R.I.P. Dear Ember

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R.I.P. Dear Ember

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We lost a dear family member today. :sad: Our 19 year old cat, Ember, finally gave up the ghost. Just a couple of months ago, the veterinarian was very pleased with how well she was doing for a 19 year old cat. She was still rather spry for her age and easily leaped up onto back of our couch to stare out the window at birds outside frequenting our bird feeders, including the hummingbird feeder. She was a beautiful tortoise shell cat almost entirely black all over with little orange highlights in her fur, reminiscent of a burnt out coal with a few embers still glowing, thus the name we gave her. She was very standoffish for most of her life towards everyone but my daughter. She shied away from everyone else, even family members, and hissed and batted away anyone else who tried to touch or pet her, and ran and hid in the back of the house whenever we had guests. However she loved my daughter, who could manhandle her and cuddle her in any way, and even dress her in funny costumes without hardly a hint of protest.

One of her favorite games when she was young was to hide upstairs in my daughter's bedroom, waiting for my daughter to find her and bring her downstairs for her nightly cat treat. This was an evening ritual. If my daughter was too tardy in finding her, she would come to the top of the stairs and give a brief meow, and quickly disappear. My daughter would then go and find her and carry her down the stairs, purring all the way, to get her daily, before bedtime treat.

In later years, however, she mellowed and tolerated attention from the rest of us as well, and even began to crave it. A couple of months or so ago, she even let my two year old granddaughter pick her up and carry her without protest, which surprised all of us. In the last month or so, she became visibly weaker, and had more and more problem getting to the litter box on time. She ate very little, and seemed to want little more than to be cuddled and comforted. A couple of days ago the vet examined her and found tumors in her belly area, and that her kidney function was very low. They did not think she would last much more than a couple of days. She was very weak, but didn't seem to be experiencing great discomfort. This morning, she slowly faded away as her heartbeat perceptibly slowed and stopped, while being lovingly cuddled in my daughter's lap. We think (hope) she experienced a relatively painless death while knowing how much she was loved and appreciated. We will miss her!
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What a generous and loving tribute to a life well lived, Gunnar. Our furry family members leave such an indelible mark on us. I so appreciate that Ember had a special relationship with your daughter. She took her last breath loved. That is what I call the final note of a life's symphony. That is perfection, my friend.

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I'm sorry for your loss. Having a 12 old cat myself I enjoyed your reminiscing as I think about my cats habits and interactions with the grandkids. I'm glad your cat went in such a loving way. I dred the coming day for us.
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I loved the story of the nightly ritual with getting a treat from your daughter. Those events become part of the daily rhythm of life, and there is an ache when it stops. But I hope you find comfort in knowing that Ember had a pretty good life: 19 years with a loving family, and to leave this life in the arms of someone you love.
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What sweet stories about the games Ember played with your daughter! So sorry for your loss, but thank you for sharing. May the memories give comfort.
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Thank you all for the comments. I hoped some of you would find value in the story of her life and death.
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Jersey Girl wrote:What a generous and loving tribute to a life well lived, Gunnar. Our furry family members leave such an indelible mark on us. I so appreciate that Ember had a special relationship with your daughter. She took her last breath loved. That is what I call the final note of a life's symphony. That is purrfection, my friend.

My heart is with you,
Jersey Girl


Gunnar,

Thanks for sharing your story. I'm very, very sorry for the absence Ember has left in your home. I'm also very, very happy for you and your family that you enjoyed her love and presence.

We lost our kitty a week ago in a terrible accident and, man, when you love your furry family member you feel the loss acutely. I hope you and yours heal quickly.

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MeDotOrg wrote:I loved the story of the nightly ritual with getting a treat from your daughter. Those events become part of the daily rhythm of life, and there is an ache when it stops. But I hope you find comfort in knowing that Ember had a pretty good life: 19 years with a loving family, and to leave this life in the arms of someone you love.

Yes indeed! We all took comfort in that she apparently faded away comfortably in no great agony. The vet offered the option of euthanizing her when she saw how close to death Ember obviously was at her last examination, but didn't think it was necessary to go that route because Ember didn't seem to be in any great agony. We are glad we didn't take that option. The final bonding with her as she slowly faded while making eye contact with her special person was precious to us.
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Doctor CamNC4Me wrote:
Jersey Girl wrote:What a generous and loving tribute to a life well lived, Gunnar. Our furry family members leave such an indelible mark on us. I so appreciate that Ember had a special relationship with your daughter. She took her last breath loved. That is what I call the final note of a life's symphony. That is purrfection, my friend.

My heart is with you,
Jersey Girl


Gunnar,

Thanks for sharing your story. I'm very, very sorry for the absence Ember has left in your home. I'm also very, very happy for you and your family that you enjoyed her love and presence.

We lost our kitty a week ago in a terrible accident and, man, when you love your furry family member you feel the loss acutely. I hope you and yours heal quickly.

- Doc

I'm sorry to hear about your kitty. The loss is more tragic when it cuts short the life of an active, beloved pet. With us, we at least had the consolation that our cat had lived a long and well cared for life before her demise. It was not unexpected, and we were well prepared for that eventuality.
No precept or claim is more likely to be false than one that can only be supported by invoking the claim of Divine authority for it--no matter who or what claims such authority.

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