'm sure.
I guess art is in the eye of the beholder. I don't find it pleasant. But it is your avatar. At least you were on notice from Chaos that there might be something about it that people could find offensive.Okay. so you are female. And since you have a husband, ask him if he would like it if you were to hug, kiss, etc. attractive males, and then try to convince him it was non-sexual. If he would accept that, he must be very naïve.
I've hugged my male friends in front of him and I don't think he suspects any dirty intentions on my part there. I think that tabooing any physical contact or interaction with everyone of the opposite sex except your spouse after you are married is where projecting repressed sexual desires really takes place.
Hugging. Kissing? Where exactly would your husband draw the line? But that's beyond the point because I was talking about two single people who feel attraction towards each other kissing and hugging. I guess I should have made it explicitly clear that I mean one single person with SSA hugging/kissing/complimenting another single person with SSA, not a married person. Silly me to think it's understandable it's implied.
Hugging and kissing between two people who are attracted to each other, same sex, hetero sex, is SEXUAL. Hello! I taught Human Sexualty courses, 1 per term, for 10 years. Of course, people have prejudices. It is part of our hard wiring. A way to protect our own group and genetic pool. We have to work really hard not to think in us vs them terms. But you will find very few churches or other groups who have taught as consistently against bias than we have. Joseph Smith urged religious tolerance. (And got back none in return.) And if you want to talk about racial bias, try looking at southern churches to this day. Segregated for the most part.
The LDS Church was segregated in terms of who was allowed to go to the temple and who wasn't until fairly recently.
1979. My math says that is 28 years ago. In Portland, OR right now, there are still "black" churches. No whites. No integreation. But in every LDS ward, we have congregations based only on residential area. And that was true when all southern Baptist churches were segregated by rule. If you were black, you were not allowed to attend a white church. Who was more racist?.
It also disapproves of intermarriage. Of course, the excuse given now is that you are more likely to be compatible with someone from your own racial background *rolls eyes*. If background mattered so much, why did americans marry British converts during the time BY was threatening everyone who "mixed their seed with the seed of Cain" with death on the spot?
Too bad that most sociologists don't agree with you. Successful marraige is a pretty difficult thing to accomplish. Every little bit helps. And please don't forget that the differences in culture between American and Britain were not that great. That is such a lame argument. Divorce for non-Hispanic white couples, first marriage is about 30%. Divorce for mixed race, is closer to 50%. And this in these supposed enlightened days.Saying "All the critics of the Book of Mormon will eventually be proven wrong, so we can be pretty open-minded" is not indicative of any bias. At all. After all, you identify yourself as an open-minded person.
I don't understand your point here.charity wrote:Agency yes. Consequences of those choices, no.
And what would be the super-harmful consequences of two people being legally married if they are already living together anyway? All the excuses given about harful influence on society and children I've heard are pretty lame.
We think the living together is harmful. If it is sin, it is sin.Do you complain that the existence of the 10 commandments violates people's beliefs? Gosh, don't steal. Now, isn't that limiting all those people who want to take your property? And how about the commandment not to committ adultery. What a put down for all those people who want to cheat on their spouses. I don't see a difference.
I see a difference. An individual is sovereign of their body and property. Their consent is required for manipulating either. In the case of infidelity, cheating is harmful because it violates the agreement between the spouses and betrays trust. I do think that consensual open marriages are ethical, however. There is a difference.
Yep. Consenusal open marriages are sin. When you get to be god you get to make the rules. But until then, well, you don't. Sorry.Jesus spoke against homosexuality Himself.
He did? Where?
Leviticus. Jesus is the one who gave the Old Testament law to Moses. It is called "an abomination."