The DoubtingThomas dating / relationships MEGATHREAD

[_Jersey Girl]

What do you like to do in your spare time?

Good question. I like to do research.

Well there's your problem. You're a giant snooze fest. Do you go to a lab or study group at least? You know where there are other actual live human beings?

Look in the restricted section?

Sorry. I'm having a moment over here.

[_DoubtingThomas]

You are too obvious, DT. You want young and beautiful, or older and wealthy. Why?

Because I am trying to enjoy life. I am not a very happy person right now.

Has it ever occurred to you that women are people with brains and feelings? Not just toys to be played with or used?

I am a nice guy and I would never play with a woman's feelings. There is nothing wrong to want to date someone attractive, in fact dating someone attractive can help your mental health.

Well there's your problem. You're a giant snooze fest. Do you go to a lab or study group at least? You know where there are other actual live human beings?

Look in the restricted section?

Sorry. I'm having a moment over here.

Hahaha! You are right. I sometimes feel I am not on planet Earth.

[_Dr. Shades]

There is nothing wrong to want to date someone attractive, in fact dating someone attractive can help your mental health.

Look in the mirror. How attractive are you? That's as attractive a person as you can expect to date yourself.

[_Lemmie]

You are too obvious, DT. You want young and beautiful, or older and wealthy. Why?

Because I am trying to enjoy life. I am not a very happy person right now.

Has it ever occurred to you that women are people with brains and feelings? Not just toys to be played with or used?

I am a nice guy and I would never play with a woman's feelings. There is nothing wrong to want to date someone attractive, in fact dating someone attractive can help your mental health.

Ok. Then just go up to a woman you consider attractive and that is an acceptable age, and without knowing anything else about her, tell her that you would like to date her 1) because you are unhappy right now, and 2) because dating an attractive woman would allow you to enjoy life, and 3) because it would improve your mental health to date an attractive person. Then tell her you are a nice guy who would never play with a person's feelings. See what response you get. Have a lot of cash on hand, because the women who accept your request will expect that.

Also, if her personality turns out to be less than desirable, focus on her looks. She is just there for that, right? If she loses her looks in a few years, make sure you haven't made any commitments to her that will cost you money. That way, you can move on to the next attractive woman who will accept your cash.

[_Dr. Shades]

And another thing:

You're apparently approaching this with only one thing in mind: Your own wishes. What you want.

Well, what will you bring to the table that will make the type of woman you want to date want to date you? In what ways do you plan to be superior to any of the other men who are wanting to date her?

[_EAllusion]

You don't have to believe in "soul mates" to think that lasting romantic partnerships are fulfilling. You come off like a sociopath when you talk like you've been DT.

Everyone here appreciates that you want to date attractive women and that you think that this is what will make you the most happy. Finding your writing creepy isn't the result of a failure to understand this. It's the result of how you reduce prospective partners into what they can give you in terms of body or wealth. You are aware that people actually care about the personalities of people they date, right? That this isn't a slick line people say to get laid, correct?

[_Doctor CamNC4Me]

DT,

You're alright. Here's what I recommend before you worry about a mate:

1) Become independent, whatever that entails for you, in that you can support yourself, in your own place, with your own stuff, and with a steady paycheck due to a career or vocation that has upward mobility.

2) Get a plant or two. Raise and tend them for a year or two. If they flourish due to your interest, care, and curiosity about them then you...

3) Get a pet. Same as before, learn how to take an interest in the pet, be engaged with it, care for it, and craft a relationship with it. Do this for a while. If the pet flourishes then you...

4) will just attract a gf.

- Doc

[_canpakes]

DT, do you like movies about gladiators?

[_DoubtingThomas]

Also, if her personality turns out to be less than desirable, focus on her looks. She is just there for that, right?

I think most women are attractive, I would say around 65%. I am not asking for much.

without knowing anything else about her

I simply want to date a beautiful girl. I am a guy that can easily fall in love. Obviously I wouldn't want to date someone with a bad attitude or a criminal history.

If she loses her looks in a few years, make sure you haven't made any commitments to her that will cost you money. That way, you can move on to the next attractive woman who will accept your cash.

I simply want to be happy now and I want to remember my happy experiences when I get old and ugly. There won't be a second chance for me. Life is short and there is probably no god.

Look in the mirror. How attractive are you? That's as attractive a person as you can expect to date yourself.

I am no Chris Hemsworth, but I am not ugly. I am still a little bit overweight, but I am making progress in losing weight.

In what ways do you plan to be superior to any of the other men who are wanting to date her?

Are you saying I should date someone that I don't find attractive? Well I got news, I have done that before.

You are aware that people actually care about the personalities of people they date, right? That this isn't a slick line people say to get laid, correct?

Women do and I am a very nice guy. Obviously I wouldn't want to date someone with a bad attitude. So I like extraterrestrials and artificial intelligence and I don't expect to find a girl with the same interests.

That this isn't a slick line people say to get laid, correct?

I am aware, but it is very easy to get laid with women in their 30s and 40s.

[_DoubtingThomas]

DT,

You're all right. Here's what I recommend before you worry about a mate:

1) Become independent, whatever that entails for you, in that you can support yourself, in your own place, with your own stuff, and with a steady paycheck due to a career or vocation that has upward mobility.

2) Get a plant or two. Raise and tend them for a year or two. If they flourish due to your interest, care, and curiosity about them then you...

3) Get a pet. Same as before, learn how to take an interest in the pet, be engaged with it, care for it, and craft a relationship with it. Do this for a while. If the pet flourishes then you...

4) will just attract a gf.

- Doc

Okay thank you. But how do I find them? Do I go to a bar or something?