Does the Church believe this...?

[_harmony]

If indeed your are a righteous person will you attract a righteous mate? If you surround yourself with righteous people are the chances better that you will have a righteous wife?

Righteous does not equal pretty.

[_Yoda]

If indeed your are a righteous person will you attract a righteous mate? If you surround yourself with righteous people are the chances better that you will have a righteous wife?

Righteous does not equal pretty.

Of course, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. A righteous woman is, indeed, beautiful to God.

Unfortunately, a lot of 19 year old boys don't view beauty from the inside.

I think that there needs to be more emphasis on this. I think that young women do have a responsibility to be clean and well-groomed. But not everyone can look like Keira Knightley or Natalie Portman.

[_LDSToronto]

My bishop told my brother that he would get a beautiful wife by serving a mission.

When he left his mission (early) his MP told him he would have a horrible life and an undesirable wife.

So, yeah, this does appear to be a belief of the church and some of its members. I was dumbfounded when I heard it because of the implications you mention. It is a very stupid teaching.

I've seen the women my RM friends have married. They aren't all hot.

H.

[_UnicornMan]

Isn't it amazing the web our religion creates around us?

Cultural Norm: Girls are taught to marry returned missionaries. Men are taught that they will have "better pickings" if they serve a mission.

Result: Men who do not serve missions are lower in the pecking order.

Doctrine: Wives are told they will not have exhaltation unless they marry in the temple, and their husbands stay faithful.

Result: Men with subsequent faith issues after marriage often lose their marriages. Or they reluctantly stay active.

Doctrine: Parents who do not baptize their children by the age of 8 are under God's condemnation.

Result: Kids get baptized Mormons without necessarily believing it, parents get pressure when the kids are 8 to do it.

This is all fueled by the desire for the organization to grow, regardless of the needs of individuals.

[_harmony]

Isn't it amazing the web our religion creates around us?

Cultural Norm: Girls are taught to marry returned missionaries. Men are taught that they will have "better pickings" if they serve a mission.

Result: Men who do not serve missions are lower in the pecking order.

And heaven forbid that a BIC male marry a convert female. Good God, the universe will simply fold in on itself!

Doctrine: Wives are told they will not have exhaltation unless they marry in the temple, and their husbands stay faithful.

Result: Men with subsequent faith issues after marriage often lose their marriages. Or they reluctantly stay active.

Try that the other way around and let me know how it goes.

This is all fueled by the desire for the organization to grow, regardless of the needs of individuals.

This organization doesn't care diddly about the needs of the members. Members have no needs separate from the needs of the organization. And we're reminded of that every 6 months, when there is no updated financial report.