Same Sex Marriage - UK takes a step forward...

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palerobber wrote:i have to disagree with you a little here schreech. i don't think subgenius pulled that (false) statement out of his backside, i think it came straight from his heart.

i think that the anti-marriage crowd holds as the earnest and fervent desire of their hearts that gay couples will prove to be bad parents. just look at how much money they gave Regnerus, and not even to deliver the goods but just to give them something they could point to and fool some people with. if gays are not bad parents, then they really have nothing left with which to rationalize their emotion/religion based bigotry, and they know it.


Heart, backside - when it comes to self-appointed defenders of the Mormon religion...I don't see a huge difference.

The fact that he said "the overwhelming majority of studies that conclude with same sex couples being less effective and less beneficial for a child when compared to the child's biological parents" when the only thing he had ever read that supported his bigotry was the Regnerus study, leads me to believe that most of what he says comes straight out of his backside. He has not let me down - his posts continue to show what a complete ignoramus he is...His idiocy knows no boundaries and I thank him for continuing to post.

He seems to be a complete tool who believes whatever he is told believe by the right wing media and the PR firm that manages LDS talking points...I would love it if he just admitted that he just doesn't like homosexuals - it would make this entire discussion so much easier as we wouldn't need to show him how ignorant he is and we could just concentrate on discussing why he chooses to be an overt bigot...
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palerobber wrote:except that wasn't your original point stated.

you weren't content to merely claim that "the best environment for a child is with both of its biological parents". that would have been at least technically true, though misleading in the context of this thread. because, as Brad has pointed out, it's only the "best" among those household arrangements which have been studied thus far. and there hasn't yet been a single study looking at the outcomes of children raised throughout childhood by a same sex couple (the Regnerus study had a sample size of two in this category, and didn't even release isolated data for those two -- no doubt because they had relatively positive outcomes).

what you actually claimed is that "the overwhelming majority of studies that conclude with same sex couples being less effective and less beneficial for a child when compared to the child's biological parents." as i predicted, and as subsequent discussion on this thread has shown, you can't name even a single study whose data supports that claim, let alone show an "overwhelming majority".

by the way subgenius, should we take your post quoted above to mean that you are now retreating to the technically-true-but-misleading position?


1. the claim that biological parents are the best
2. the claim that other parents are less than biological parents (ergo...less than the best)
1 and 2 are not mutually exclusive.

So, one could easily substitute "any other circumstance" for "same-sex couples" in the my above statement.
Additionally,
each study listed previously...and on other threads prior...when a person actually takes time to read them, actually support that claim....they even support the claim i made about lesbian couples having a rather high rank...not as high as biological parents...nor as high as married biological parents...not quite the "best"...but up there.

So, as you, and others, would try to avoid the actual issue and make the feeble attempts to parse out some "qualifier", there is yet even more support for my claim.
The fact that there is not one study....ever...which concludes that same-sex couples are the best for children...or that same-sex couples are better than biological parents. One can not even cite a reputable study that has same sex couples being as good as biological parents.
That being said...does this mean we only permit biological parents keep children? of course not....but the point has been about what society strives towards, what society holds as a virtue...and thus what society is willing to endorse, encourage, and reward.

The reasoning thus far given to allow for same-sex parenting/marriage disassembles any notion of family structure to some abstract non-civil entity. It simply allows for anyone to be married...there is no cause to deny a sterile Grandfather from marrying his granddaughter or for a Mother to marry her daughter...and for all of them to receive government funding specific to their condition (tax deduction, property rights, etc..).
Yet to argue that a Man and his own son can be afforded the same legal rights afforded to a marriage is equivalent to "separate but equal" is as absurd here as it is with same sex marriage....to that end the argument for same-sex marriage cannot distinguish itself from NAMBLA, sterile incest, or a host of other mutations to an otherwise virtuous social institution.
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schreech wrote:...(snip)...I understand. Now how about you show us a few of the STUDIES you mention here:

"the overwhelming majority of studies that conclude with same sex couples being less effective and less beneficial for a child when compared to the child's biological parents"

keyword = literacy
viewtopic.php?p=683615#p683615

Perhaps you can find these more digestible (from previous posts you have no doubt ignored)

"Caring, involved fathers exist outside of marriage. They are more likely, however, to be found in the context of marriage. There are numerous reasons for this, not the least of which being the legal and social norms associated with marriage that connect a father to the family unit. That may also explain, in part, why research consistently shows that the married mother-and-father family is a better environment for raising children than the cohabitating (living together) mother-and-father family"
https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/userm ... tertwo.cfm

Children who grow-up in any other family form — single-parent family, divorced, step-family, or cohabiting parents – don’t do as well by up to half in these measures compared to children living with their own married mother and father.

