Rino wrote:Can I ask an honest question? Why?
Poor planning, youthful arrogance, FOO issues, and an inability to come to terms with how badly my marriage was hindering me.
I was 18 when I started the classics major and thought, at the time, I would go the MA-PhD route and teach. I believed all of the 80s / 90s Kool-Aid about how you can do anything you put your mind to, believe in the power of your dreams, play some "Dreams" by Van Halen in the background, blah blah blah. I started the master's track at TEDS still believing I would do that.
Midway through my master's, I got cold feet. At this point I was watching friends pursue the MA-PhD track, and most of them were struggling to find steady work. They were absolutely brilliant---not those idiots whose ability to have earned a PhD is astonishing---yet they were still traveling all over the country, pursuing adjunct work and having to switch jobs every 1-2 years. I realized that, even if I finished a PhD, I couldn't uproot my daughter every 1-2 years like that. Not with her disability.
I then decided to do an MDiv after my MA and pursue chaplaincy (which had better career prospects). That's part of the reason my MA took so long; I was taking classes to apply towards an MDiv at North Park. But we decided to try for baby #2 as I was (I thought) wrapping up my degree at TEDS. Our daughter was 6 and I felt like, if I waited for everything in my life to be perfect, the time was never going to be right. Unfortunately, my husband started his (emotional?) affair with his Mormon co-worker a few months after I got pregnant, then effectively abandoned us. I managed to wrap up my TEDS classes for good, but put the completion of the thesis on hold so I could return to work and take care of my daughter and unborn child. I almost certainly would have finished the MA in 2013 had my husband been financially and emotionally supportive during my pregnancy.
I don't consider my BA and MA to be "useless" though; I'm qualified for a number of promotions with my current employer simply because I have those, regardless of what they're in. I start a promotion later this month. I actually haven't given up on the dream of doing an MDiv and chaplaincy, but will be waiting until my children are older. What I tell the young people is to get some variety in their bachelor's degree. If you do a BA in liberal arts, do your minor in business, etc.
I have been dating my current BF for a little over a year now; where I go from here (and when) really depends on whether it works out with him.
I've never blamed "the Patriarchy" (a phrase that I have never used in my life!) for me having a liberal arts BA. Women in patriarchal religions are sometimes counseled to get a bachelor's degree "just in case" something happens to their spouse, but otherwise become stay-at-home moms. What I have tried to point out is that you will have a really, really hard time returning to any career path after many years out of it, so this advice is junk.