I think it is time to update your guide and add the following about Internet Mormons verses Chapel Mormons. Feel free to add and/or modify.
Gladly.
These additions are for Internet Mormons:
#1. The refusal to believe that issues or problems suffered by Ex-Mormons have occurred in the LDS Cult.
Modification number 1-The LDS Church is not a cult.
Internet Mormons rationalize issues or either outright denies such events have or could ever occur.
Modification Number 2: Rabid critic embellished event. Event may or may not have happened. Rabid critic extrapolates it to be the norm.
If the Internet Mormon actually believes the event took place, he/she rationalizes that it was a “rogue” Bishop or Stake President and was not in harmony with the Cult.
See Modification 1 and 2 above.
Modification number 3: Rabid critic marginalizes internet Mormon's anecdotal experience as much as rabid critic thinks interet Mormon rationalizes rabid critics experience.
Internet Mormons refuse to believe that there is wide spread problems with top-down canonized “law” (or CHI rules). Mormon Stakes vary greatly from Stake to Stake depending upon the religious zealotry of the leaders. Innumerable Mormons have suffered at the hands of untrained “Called of God” men who then lead, instruct, teach and otherwise have the “mantel” of “authority” over their congregations.
Modification Number 4: Internet Mormons concede that at times some leaders make mistakes, can exercise unrighteous dominion and are human. Internet Mormons have as much experience in the Church as rabid ex LDS critics and in some cases more experience. They see no reason to extropolate the anecdote of the rabid critic to the church as a whole. See modification number 2.
Internet Mormons are often quoted as stating, “You are wrong”, and “We don’t teach that.” “It isn’t in the CHI.” Or best one yet, “It was your fault.”
Modification Number 5: At times rabid critics are actually wrong, at times the Church does not teach that and at times it is not in the CHI. At times the internet Mormons are wrong.
Internet Mormons expect the discussion to be ended with the statement, “It isn’t in the CHI” or “I’ve never seen it happen.” Often they are closed to investigation.
Modification number 6: rabid critics tend to distort what internet Mormons actually say.
Cases in point:
#2. Propensity to blame the Ex-Mormon for believing “faith promoting rumors” as true fact – and to blame the Ex-Mormon for not understanding that “information” concerning their Cult was available to them if they had only “looked” for it.
I actually agree with this one. How about that!
Mormons are counseled to obey and believe every word that proceeds forth from the mouth of their leaders. This can cause sever cognitive dissonance among members who must believe what Cult leaders have instructed or taught even in light of modern scientific evidences. Any Ex-Mormon who brings up the Faith-Promoting Rumor are immediately attacked by Internet Mormons as being “idiots” (and other such names, see Bourne and Nehor) for not knowing the difference. Internet Mormons often disregard the golden rule of “Obedience is the first law of Heaven” that their Cult teaches.
Daniel C. Peterson remarked on this very issue by stating that evidences surrounding such things as Seer Stones or multiple wives of Joseph Smith were available and it was the fault of the member for not looking into such information. The blame is always laid at the feet of the member or Ex-Mormon, and not directly at the source. Internet Mormons refuse to bring into evidence the current Cult teaching manuals that avoid such issues as polygamy, seer stones, head in the hat, teenage brides, racial statements and more. These omitted items keep current members from looking outside of the Cult for answers as the majority are not even aware such items exist.
Modification Number 7: Rabid critics often do not read what some internet Mormons are saying and continue to put words in someone'e mouth that was never said. by the way, what is Faith-Promoting Rumor? And once again, I for one, understand the concern about finding things out that were not taught openly. THis is one of my biggest complaints.
#3. Propensity to blame Ex-Mormons for being sub-standard members which in turn caused them to leave the Cult.
Ex-Mormons are referred to as “crappy members” as Internet Mormons must rationalize why a person would leave the so-called “One and Only True Church on The Face Of the Earth™”. Mormons who have the same issues with the Cult yet are still active members are not held in the same respect.
This one at times does have merit.
#4. Insistence on the fact that Ex-Mormons are “Angry”, “Bitter”, “Hateful”.
Any Ex-Mormon, or non-Mormon who does not agree with the doctrine of the Mormon Cult is seen as “Hateful”.
Modification number 8: Rabid Ex LDS critics are often angry and hateful. Not all but some. The ones that are, like you, should not complain when it is so noted. Any rational outside observeer would read how you post and conclude that you have some major anger and hate issues against the LDS Church.