"Said another way, none of the changes to family form over the last four decades has improved any important measure of child well-being, and no evidence to date indicates that same-sex parenting would be an improvement on any of these other forms."
http://factsaboutyouth.com/posts/are-ch ... advantage/

Nevertheless, these descriptive comparisons suggest that marriage promotion may help to improve the wellbeing of children.
http://www.urban.org/uploadedpdf/311025 ... ucture.pdf

There is no fact that has been established by social science literature more convincingly than the following: all variables considered, children are best served when reared in a home with a married mother and father.
http://narth.com/docs/gendercomplementarity.html

http://www.jstor.org/discover/10.2307/3 ... 1725383281

http://www.scu.edu/ethics/publications/ ... stody.html

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/sites/default/fi ... an2010.pdf (pages 5 through 25)

http://www.un.org/en/documents/udhr/ (article 16)
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subgenius wrote:1. the claim that biological parents are the best
2. the claim that other parents are less than biological parents (ergo...less than the best)
1 and 2 are not mutually exclusive.

So, one could easily substitute "any other circumstance" for "same-sex couples" in the my above statement.


Logic fail.

This is the deception that lies at the heart of Subgenius's argument. You can't substitute "same-sex couples" for "any other circumstance" unless one has actually done a study that compares "same sex-couples" with "biological parents." Subgenius also flat out ignores the study he cited that points out that the average outcomes for adoptive married parents are the same as for biological parents.

I'll write more later when I have some time, but that is why is whole argument is fallacious. When you compare gay children of gay parents to those of straight parents on an apples to apples basis, the outcomes are comparable. The primary effect on children of permitting couples of the same sex to marry will be to extend the benefits of the marriage relationship to thousands of children currently being raised by gay and lesbian parents.
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subgenius wrote:Image


You continue to amuse me.

I especially like the "keyword = literacy" thing while you keep linking us to articles that don't support your claim that there are "studies that conclude with same sex couples being less effective and less beneficial for a child when compared to the child's biological parents". I am guessing that you didn't read any of the articles you linked to considering none of them say what you claim they say.. Dude, we get it, you don't like the idea of gays getting married because the god you choose to follow (who seems to want to communicate through a bunch of geriatric LDS corporate executives) has told you that homosexual marriage is wrong. Just admit it. There are no scientific studies that support your bigotry.

Its even funnier to me that the articles you linked to say things like:

"By contrast, the current debate over same-sex marriage is not anchored in sound research, and data on the consequences of children being brought up by same-sex couples remains scarce. Same-sex couples with children constitute a new form of household that has not been carefully studied. Nor has the objective of this policy discussion been clearly defined as the interest of children or the future of the nation's families."

...which completely destroys your make-believe views.
"your reasoning that children should be experimented upon to justify a political agenda..is tantamount to the Nazi justification for experimenting on human beings."-SUBgenius on gay parents
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schreech wrote:Its even funnier to me that the articles you linked to say things like:

"By contrast, the current debate over same-sex marriage is not anchored in sound research, and data on the consequences of children being brought up by same-sex couples remains scarce. Same-sex couples with children constitute a new form of household that has not been carefully studied. Nor has the objective of this policy discussion been clearly defined as the interest of children or the future of the nation's families."

...which completely destroys your make-believe views.


Brilliant.
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Just to keep our discussion in context, the question being discussed is whether extending marriage to same sex couples is a step forward or a step back. The particular proposition that we are examining in that context is the following claim made by Subgenius:

The simple example is how same-sex relationships currently impact family law combined with the fact that the overwhelming majority of studies that conclude with same sex couples being less effective and less beneficial for a child when compared to the child's biological parents.
(emphasis added)



Despite his claim, Subgenius has not cited a single study that concludes that same sex couples are less effective and less beneficial for a child as compared to a child raised by biological parents. Not one. The first rule of understanding what a study says is that a study can't study what it doesn't study. Seems simple, but people (including Subgenius) forget that. And not one of the studies he cites claims or attempts to compare the outcomes for children raised by same sex couples with children raised by biological parents. Not. One.

