I can't agree with you that people that leave Mormonism having once been converted, and having a certain amount of light, are in the same state as people that never had that light, who weren't supposed to ever get that level of light in mortality. The people from whom the light is withheld are in that state for a deliberate reason that the Lord knows about their mortal mission that would necessitate it. The people that leave Mormonism have broken covenants, and are responsible for that, and can never be in the same position as those who never made them, and never knew that level of light.
The main point of my arguing that you don't know about the fate or experience of those that left is precisely that, you don't know, you just have an idea. You claim to believe in a Christ that has full knowledge of our intents and hearts and that are judgement will be according to how he sees us taking upon his mantle ("That means that he has viewed your behavior and your intent and judged it..." your words). All I am suggesting is that you as an outsider between this relationship between the person and Christ CANNOT know their heart.
This is why I think it a bit insensitive (and premature) to cast the judgement you have. As someone so sure of your relationship with Christ, it seems odd that you would try to denounce someone else's just because it doesn't fit your narrative.
I also don't really see anyone here "making excuses" for their "state" (state of what?, I don't know what you mean here). All of the stories I have read on this site, and the former Mormons I have known in real life have gone through long, arduous journeys that often cost them considerable time, money, relationships and a fair bit of suffering. They all have ended up in drastically different positions; atheist to Evangelical to Buddhist. I feel perhaps one of the reasons you may receive some hostility on this board is because you are so flippant in your regard to their thoughts and ideas, i.e. your comparison between them and alcoholics (yes I know some of the members of the board are just asses, but most are not).
I will be happy to let you have the last word in this, I believe I have said my peace.