Koda Crest wrote:All in all, this experience just this week has given me a perspective on missions. And even though the church says men don't have to go on a mission, the pressure from church members, family, and even the occasional girlfriend who overlooks his feelings, is so immense, that he serves is so massive, that in all reality, he is forced to anyway. From now on, I'm going to tell young men not to go unless they want to, without any pressure affecting their decision. I'm sick of this feeling that I sent off someone to something they weren't ready for, didn't want to go on, and shouldn't have gone on.
Oddly, this statement seems to assume that young men don't have free will.
When I was a bishop, and I'm sure many bishops are the same, I'd tell a young man not to go unless he felt the Spirit pulling him that direction. Then I'd urge him to get the Spirit.
But, in the end, a 19-year-old has the free will to go or not to go, to lie or not to lie. Nobody is forcing him. If we were on a Catholic or Jewish board, we'd be having a similar conversation about the guilt imposed by family and religion to adhere to societal norms.
When a friend of mine wanted to come home from the MTC, I was put on the phone with the MTC president who told me that "a Mission is not a prison. We invite them to stay and tough it out, but beyond that we don't try to persuade them to stay. He is free to go as he chooses."