What Subgenius does is take statistics from studies that don't examine the question at issue and apply them to same sex parents. The problem is, as reading any study in this field will show, there are all kinds of correlations and possible causations that affect all of the different variables. Teasing out what is important (everyone agrees income/wealth is significant) is very difficult. And if we are going to extrapolate conclusions from one study to a group that has not been studied, we have to be very careful to make sure we a making apples to apples comparisons.

The second thing to keep in mind is that we aren't talking about extending the child-parent relationship to gays/lesbians. Gays and lesbians already parent millions of children in the U.S. https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/f_gay/f_gay.cfm We're talking about whether to extend marriage to same sex households. And if you believe that children of married parents do better than children of cohabiting parents, then you should already be wondering why it makes sense to withhold the benefits of marriage to those millions of children being raised by gay and lesbian parents.

So, on to Sub's specific arguments in his last response to me. I'll leave it to the reader to puzzle out which of us ignores the facts.

on the notion of married vs. unmarried
"Research suggests that children in cohabiting families are at higher risk of poor outcomes compared to children of married parents partly because cohabiting families have fewer socioeconomic resources and partly because of unstable living situations."
http://www.clasp.org/admin/site/publica ... s/0086.pdf


Again, this is a policy paper that did not evaluate any differences between same-sex households and opposite sex households. But it does say that children raised by married parents fare better than children raised by cohabiting parents. This is an argument FOR extending marriage to same sex households, allowing a class of cohabiting parents to become married parents.

here is your conveniently omitted clarification of what you surely thought was a "score" above
"Since many children raised by gay or lesbian parents have undergone the divorce of their parents, researchers have considered the most appropriate comparison group to be children of heterosexual divorced parents."
http://www.clasp.org/admin/site/publica ... s/0086.pdf


Not sure what Sub's point is here. Note that what the quote doesn't say is that children who have gone through divorce are better off with straight parents than gay parents. All it says is we need to treat like to like. As we know that divorce is associated with negative outcomes for children, we can't compare children of non-divorced opposite sex parents to children of divorced same-sex parents.

and then finally (for the win)....the most revealing conclusion....that is inclusive of all sexuality and circumstances....
"Research indicates that, on average, children who grow up in families with both their biological parents in a low-conflict marriage are better off in a number of ways than children who grow up in single-, step- or cohabiting-parent households."
http://www.clasp.org/admin/site/publica ... s/0086.pdf


That Sub sees this as a "win," simply demonstrates that he doesn't understand (or doesn't want to understand) what he is reading. Again, he ignores the first footnote of the paper is is citing from:

The reference to biological parents is to distinguish between biological/adoptive parents and step-parents. Most studies that include data on adoptive parents include them in the biological-parent category. Adopted children have very similar outcomes to children raised by both biological parents. Zill, N. (1995, May 10). Adopted Children in the United States. Testimony before the Human Resources Subcommittee of the House Ways and Means Committee, U.S. Congress.
(emphasis added)

In other words, biology has nothing to do with it. Childen of adoptive parents do just as well as children of biological parents. Again, this argues for extending the marriage relationship to same sex parents so that the children they are raising experience the benefits of marriage just as children of opposite sex parents currently do.

Now to Regnerus's study. If you want to understand why the study is useless for drawing conclusions about gay parents v. straight parents, you can read a good dissection of the study here. http://www.boxturtlebulletin.com/2012/06/10/45512 Or, you can just look at the graph that Sub copied. Note the categories: BIF, LM, GF. What is being compared? BIF=Biological Intact Families. That category only includes biological parents that did not divorce while the child was being raised. Placement in the other two categories was based on the answer to this question:

“From when you were born until age 18 (or until you left home to be on your own), did either of your parents ever have a romantic relationship with someone of the same sex?” Response choices were “Yes, my mother had a romantic relationship with another woman,” “Yes, my father had a romantic relationship with another man,” or “no.” (Respondents were also able to select both of the first two choices.) If they selected either of the first two, they were asked about whether they had ever lived with that parent while they were in a same-sex romantic relationship. The NFSS completed full surveys with 2988 Americans between the ages of 18 and 39.


Get it? LM (Lesbian mothers) and GF (gay fathers) include divorced parents. And the vast majority of the LM and GF categories consisted of divorced parents. What Regnerus didn't do is compare Intact Biological Parents with Intact Gay Parents and Intact Lesbian Parents. What the data does suggest is that the "intact" part is important -- not the straight v. gay part. Again, the implication is that, if one is sincerely interested in the welfare of children, one should advocate for helping gay parents keep their relationship intact by extending marriage to those relationships.

And the sad part of what Sub cited is this:

61% of children of lesbian mothers reported themselves to be "entirely heterosexual"
90% of children of Intact Biological Family reported themselves to be "entirely heterosexual"
71% of children of gay fathers reported themselves to be "entirely heterosexual.
This data strongly supports the conclusion that nurture has a large effect on sexual preference and discredits the claim that people are born gay.


Yep. What's really going on here is Sub afraid that "teh gay" is catching. Is it really surprising that children raised by a gay or lesbian parent would tend to see shades of gray in sexual attraction as opposed to a black and white division? The fact that being raised by a gay or lesbian parent results in a more nuanced opinion about sexual attraction says nothing about whether the attraction itself is biological in nature.

Sub cited some new stuff this morning that I'll go through later. In the meantime, here's a study that did compare same sex adoptive parents to opposite sex adoptive parents. http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archi ... ts/263893/

ETA: Subgenius complains that I've ignored his other arguments. I don't think that's accurate. However, it makes no sense to evaluate his claims about "experimenting with children" until we have an idea about what the studies to date would say about such an experiment. Frankly, I doubt Subgenius actually cares about "the children" -- his hatred of all things gay simply oozes from his posts. If he really cared about "the children," he'd be advocating changing same sex cohabitants into same sex married couples.
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Brad, that's an excellent post, thanks for contributing to the thread.
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Brad Hudson wrote:Just to keep our discussion in context,...(snip)..

yet you entirely, and continuously, avoid that context.

1. LGBT friendly criticisms of a study = valid LGBT unfriendly support of study = invalid ....got it!
2. Scientific verification of study = invalid, Your dissection of study = valid ... got it!
3. Criticism (yours) of poster(me) as opposed to actual post = valid ...
4. Science, common sense, and tradition support the claim that "A" is the best, so it must certainly be incorrect for anyone to state that "B" is not as good as "A"....got it!
5. Your claim that a "lack of apples" for LGBT parents surely justifies that your position is correct = valid....My claim that "lack of apples" for historicity of Book of Mormon justifies that my position is correct = invalid ...got it!
6. As per my original claim...step forward has still not been proven and is likely to be a step backward.
7. Funny how my position of not supporting same-sex marriage must certainly be "bigoted" and "hateful" to you...but your position just seems stupid, ill-informed, and not based on a shred of common sense or virtue. The irony is that your posts seem to display more hate, intolerance, and bigotry than any i have ever posted.
8. Frankly, your armchair analysis above contradicts most reputable science and competent thought.
9. Your own citation about "millions of children" above further states "Nonetheless, social workers and even some gay men and lesbians considering adoption wonder if it is in the best interest of a child to be raised by homosexual parents. " a concern not found when considering heterosexual parents.
10. your claim "This is an argument FOR extending marriage to same sex households"...illuminates your post's lack of comprehension of the posted studies. Cohabitation, same-sex or otherwise, as a precursor to marriage is found to be detrimental to the majority of marriages. And since data has already been provided for the overwhelming preference of LGBT for cohabitation when given the opportunity to marry....
11. The point about divorce...your reference about millions of children living with LGBT parents is primarily due to the fact that one of those parents is the biological parent and mostly divorced the other biological parent. Thus their sexuality (or rather retardation of mature sexual development) has created the detrimental condition for the child.
12. The adopted children reference...how come when a study makes a claim detrimental to the LGBT position you raise the "apples to apples" flag? but when a study makes a claim that could support your claim, there are no apples to be found? For example, you claim that since "adoption" has very similar outcomes to "biological parents" that adoption must surely be extended to LGBT parents? All the study has found, because of your often reminded "available data", is that opposite sex married couples produce similar results. Not an endorsement of LGBT anything.
13. You also revise studies and facts to mean something else...posts like yours and Drifting's always rely on the phrase "what that really means"...for example you take the phrase "similar outcomes" to mean "just as well". 2nd place is a very similar outcome to 1st place, but it is not "just as well".
14. You are grasping at straws on the Regnerus study. The facts are abundantly clear when one reads it. Just because you post criticism from LGBT sources does not negate the fact that peer reviews have validated the conclusions and the fact that this study does not endorse LGBT. Your post's strategy seems to be like an argument using FOX news against MSNBC and vice versa.
15. Wow, your reference to the Atlantic article is so unbiased...forget that Peplau has openly supported GLAD, likes to sell books, is steeped in spoon-fed California liberalism, is gay, and is much like someone using Dr. Phil as support. Nice science there...try again.

Bottom line...your circular reasoning that children should be experimented upon to justify a political agenda, of which there has yet to be offered any reasonable or rational justification, just to "prove it" one way or another is tantamount to the Nazi justification for experimenting on human beings.
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Yesterday, Sub cited a new list of sources. Let's take a look....

"Caring, involved fathers exist outside of marriage. They are more likely, however, to be found in the context of marriage. There are numerous reasons for this, not the least of which being the legal and social norms associated with marriage that connect a father to the family unit. That may also explain, in part, why research consistently shows that the married mother-and-father family is a better environment for raising children than the cohabitating (living together) mother-and-father family"
https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/userm ... tertwo.cfm


That's exactly the argument for extending marriage to same-sex parents: it allows replacement of cohabiting parents with married parents.

"Said another way, none of the changes to family form over the last four decades has improved any important measure of child well-being, and no evidence to date indicates that same-sex parenting would be an improvement on any of these other forms."
http://factsaboutyouth.com/posts/are-ch ... advantage/


With this quote, Sub has moved away from citing studies to citing anti-gay propaganda sources. factsaboutyouth.com is a website created by the American Pediatric Association -- an anti-gay fringe group of pediatricians. Researchers have complained that the website misrepresents the contents and results of their research. You can read about them here: http://www.boxturtlebulletin.com/2010/04/05/21620 and here http://www.truthwinsout.org/pressrelease/2010/04/8136/ and here http://www.huffingtonpost.com/alvin-mce ... 27772.html.

Nevertheless, these descriptive comparisons suggest that marriage promotion may help to improve the wellbeing of children.
http://www.urban.org/uploadedpdf/311025 ... ucture.pdf


Exactly! We should promote marriage by extending it to same sex couples so that they can be married parents.

There is no fact that has been established by social science literature more convincingly than the following: all variables considered, children are best served when reared in a home with a married mother and father.
http://narth.com/docs/gendercomplementarity.html


And this is NARTH, an anti-gay fringe group of psychiatrists. They believe homosexuality is a mental disorder that can be cured. You might remember one of their (former) all-stars: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/05/0 ... 65142.html

http://www.jstor.org/discover/10.2307/3 ... 1725383281 Remember upthread when Sub argued that marriage is either about children or property? Here he cites a nice study that concludes that marriage, in and of itself, is a beneficial relationship for the married couple. So I guess there's more to it than kids and property after all. I say, if marriage is beneficial for people, let same sex couples have access to those same benefits.

http://www.scu.edu/ethics/publications/ ... stody.html This is an article about child custody decisions, which advocates placing children in a stable family. I agree! Let's create more stable families by extending marriage, which results in more stable families, to same sex couples.

This is a study of child abuse and neglect. It doesn't tell us anything about child abuse or neglect families where parents are of the same sex because it doesn't break same-sex parents out as a separate category. Even worse (from an analytical perspective), it puts adoptive parents and foster parents in the same category, so we can't even compare neglect and abuse in adoptive families with neglect and abuse in bio families.

http://www.un.org/en/documents/udhr/ This is the U.N. Declaration of Human Rights. As it was written in 1948, it's not surprising it doesn't specifically address rights of homosexuals. It is ironic, however, that Sub would cite it as the basis for denying human rights.

That's it. Still no study that backs up his claim.
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